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| My daughter is 14 1/2 months old and started hitting me. I know she pick ed it up from some where but I'm not sure how to stop it. Does any body have any ideas? I would appriate it, Thank you. |
| Posted by Anne on 06/26/2008 11:23 AM
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HI there, I am wondering the same thing. Her doc says its normal for babies to hit out. They don't know what they are doing is wrong, which is our job.
We can't hit back, because then its a "do as I say, not as i do" behavior, which is confusing.
I was wondering why you think, or should I say, where, do you think she picked it up? because mine does it, and she is not around other babies other than my girlfriend's babies and I've never seen their kids do it.
I think since we are born self-centered and selfish, its something that has to be worked out with the parents and caregivers. What I have been doing is grabbing her hands as soon as she does it, and say no very firmly, not yelling but in a assertive enough voice that gets her attention, not my normal mommy-talky voice. She has got better since I have done that. Slapping their hands, or spankings doesn't send out the right mesage, in my opinion. Can you imagine if someone smacked us when we did something wrong that we didn't know was wrong or why it was?
I'd like other suggestions too!
Thanks!
Kaulana |
| posted by Kaulana on 06/26/2008 02:05 PM
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| My daughter never hit till I joined a play group and there are a couple of kids there that hit, one of them hit my daughter on the head. She started hitting after that. We try telling her no but then she thinks it is a game.I was thinking about trying time out when she hits. She got a very sad face last night when I explaned it and showed her the chair and hasn't hit me since then(we'll see how long it last). |
| posted by Anne on 06/26/2008 04:10 PM
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I am sort of unsure about the time out chair. One, we don't have a chair for something like that, so maybe it would have to be a corner of the room, or something. But I can see her crawling right away from that, and it would seem more trouble to get her to stay, which would lose the effectiveness of why I put her there in the first place. What do you think?
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| posted by Kaulana on 06/26/2008 05:17 PM
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Also, what do the other mom's do in the playgroup when their kids hit?
If they do nothing, then maybe it is time to switch groups, as crappy as that can be, but bad habits rub off quick, you know?
What did you do when your daughter got hit? |
| posted by Kaulana on 06/26/2008 05:18 PM
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We had trouble with our daughter hitting when she was around that age. They say that kids hit because they are frustrated at not being able to get their point across. When my daughter would hit we would start to cry and tell her that it hurt and wasn't nice. That seemed to help some but what really helped was figuring out what she was upset about or trying to tell us. Now that she is 2 1/2 she never hits because she can tell me what she wants. Good Luck
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| posted by Heather on 06/26/2008 09:49 PM
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well if she does it again, put her down, that if you are holding her. tell her NO! Explain to her why? like for example: you hurting mommy, you don't hit in the face or well you have your own reason... and just walk away. i know it sounds nasty,
but she needs to learn that what she did was wrong. and you won't allow... she cry may even have a tantrim, leave her tell she calms down or till she wants you...then go down on you knees infront of her so the you have eye contact on her level and tel her nicely or in a nice & calmed voice, that she can not hit & it is wrong & it's not nice... ask her "are you going to do it again?" i'm sure she'll say no and then just hug her and
say good or use you own way & words...
i hope that this will work for you... regards Angie |
| posted by Angelique on 06/27/2008 08:30 AM
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The other moms are right there to deal with there kids.
If we try to tell her no she thinks it is a game and starts patting. She doesn't cry when she gets in trouble for it, even if we put her down, she smiles and looks between me and my husband. But thank you for your ideas I will keep trying differant things and see what happens. |
| posted by Anne on 06/27/2008 02:52 PM
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