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| Hi, my son will be 9 months next month, he is not sleeping at night. And now he gets up in the middle of the night and thinks its time to play! He wakes up as much as 10 times a night, and some days he is up at 4 am and ready to go! I can't take it anymore. I need some sleep! Any advice would be great! I have a routine at night, you know the same thing every night before bed...to an extent. He is well fed and doesn't want to eat at night, he just wakes up. I have made the mistake of letting him sleep with me for the most part, and now I am trying to get him to sleep in his crib. I know he is capable of sleeping all night because he's done it before, before we moved into our new place (which was in Jan.!!) he's slept all night in his crib once. But not since. And now he wakes up and thinks its play time at 2 am! PLEASE HELP! |
| Posted by Suzie on 06/25/2008 02:10 PM
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I know this is going to sound like an impossible thing to do...but, here it is. Don't respond. If you want him to sleep, stay away (unless he's sick or hurt, of course). I'd go to him once and tell him it's "sleeping time" or "ni-night" or whatever you call it and to lie down and go back to sleep...softly and tenderly laying him down and shhhushing him. Then leave and don't go back in...no matter what! He probably will not go to sleep, but you have to get sleep, so don't give in!! Eventually, he will get the idea (and it may take a week or two at the longest) that you aren't coming in and it's not play time and it's actually kind of boring by yourself...etc, etc.
Gosh, I can't imagine how hard it will be, but I think that if you help him this way to understand how it is supposed to go down at night time, then you'll be doing yourself and your little night owl a HUGE favor! |
| posted by Kelly on 06/25/2008 02:16 PM
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I went through the exact same thing when my son was nine months hold. He just started waking up every two hours. I spoke wiht my pedi about his need to eat at night, and our doc said that after six moths, they don't need to eat at night. He also told me that babies have to learn to put themselves back to sleep, and that our son would wake up and want to eat or play until he learned this. I was opposed to crying it out because I didn't want to hurt my son. My doc said it was a personal choice either way, but he was living proof that if you don't let them learn now, you'll be paying the price for years. His son didn't start sleeping though the night again until he was three and a half!
With that bit of info, I decided not to go in to Connor's roomw when he cried, and I stuck to it. It only took two nights before he got with he program, and now everythng is great. Don't get me wrong, it was hard the first night because he still woke up every two hours, but he only cried for two to three minutes.
Good luck! |
| posted by Liz on 06/29/2008 11:09 AM
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| My son is 3 months, and sleeps through tha night....I'm not bragging.lol. But seriously, I keep him up during tha day, if he dozes off, I know it's mean, but I wake him up... |
| posted by lisa on 07/07/2008 12:53 PM
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| Hi, I have a 7 month old who has starting waking up again in the middle of the night. I wait a minute to go to her, cause sometimes it is just a quick cry and she is back asleep. If it continues, I go to her. She has been teething, so sometimes she needs to be held for a couple minutes. The new thing is she seems to get "stuck" doin something she has just learned to do, like sitting up, so I go lay her back down and she is fine. When I do go to her, I keep the room dark and don't say much, so I am not encouraging her to wake up. Hope that helps..... |
| posted by on 07/09/2008 12:12 PM
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I so feel your pain. My husband and I just bought a house and before that, our son slept in the same room with us. He had been sharing our room for 16 months. Needless to say, when he woke up during the night, the fasting way to get him back to sleep was me getting up and rocking with him. At his 12 month check up, the doc said that he was still getting up because he didn't know how to fall asleep on his own. He also suggested the CIO method and I was really against it, but after 12 months of not getting a full nights sleep, I was willing to try anything. It also only took him 2 nights before he realized what the deal was. And before we started it, I was also rocking him to sleep everynight. Now I can put him in his bed and he's out for the entire night. He may cry at the beginning, but it's more of a "I don't wanna go to bed" and he's done before I get to the living room.
The one thing our doctor told us was never to pick him up if he got up during the night. If you want to hold him, fine but don't pick him up. Kneel next to the crib or lean over so he can hug you, but keep his feet touching his mattress. Granted, after 20 minutes of leaning over, I wanted to feel my back again, so i picked him up, but if he was crying for that long, then it was generally his teeth and we gave him some motrin to help with it.
However, since we just moved, he's started getting up again at nights. Usually right around 3am, but we've only been in the house for 2 weeks and he's never slept all night on his own. During the first week, he would get up twice a night, this week he was getting up once a week. There have been times where I wake up to go to him, but he's already asleep before I get out of bed. Most of the time, I just go in there to make sure he's alright. I'll give him a hug and as long as everything is fine, I'll lay him back down, tell him it's sleep time, and leave the room. He may cry for a minute or so, but he's usually out rather quickly. He just needs reassurance that we're still in the house and nearby if he needs us.
I hope this helps. |
| posted by Jaxon on 07/10/2008 08:59 PM
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| I highly recommend the book 'Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child' by Dr. Weissbluth. It was a God-send for me. It truly gives GREAT techniques for having a child that naps regularly and sleeps through the night. |
| posted by Christina on 07/11/2008 08:00 AM
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| Unfortunately it sounds like you haven't tried the 'cry it out' approach. My son was sleeping through the night at 3 months because my husband and I had had enough of the late night rendevous. We let him cry it out, got him a 'noisemaker', and we haven't looked back since. It took him about a week to get it but now we have a heavenly sleeper (sleeps 4 hours during the day and 12 hours at night). |
| posted by Heather on 07/14/2008 09:01 AM
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| Hi Suzie, I have an 7 months old going on 8 and I'm having the same problem, I've tried all that I can and was told and still no luck, another thing we share the bedroom and I can't sleep in noise, I can let her gry it out but I can't sleep in noise, she's a breastfed baby and takes nothing else, believe me I've tried, I want to sleep so bad, I'm a ghost. She wakes up after 20 mins and starts playing after finally settling down at 2 am, she stands in the crib then let go fall on her bum and laugh thinking its a game and its so funny. I've had it up to here with her, I was told that it would get better after 3 months now its been 7 months I'm still waiting, if there's any changes I'll let you know. good luck with your baby. |
| posted by nel on 07/14/2008 01:09 PM
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