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| I totally understand the whole house picked up, but not clean thing! Terrible, huh? I don't have time for anything and my husband is tired when he gets home from work and I realize he deserves some time off in the evenings, but holy cow- I NEVER leave work!!! Great to hear your thoughts... |
| posted by Erin on 06/20/2008 11:41 AM
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| I hear ya!!! On any given day I am up at 5 and by 9am I have done more than I used to do in half a week. This stay at home mom with a 5 month old is the most difficult job I have ever had. Does it get easier??? |
| posted by Marya on 06/20/2008 12:26 PM
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Hi Guys!
Thanks for taking the time our of your busy schedules to let me know that I'm still sane =)
I do think that when you have infants, life is tougher because they are so dependant on you for everything. Victoria is 2 1/2 and very helpful. Logan is 14 months and since he's been walking and is able to get things that he wants and needs it's given me a bit of a break. But then on the other hand, it poses a whole new set of challenges -
I do feel the pressure (mostly from myself) that if I'm home then I should be able to get this stuff (cooking, cleaning, laundry, gardening etc...) done - but most of the things that we do aren't visible.... The hugs, love, teaching, discipline, and changing the 6 stinkies a day. I do tell my hubby that I pretty much spend all day maknig sure the house doesn't look like a tornado went through it! He knows I try my best.
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| posted by Char on 06/20/2008 12:55 PM
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| That is so true!! And we can be so hard on ourselves and it is a lot of work... and this job is the only one that if you slack on it, it only effects you and the fam!!! Also just giving you more work anyway if you slack a little!! Crazy huh??? Like I have this wonderful quality about me that when things need to be done I cannot function until they are... messes and undone chores eat at me until I fix them, yes it is great...not really!! It is nice to connect with moms who feel the same :) |
| posted by Samantha on 06/20/2008 02:10 PM
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| It is refreshing to know others feel this way too. I have 2 kids (4 and 1) and after working full time for the last 5 years I have decided to stay home with my kids. After my daycare nightmares I decided it just isnt worth it anymore to go to work. However, I do miss the adult interaction. Which is why I began searching for websites like these. Look forward to reading more!! |
| posted by Michelle on 06/20/2008 03:03 PM
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YEA for adult interaction =) It's nice to have the opportunity to talk to someone in the double digits. I know that the hubby is tired when he gets in, but boy, it's refreshing to chat about things outside of a one and two year olds vocabulary, which is why I've been checking in with this site.
Does anyone else have kids that are close together in age? Mine are 15 months apart and get along pretty well. They do have thier "moments" but I think I'm pretty fortunate so far. |
| posted by Char on 06/20/2008 03:48 PM
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| I find that I focus on one room to clean a day and pick up the rest of the house helps to keep it clean. And for those who have babies really close together there is a samll support group called Irish Twins. Becasue being a mom of babies close in age is an entirly different experience. |
| posted by DB on 06/24/2008 12:52 PM
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| I hear you Char although i consider myself to be a stay at home mom i am not i work monday though friday from 4am till 9am to make some extra money. My daughter it going to be 2 in a month and she does help me. But my house is never clean the way i want it to be and i used to try to keep it that way but it was just to much work. my husband is working full time and is very tired when he gets home from work at midnight and he falls asleep and i dont want to ask him for help so i do it mostly by myself. my house is decorated but i do regret it as my daughter took a hammer to my snowglob collection while her dad was watching her and i now lost the collection and he lost his hammer for leaving it lay out in her sight. We are also planning on moving with in the next three months so i am trying to pack up some things a little at a time so i dont have to do it all at once. and today i was thinking to myself i wake up at three and i am up working till ten at night i am so exausted i find my self falling asleep all the time. i used to be able to doi it better when my daughter took a nap but she dose not take them any more and now i am trying to potty train her and house train our puppy all at the same time. so i am very tried and the dishes are piling up and the garbage needs to be takin out but i am doing my best and the way that i see it is if you dont like some dirty dishes and a garbage bag of garbage in the can then you dont need to come over. my house is not filthy but is is not super clean. i just dont have enough time in the day any more. |
| posted by JAIMIE on 06/24/2008 08:05 PM
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| This is the new chapter in my life! I am exhausted at the end of the day, I have an almost 7 month old and she is moving around now, so I have to constantly watch her, which makes cleaning near impossible. And people are asking when we are gonna have another?!? Some days I wonder what it would be like to go out to work again, but I really enjoy being home. For the most part, my husband understands when it has been a rough day! |
| posted by on 06/26/2008 11:14 PM
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Hey Everyone!
You all sure have alot on your plate also =) Today has been one of those rougher days. Ended up waking up to my youngest (Logan, 14 months) at 4:30 in the morning and it didn't seem to be for any particualr reason. (no stunkies, no chothing twisted) probably just missed me and decided to have me be on beck and call =) My husband came down the steps and told me he heard Victoria (2 1/2) reading out loud. So I went up to get her and her door was opened (this is a first)..... both of her dressers had all the drawers open, clothes everywhere AND one drawer was completely pulled out. I think she attempted to climb up and the dresser actually fell over (Keep in mind all the drawers were opned so it was kind of tilting forward). She didn't appear to be hurt. I made her hand me all the clothes while I folded them and put them back. I then took both dressers out and stuck them in a closet. So, question is - how long do these dressers stay in the closet so that she realizes that this is not acceptable? Does anyone elses kid do this and how do they deal with it. She's aways been so good (still is) but I'm guessing this is another phase that I have to push through. |
| posted by Char on 06/27/2008 02:08 PM
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I have not had a problem with drawers being pulled out, but other similarly annoying problemsI. My 3 1/2 year old son began eating toothpaste recently when he was in there for time-outs. So we have to put the toothpaste on a really high shelf that I can barely reach myself. And I'm thinking, how long do we have to have the toothpaste in such a weird place? He only eats the expensive toothpaste, made for babies and about 3.00 a bottle.
We then moved time-out to our bedroom, to avoid toothpaste eating and soap-smearing problems. Then he locks himself in the bedroom and I have to have my husband come home to dismantle the lock. I could go on and on! (with "how long do we have to...") |
| posted by Angie on 06/27/2008 10:03 PM
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I do the same thing you do, DB. I made a little schedule of what cleaning duties I get done on each day. That helps me to look at a simple task day to day rather than a long overwhelming list.
I love being a SAHM but I also wonder some days what it would be like to be a working mom. I respect all mothers, no matter their choice of staying home or working. We all have the same goal in mind, doing the best for our kids and family.
Do any of you ever feel really lonely some days? |
| posted by Christen on 06/28/2008 08:57 PM
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Absolutely!! I do feel lonely some days but those days are counteracted by the "knowing" that I haven't missed all those things that I stayed home for, like thier first roll-over, first steps, first conversation. Also, I remind myself that this is more for them then for myself. I sometimes describe it as fun as "watching paint dry" =)
I do have friends and family somewhat close by, but most people work during the day. So I try to have it be where the weekends are fun and activiities are planned. For example, yesterday we took the kids to see Wall-E and today we're going to a playdate over a friend's house that has a pool. So during the week it gives me something to look forward to.
As for the house - I'm taking the advice that I read about just cleaning one room a day and keeping the rest starightend out. I also do one load of laundry a day and even if it doesn't get folded and put away that day, at least it's clean!! |
| posted by Char on 06/29/2008 09:45 AM
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