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| Do step parents have any legal rights around the kids? My husband has two boys who live with us most of the time. They are with their mother on Wed nights and every other weekend. But because she is their biomom she has a significant say around all sorts of issues. MD aps, school... I take care of these kids every day, I love them and want the best for them. They love me too and feel safe and happy in our home. I am sick of their mother swooping in at the last minute and making uninformed, harmful and disruptive decisions about their lives. It scares and confuses the kids. Is there anything we can do? I wish I could adopt them, but I don't think that's possible. My husband has been to court to get sole legal and physical custody, but the judge feels "children need a mother". The problem with that is they have two mothers, the one that had them and the one that raises them. Any suggestions? |
| Posted by Meg on 06/10/2008 03:47 PM
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| I think you fall in that grey area. Legally I do not think you have many rights, you might want to talk to an attorney in your area, because laws change from state to state. From my understanding when both parents have custody they both can make legal decisions. I do know that you can fill out certain forms at school and doctors offices so that you can make those decisions too. My suggestion for you is to try to mask your own reactions as much as possiable, my guess is that they look to you for approval of disapproval. When you become concerned they become concerned. Children are great record keepers, when they get older they will do the math and figure out who had their best interest at heart. They will also thank you for helping them still have their mom in their lives even if she wasnt doing her job right. |
| posted by Lisa on 06/10/2008 06:43 PM
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