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| My son won't sleep the whole night in his crib. He did for the first couple of weeks, but now he'll stay there until he wakes for a bottle, and will cry afterwards until I bring him to bed with me. I've tried just going in and comforting him, patting his belly and what not, and he'll be fine until I leave the room, when he starts screaming again. I know he just wants his mommy, but I don't want him to get used to sleeping with me, it will be soooo hard to break that habit!!! Any advice ladies? |
| Posted by Jasmine on 05/09/2007 09:16 AM
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| Try rocking him bacl to sleep until you know he is passed out then lay himback in his crib. That is what I had to do with my daughter until she got use to it. Now she goes to bed with no problem I lye her down and within two minutes she is passed out. Good luck. |
| posted by naomi on 05/09/2007 09:35 AM
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| How old is he? If he's over 6 months old you just have to be firm with him, I think, no matter how hard it is on you. It will be so much easier now than when it becomes a habit later in life and he is more head-strong. My suggestion would just be to put him to bed in his crib AWAKE, so he knows where he's falling asleep and doesn't wake up and freak out later. If he wakes up for a bottle, and you feel like he really needs to have it, give it to him very briefly and put him back in the crib. He might cry and cry, and you can go in and reassure him if you want, but eventually he will realize that it's not an option to sleep anywhere other than his crib. I know it's hard...it was hard for me to do too, but after that week of setting those boundaries for my daughter we all started sleeping through the night, which was awsome! Good luck!!! |
| posted by Briana on 05/09/2007 10:11 AM
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| He is only 6 weeks old...I've always been told not to let babies "cry it out" until they are past 4 months |
| posted by Jasmine on 05/09/2007 03:32 PM
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| some people say it is okay others are against it. You do what makes you feel comfortable. My daughter is 8 months old and some time I still sing to her and rock her before she goes to sleep. I love her and she doesn't ge tto fussy when other people put her to sleep. I have only been away from her one time when she went to sleep before I got home. She did okay except she didn't eat before she went to sleep like she usually does. But like I said do what makes you comfortable. I didn't let her cry when she was that young I would tend to her, And to tell you the truth I let our daughter sleep in our bed until she was 4 1/2 months old. She slept fine the first week I put her in her crib. Good luck. |
| posted by naomi on 05/09/2007 05:34 PM
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"Studies have shown that most babies who are left to CIO don't cry less, but rather they cry in a more disturbing way and cling to parents more and take longer to become independent"
"You go against your own biology when you consciously desensitize yourself to your baby's signals and shut down your instinctive responses."
"When no one responds to baby's cry the baby has two choices: He can cry louder, harder, and produce a more disturbing signal, hoping desperately that someone will listen; or he can give up and become a "good baby" (that is, a quiet baby)and not bother anyone"
"What goes out of a baby that is left to cry is trust: trust in his ability to communicate and trust in the responsiveness of his caregivers"
-Dr. William Sears
There are so many resources out today that can give you alternatives to CIO. I recommend anything by the Sears doctors and also The No-Cry sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley.
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| posted by Lori on 05/09/2007 10:19 PM
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| I found a wonderful book called How to solve your childs sleep problems by Dr. Ferber. It really worked for me and my child. I was wondering how old your child is. Most children start to sleep through the night on their own within the first 3 to 4 months. A child under this age cannot sleep through the night and they need to be comforted during these wakings in order to establish trust also a full night of sleep is to long for them to go without feedings. He has a method called the progressive waiting approach in which you pick a consistent sleep time and then put your child awake in to their crib. If he cries you check him briefly at increasing intervals. For instance you let him try to comfort himself for 3 minutes you then go to him and comfort him without taking him out of the crib. This way he knows you are there for him. You do this for 1 or 2 minutes then leave the room and only come back after 5 minutes. You keep doing this process until they are asleep. This can take several days, but it well worth it and everybody wins. Your child develops ways to get himself to sleep without props and you are able to replenish yourself. I love Dr. Ferbers method because he respects families and has chapters dedicated to diffenent rearing practices such as co-sleeping. This book also helps with children's sleep problems all the way up to age 12. The book can give you a much more detailed view. If you don't think you can let him cry it out at all I suggest anything by Dr. Sears. It's really up to what you feel comfortable with as a parent. Good Luck! |
| posted by Andrea on 05/10/2007 12:47 PM
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| My husband swears by tickling my son's face. You just take one finger and stroke his chheks and forhead and down his nose, etc. I read somewhere to let them cry for about 10minutes and if they don't fall asleep, go back in and tell them they have to go to bed like a big boy/girl... and then try waiting 5minutes longer than the time before. I only go in if my son has a whaling cry like he's hurt or something. You can also try giving him some juice, my son seems to thirsty at night and giving him juice has gotten him to go to sleep. Does your son have a night light? I got a himidifier that has a night light so it makes a watery type design on the ceiling. If my son is squiming, I tap the humidifier so that the reflection moves on the ceiling, so he will lay there and watch the ceiling for a while. |
| posted by JEN on 05/10/2007 02:24 PM
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| He will get better as he gets older...but I know that you would like it to improve now. Try Harvey Karp's book "The Happiest Baby on the Block". It has a lot of good advice. |
| posted by Reji on 05/15/2007 04:34 PM
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Jasmine
how is he sleeping now?
my girls did not sleep through the night till almost 4 months and I don't think are expected to till then, no matter how much you need them too. This is what our pedi told us about sleeping ... they have the habbit of getting up for bottles, even though they may have dropped some feedings. He said if it's NOT a feeding than just go in and soothe her and let her know you are there but don't pick her up, as that will create a new habbit that is harder to break. We did start reducing their bottles from 4ozs to 2 in the middle of the night to wean them off feedings. We picked one feeding we felt they weretrying to drop and did it then and Since my girls are twins, just putting my hand across them was enough (to feel someone close) to get them back to sleep, you will find what works for your son. It may seem like it will never end, BUT trust that is usually does. i was told once that it takes 3 days to create a new routine and just 1 to break it. So be consistant and take a weekend and say this is all I am going to focus on, to nail down ... that is what I did for my girls and in no time my twins were sleeping through the night (8pm-7am)
I am trying to remember at 6wks ... I think they were doing 10pm - 1am and then 4am, so I feel for you, but it can be done
GOOD LUCK
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| posted by Colleen on 05/16/2007 08:59 AM
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I swear by the Fisher Price ocean wonders aquarium. It gives you options for music, lights and motion, so you can experiment with what works for your child.
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| posted by Marcia on 05/17/2007 07:53 AM
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I have an article with tips for helping a baby learn to self soothe in order to help him sleep through the night. Let me know if this helps.
http://www.helium.com/tm/250628
Marcia |
| posted by Marcia on 05/17/2007 08:00 AM
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