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| I have once again found myself completely overwhelmed and paralyzed by how seemingly unmanageable my life has become. I mean they are all relatively small isues but put togeather they have really knocked me down. I am trying to breath through the process and clear my mind (even cleaning out my car thinking that it would help me clean out my mind to refocus) but I am struggling. I just wanted to know if there were any others who feel this way from time to time and what you may journal or do to help refocus your energy and life.... |
| Posted by Kyleen on 06/04/2008 02:35 PM
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| Hi Kyleen, I'm pretty sure I speak for most of us when I write that of course we understand, and have felt as you do from time to time during this new journey called parenthood. I'm so sorry you're having a hard time right now...I'm not sure if you've ever been to therapy or not, but during the times in my life that I've been most stressed out, I've gone to speak to someone, and visits to an LMHC are covered by most insurance plans. I was just telling my husband that I would like to find one near where I work so that I can start going once or twice a month after work...that way my husband can drive the baby home and I can get an hour of therapy in from time to time. It really helps to speak to someone outside of your personal circle who's completely there for you, and trained in psychology. If therapy isn't for you, then maybe speak with your husband about how you're feeling and see if you can figure something out where you get even just a little more "me" time in your week somewhere...a long Sunday bath, a maggage at a local spa every other month, or something else you might enjoy. If you want to send me a message we can chat privately if you have any questions or I can help in any way, don't hesitate to do so...you're not alone. Hope you have a good day, Lauren |
| posted by on 06/05/2008 08:16 PM
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Kyleen, I feel for your struggles! I hope that I can help...yet I feel like I don't know exactly what is getting you down. I get like this from time to time, and it is hard to snap out of it, I know! One thing that has helped me is the phrase: "And this too shall pass." Life is forever changing, impermanent, tomorrow will be different, hopefully better!
I am sure there is a lesson in this for you, right now you may not see it, but soon and when you are in a different state of mind, you will.
I don't know what is occuring in your life right now but it might help to ask yourself this: What would happen if I just gave in right now? Would everything fall apart, or not?
Also, Have you read the book You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay? She gives some good exercises that I think would help...
First: Find a clean page in your journal and at the top write the words, "I should..." and make a list of all the things that you think you should do.
Let me know when you have this done, there is more to this exercise...Keep the faith! |
| posted by Jennifer on 06/05/2008 08:56 PM
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Lauren and Jennifer,
Thanks for the kind thoughts and suggestions. I was in a pretty low place when I wrote that message and have been taking steps throughout the week to calm and refocus myself. It has also helped to talk with my husband and try to come to some compramises on some of the issues I am facing. It is just odd how different men and women process and preceive issues. |
| posted by Kyleen on 06/06/2008 07:42 AM
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Hello,
I can totally relate. When I get to this place at different times in my life it always helps to talk to someone. When it gets really bad me and my husband does what he calls Data Dumping, where I just talk to him and tell him every single thing that is causing me stress in anyway, he makes a list of all the things as I am talking and one by one we discuss how we can resolve the issue or set up a plan to start attacking the issue so the stress is relieved. I also talk to God alot, he is cares about even the littlest things and even how well we manage our day. Usually we have to just force ourselves to take time to refresh ourselves, clear our minds and figure out what actions will make life easier. I know it has been days since you posted this so I hope everything is much better. I have been out of town for a few weeks but am happy to see how helpful these discussions are. I am glad to be back.....! |
| posted by Yvonne on 06/06/2008 12:19 PM
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Hi Kyleen- I feel like that sometimes too and it is tough. I usually write everything down that is stressing me out. I will set 1 thing to hangle a day for a week or 2 (however long it takes) If you look at all the things to do as 1 thing a day it is way less overwhelming.
After I do that I take a hot bath and talk through all of it out loud. I'm really not crazy lol but it works. I don't know if I am talking to myself or the Universe but just getting it out of my head helps. I also notice when I do some Yoga and meditate it really helps too. I have also been attuned in Reiki, so I do that as well to release any energy blockages :) Sometimes just telling yourself that you are at Peace and Everything is okay in your life makes you believe it and then that is what happens.
You will start to feel better soon, coming on here and writing about it will help! :) |
| posted by Megan on 06/11/2008 08:35 PM
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| Thanks Megan, I too took yoga classes twice a week and had to stop a few months ago due to babysitting problems but it did help clear my head (and yes I can do it at home but have not made the time for it) Thanks for the advice I will try it out and welcome to the group. |
| posted by Kyleen on 06/11/2008 10:10 PM
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