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Hello,
My name is Amanda, I'm the mother of two, my son is four and my daughter is 6. I found Raising Them while searching online for a group where I could get to know people. We recently switched churches and I don't know anyone yet. I had a lot of support at our last church and now I have none.
Our family has been through a lot this past year. My husband was diagnosed with Bi-polar about five years ago when he had to admitted to the hospital for two weeks and this year he had to be admitted four times, which is the most ever.
Our daughter has enuresis...she wets during the day... and it has caused lots of problems at school. She was also having a lot of difficulty paying attention and finishing work, so we took her to her doctor and now she's on medication for ADHD. I don't like the idea of her being on medication, but it has helped a lot. She can get all her work done now and she doesn't get in trouble as much. We bought her a special watch that vibrates when it's time to use the bathroom, but she still has a lot of accidents.
Our son is great, he is well behaived and doing well in preschool. I feel guilty sometimes about how proud I am of him, because my daughter is stuggling so much.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not hopeless. I know that the Lord has plans for our family, "to prossper and not to harm", it's just a bit harder to gat through when you can't rely on your husband for encouragement because he's not able, and you have no one around to support you or give you encouragement.
So...Here I am, I'm not here just to take in, I would love to be able to encourage others. Being a parent is hard work and our job is to refresh and uplift eachother.
Amanda |
| Posted by Amanda on 06/03/2008 09:54 AM
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Sounds like you lead an eventful life! God is using you in amazing ways and just think how much more He will use you in the years to come. God definantely knows what He's doing when He gave us our families. What would we do with ourselves if our families were "normal" lol?
Don't feel guilty about being proud of your son.......he needs the uplifting too:-)
Welcome to the group!!
Marcie |
| posted by marcie on 06/03/2008 10:02 AM
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Wow, Amanda, thank you for sharing, and I can;t imagine what that must be like for you and your family. I'm glad to hear your daughter has improved so much since being on the meds, and good idea about the watch to help her to go the bathroom. It must be rough on her, but it sounds like you have been a loving, encouraging mom for her, and for your son too, who definitley needs to be praised as well.
Why did you guys switch churches? Does your new church have small groups you can get involved with, that have childcare? Or could you talk to one of the pastors and explain a little about where you are coming from and what you are looking for right now? I worry they might try to put you into a serving ministry right away, but sounds like you have your hands full at the moment and maybe that is not what you need right now.
I will pray for you, Amanda. Know you are in good company here. :)
Hugs,
Kaulana |
| posted by Kaulana on 06/03/2008 11:11 AM
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My husband wanted to leave our last church because he didn't agree with the pastor about something, it wasn't a big doctinal thing just something he disagreed with. I didn't want to leave but it must have been the Lords plan because a few weeks before we left, a woman that I really confided in left with her husband to pastor a church. Then a week after we left the only other close person that I knew there left. I've tried to keep in touch with them, but it hasn't worked out.
Anyway, we're looking into their home cell groups, I agree that I don't want to be involved in ministy right now, that's hard because I love to be. But I get myself involved in so much that me family life suffers.
Thank you for praying for me. I need patience and I need to stay close to the Lord. |
| posted by Amanda on 06/03/2008 03:20 PM
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| Welcome Amanda, I am so glad you have joined the group and shared with us. You and your family will be in my prayers, and from one mom to another... you are strong and I admire your outlook for what has been part of your daily life... I will pray for "your load to lighten" and for God's will to be revealed unto your family, I will pray for your husband and his health... that God's hand touch him and strength be put upon his heart to make him stronger and work up to being the spiritual leader of your family. The greatest gift we receive is love and it sounds like you have plenty of it. Just pray hard Amanda :) We are all here to give support and encouragement... and receive it to :) Who better from than our sisters in Christ! |
| posted by Samantha on 06/03/2008 10:00 PM
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| welcome amanda. I am so glad you shared all that with us. Remeber God does have plans for you. It sounds like you are an awesome mother and wife. |
| posted by Natasha on 06/03/2008 10:08 PM
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Well, I do love my family, I want to give my all to each of them. We've been in a bad sate though for a long time. There has been only a period of about 5 months in the last 6 years that my husband and I have had any kind of relationship. Those five months were very good and I miss that time. Concerning my husband and I, the biggest struggles I have are first, trying to do the things that he can't when he can't, and not doing the things he can do when he can do them. He's been given the role of head of the houshold, but many times he's not able to be that, so I have to try and fill that position when he can't and figure out when and how to slip out of that role when he is able to do it... I'm not very good at it. Sometimes I stay "in charge" a bit too long, and then we have conflict!! He's also very moody...a.k.a. Bi-Polar...he's not very encouraging or friendly twards the kids. He mostly demands them to do things, a lot of times yelling. We have a very tense home.
It;s taking a tole on my kids. My daughter has been diagnosed with ADHD, but part of me feels that she's just been raise in a conflict filled, unsafe feeling, and unsure environment. She seems very unhappy. She used to be the most friendly, happy little gril. She reaches out for her daddys protection and love, and he doesn't want to give it. I'm left filling all roles, nurturer, teacher, disipliner... it's hard to be all and be balanced. I feel guilty sometimes like maybe my daughter doesn't listen to adults because I was so passive with her when she was young.
If I want so much to feel safe...emotional, financially, spiritually... in my own home, how much more do the kids feel the lack of that security? I think about all the women I've met who have raised their kids on their own and they have wonderful kids and their happy. Then I ask myself, "why is it so hard for you?, you practicly are a single mom."
I am so thankful for your prayers. The Lord is the only hope that I have, and I feel safe in that. I have my weaknesses and my failures, and sometimes they ovewhelm my faith, but God will never change. He's the same yesterday, today and forever, and if he gave us five months before, then I'm going to beleive that the next time it wil be better. |
| posted by Amanda on 06/04/2008 02:24 PM
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