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I have a 7 and a half month old son he's a joy but I cant put him down to play with out hearing him sream at the top of his lungs . He's with me and his father all the time soon I know its nothing to do with him being hurt or anything. I dont know what his problem is all he wants is to be held or for you to sit on the floor while he plays(he'll go all over the place if our on the floor). If anyone has any advice please tell me.
Thanks lots
Jessica |
| Posted by Jessica on 05/26/2008 02:00 PM
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| You know, I was realizing this too, with my daughter who's exactly the same age. It helps when we give her between fifteen and thirty minutes a day to play in her play pen by herself. When we are consistent, she seems to do well to entertain herself for a while. This is something my husband and I feel is very important for her to learn. However I was noticing that we haven't been very diligent about doing that lately, and she's become dependent on someone being right there with her, and it's very draining on me, because I can't seem to get anything else done around the house when need be. So we're trying to slowly work back up to her solo play pen time. Good luck! It'll happen, just be consistent and firm. Start small, with just a few minutes at a time, a couple of times a day. |
| posted by Jaclyn on 05/27/2008 02:13 PM
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| Also, it might help if you talk to your son after you put him down. Maybe that will help him realize you aren't actually leaving him. You could also try singing. |
| posted by Keshia on 05/29/2008 04:38 PM
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Hi Jessica,
I had the same issue for couple of months, but has less trouble now. I initially used to get mad and would go crazy as he would not allow me to do anything, but want me around him always.Anyway...this is what i tried doing and hope it works for you too!
I am sure he is not walking right now, but its hard when he crawls up to your legs to hold him. Pick him up at that minute...give him a hug...sing to him and take him to his favourite toys..spread em out...sit with him and speak to him in a way he would understand and do the same with the toys...yes speak to the toys and say :hey teddy look this is jason(example)....say hiii..lets do peeka boo...show me your eyes...and do this for few minutes...create interest in your child and slowly walk away from him while speaking to him. I am sure he notices you going away n cry again....but then try saying..."hey look.. teddy is crying b'coz u ( jason) are walking away from him...give teddy a hug..a kiss ect.
Its not an easy thing...but slowly the baby will know that u will care for him..but need to do some chores too.Have patience while doing this...he might still cry for couple of days...but i am sure this works after a while. Also while doing chores...ask him to throw his favourite ball while he is sitting down and u throw the ball back...then he feels u r still playing with him.
But its important that you do not scold him or raise your tone when you get mad...they become insecure and create a imaginative thought about mommy being rude to em. When you are done with your work sit with em and play when you can.
Jessica i hope this would help you as it did help me.If not 100% its helped me reduce the turnaround time when i pick him up and do my chores vs him playing around with me being around and doing my chores.Lemme know if it works. But you need to have a lot of patience...don't worry you will do good!
Best of Luck!
Regards,
Somy |
| posted by Sowmya on 05/29/2008 06:58 PM
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Hi jessica,
My daughter did this for a while too, She turned a year in april. I didn't know what to do either so i just started letting her help me do my chores. She would get bored watching me do the dishes and she would go play by herself. Now i can get just about anything i need done and she entertains herself. Just takes time and consistancy. I got katie a vaccuum cleaner and she "vaccuums" while I do, it's cute |
| posted by Amanda on 05/29/2008 11:51 PM
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Hi jessica,
My daughter did this for a while too, She turned a year in april. I didn't know what to do either so i just started letting her help me do my chores. She would get bored watching me do the dishes and she would go play by herself. Now i can get just about anything i need done and she entertains herself. Just takes time and consistancy. I got katie a vaccuum cleaner and she "vaccuums" while I do, it's cute |
| posted by Amanda on 05/29/2008 11:51 PM
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I have tryed everthinmg. his ped told us it could be because he never l eaves eather of our sides. if hes with me his with his dad. and that sometime wit h out us would most likely help we're trying a few things now. i hope it works or i'm really going to go crazyy
thanks jess |
| posted by Jessica on 05/30/2008 04:04 PM
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| My daughter went through the same thing around the same age. It is very common and almost always nothing more than a stage. At this age they are starting to realize they have a little independence and do not need you around 100% of the time, but the independence scares them. They also often do not understand that when you leave the room you will be returning. It can help to just talk to him before you leave the room. Explain that you are leaving, what you are doing, where you are going, and that you will be back. I know at such a young age they of course do not understand it all, but as you are true to your word, he will start understanding and connecting your talk with trust. If he is in your sight , keep talking to him while you work. If not, return periodically to assure him you are still there. |
| posted by Lauren on 05/30/2008 08:24 PM
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