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sometimes it takes 2-10 times for the same 'conversation' to sink into the husbands head. In my case it took my son and I spending a week in another town with my parents (i have a house there from before the marriage and had extensive water damage we needed t fix before renting it out). When I came home the house was a mess, no dishes/laundry done, and i got very angry. Asked him exactly how was it one man could not manage to clean at least one thing or fix one thing when there was NO ONE home to bother him? He just looked dumbfounded...I stopped speaking to him, later that night - as i was sweeping up the mess in the kitchen - he tried to say something and I just butted in and told him that if he wanted a happy wife, he needed to help more around the house cause i am just to exhausted and angry.
things are better, not great but better, he took over laundry and dishes, vaccuums...of course it would be nice he would do these things without my reminding him..also be nice if i could get across to him that if we both do not have to work mornings on the weekends, then we need to alternate who sleeps in in the morning...wonder what tactic i could use for that one..besides kicking him, having the kid crawl on him...something..hmmm...*plotting evilly* |
| Posted by heather on 05/26/2008 08:24 AM
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| I think all men think this way. With my husband off for a couple of days, I purposesly let the house go. It wasn't until I began to scream and holler, did his ass move from the couch. |
| posted by esther on 05/26/2008 10:25 PM
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| We all have set things in my house that we have to do.The kids have their chores that hubby makes em do.I try and be as forceful as him but hes an azz and I refuse to be as hard as him on the kids.I wash all the clothes in the house and the kids have to fold em.I cook all the meals cause hubby cant cook.I vacuum 4 xs a week and the kids have to do it on the weekends.The kids take turns w the dishes.I sweep the floor thats not done yet in the kitchen.(we are remodeling)I make em clean up their own rooms and 1 x a month I have to go and do REAL cleaning to their rooms.Now when hubby and I fight he calls me a lazy fkg bitch because the kids do it all in the house and I dont do nuthin!!! Now remember if I dont make em do their chores ima shitty fkg mom w no backbone!I told him I am fkg sick and tired of being called names and he cant have it both fkg ways!either he wants the kids to do chores or he wants a fkg slave for a wife!I am sick of the way that men treat us everytime we fight!They think just because they have penis's they have the upper hand.Mine got to see first hand just how far he can push me from now on the fkr!When I was working I was a lazy bitch too!I was working 48 hrs a week and cleaned the house/dishes/floors/1 bathroom/cooking/laundry mat 2xs a week when I first got here.He didnt do a fkg thing but come home bitch and eat and sleep!I told him the other day that if he wanted me out so bad and he was tired of me then Id leave.I dont know where but I told him I was sick of it!A woamn can just take soooo much!!!So If I were you tell him there are places for women like us if they think thay have it soooo bad! |
| posted by Lexi on 05/27/2008 11:56 AM
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lol, i love that. i wish i could just leave for a little while and see what happens. my fiancee gets a couple days off and justs sits. watches tv, movies, whatever, and when i ask him for help, he always says something along the lines of, I only get a couple days off a week, this is my time to relax. .....?!?!!?
fine, what i would like to know, when are my days off? when do i get to relax? they never seem to get that. |
| posted by Becky on 07/08/2008 02:12 PM
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I totally agree! My hubby also says something along those lines. We work opposite shifts (I work 8-5 and he works 2-11) so he is home with our 2 yr old daughter until he goes to work. She gets up at 8:30 pretty much every day. He is constantly complaining how I should put her to bed later so she'll sleep later (eventhough 8:30 is pretty late for a 2 yr old). Then on the weekends, he expects ME to get up with her so he can sleep in...so my question becomes "When do I get to sleep in?...Where are MY weekends to 'relax'?"
He's actually not TOO bad with the housework although it used to be worse. A few months ago, I took my daughter to AZ to visit my Gram for a week, so he was home BY HIMSELF for the entire week. I expected him to at least have the toys picked up and some laundry done but you can guess what I came home to...toys everywhere (still) laundry everywhere, sink full of dishes, etc. Needless to say i was pissed since he is always telling me that our daugher keeps him too busy during the day to clean up. blah blah blah |
| posted by Katie on 07/15/2008 09:29 AM
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