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| Hello everyone I am Kristi and my son Everett is 4 months old. I am a young SAHM who would love more children but isn't quite sure how soon. My husband is ready right now but I am not so sure, I would like my body to heal fully and for my son to sleep through the night. My husband only took a week off work to help with our son when he was born. SO that made it really difficult on me as a new mom with basically no support. So everytime the topic of having another child comes up I get really scared and want to run away. But I know I want more children, any thoughts about my situation? |
| Posted by Kristi on 05/23/2008 02:59 PM
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| Id say if yor having doubts then wait. Youve got plenty of time. Explain your fears to your husband and hopefully he understands and supports you. By the way welcome!!!! |
| posted by katie on 05/23/2008 03:01 PM
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| I would have to agree :) I too didn't want to have another too soon... my daughter is 2 and a half and we just decided last month to try for #2. My biggest thing was not wanting to be overwhelmed as well. I really enjoy the 1 on 1 time with my daughter also and felt like for me personally that is what I wanted my daughter to have a little of :) My family has been pushing for a long time... especially since my daughter turned one! But I had to explain that I really wanted to have that desire again fully, that when that happens I would know in my heart it is time :) So I know exactly how you feel... and I personally waited until that scared and overwhelming feeling went away, I just knew I wasn't ready. Since you are the mommy and main care taker, it is most important how you feel and what will make you and your family the happiest and most comfortable... good luck! |
| posted by Samantha on 05/23/2008 04:21 PM
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| Wow! Thank you :) Your response was very helpful! It will help me have a better discussion with my husband regarding future children. Thanks again! |
| posted by Kristi on 05/24/2008 12:19 PM
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I believe that parenting is truly hard work, even when both parents are on board to love and support the baby and eachother. With that being said, please wait until both YOU and your hubby are ready. Explain to him how you're feeling - he will have to respect your wishes...it is your body, after all. :)
Good luck! |
| posted by on 05/24/2008 01:05 PM
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| There is also the healthy side of the picture. I have read many magazines and talked to my doctor (I also want to try for a second baby, I have a 1 year old) and it is important that the body is ready for that second child. That is why when you are nursing your baby you need to keep taking the pre-natal vitamins. But they are also important to keep your body nourish in case you get pregnant right after having your first one. In the article magazine (don;t remember where I read it) said it is recommended at least 1 year to wait for another baby. There are many changes to the body during pregnancy that kind of makes it weak after a baby. Therefore the vitamines not only is good for your but also prepare your body to give all the nutrients a baby needs. After a year your body recovers all what have lost and is ready for another baby. You might want to research about this and talk to your husband about it. |
| posted by veronica on 06/11/2008 02:54 PM
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Hi there!
I know how you feel. When my twins were that age my husband was also wanting more kids! Everytime I even pondered the thought I wanted to run a mile! Now they are a year old & the thought doesnt scare me as much...who knows maybe if God wills it we'll have another. You are wise to want to wait, your body definitely needs the time to heal.
As you say you are young & therefore have some time to plan ahead.
Hope that Helps!
Denise |
| posted by Denise on 06/20/2008 02:31 PM
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