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| My daughter turned a year in april. And pretty much since about 2 weeks after that she has been very very crabby. I changed my schedule at work so I get to spend every other day with her, but i don't get our two solid days anymore. And we've been fighting an ear infection for about a month now but she's had ear infections before and has never acted like this. When I tell her "no" she can't touch something or play with one of my DVD's she throws herself on the floor and has a fit, a real fit. Or if i tell her "ok hold on i'll get you some milk" i'm not doing it fast enough and she throws a fit. Is this just a girl thing? Or is there something else i'm missing? I just don't know what do with her. Any tips or ideas? |
| Posted by Amanda on 05/18/2008 11:30 PM
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| Hi Amanda. Does she have her 1 yr molars yet? That could be making her a little crabby. If Mackenzie throws a fit, I just ignore it, if she hits or kicks me she goes in her crib for a time out. Sometimes she just needs to "recompose" herself and actually likes going to her room for quiet time. When I get Mackenzie her milk I let her help me. She "helps" carry it to the counter, she holds the lid while I pour, and "helps" to put it back in the fridge.When I make one of her meals I don't put her in her high chair until I am ready to feed her. Can you move the DVD's to a different spot maybe where she can't reach them? I you can't when you tell her no explain why and give her something she can play with. Good Luck and let me know how it goes! |
| posted by Amanda on 05/19/2008 03:17 PM
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| Also make sure to positvely reinforce ANY good behavior! If you ask her to wait while you get her milk, and she is patient tell her "thank you so much for being a "good waiter"! If she starts to whine tell her, you are getting her milk, you are almost done, thank you for waiting. Does she have dvd's of her own that she could play with? what does she like to do with them? |
| posted by Amanda on 05/19/2008 04:06 PM
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Usually when my daugher throws herself on the ground in a tantrum, if it is safe, I just walk away but the second she stops I come back and talk to her in a happy pleasent voice. When I do that, she realizes she is not getting the attention for the tantrum but for stopping. If it is not safe to walk away then I pointedly ignore her without letting her out of my sight.
If she does it while I'm getting something she asked for like juice or fruit snacks, I tell her that I will finish when she is done tantruming. That usually stops the tantrum pretty quickly. I am not sure how well this part will work with a one year old but I started the first part when she was about that age. I also found that that behavior started when she was getting her molars and calmed a bit after they were through. |
| posted by Katie on 05/20/2008 09:16 AM
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| amanda my daughter is 22 months and she has been having fits since she has been one. at first i shurgged it off and then they got worse. i found out that she has a fit when she wants something and i am not paying attenton to her like when i am paying bills and things like that or whn she does not get her way. i will let her throw her fit where ever she is in public or not. if she is at home i will leave the room and let her have her fit and i will come back when she is done and i will tell her what she did wrong and i dont opprove of that behavior. when we are in public i let her have her fit where she is at. on Sunday we were at a parade and she didnt want to leave so she laid down on the gras and had a fit it was really embarssing for me but i acted like i didnt notice her and then when she was done i told her that when we got home she would be in time out and that what she did is not opproait and if she did it again she would not be allowed to do fun things like that again, and she has not had a fit yet so far but she will screem for something then i will tell her that when she can ask for it in a normal voice then i will get it for her and that usualy works. good luck |
| posted by JAIMIE on 05/20/2008 03:24 PM
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| Thank you all for your replies. I can't really move the DVD's because our house is sooo small, that is the only place to keep them. I didn't know babies got molars at a year, i thought they got them around 18 months. Maybe that is her problem. We had a pretty good day today, she got crabby when i told her it was time for a nap but after about a minute of rockyby she was out like a light. I think part of her problem is that we re-arranged the living room and she thinks i took her toys away. She will only play with her toys if I take them out she won't take them out of the box herself. And she will only be happy with them if they are all over the floor. But i guess i'll just watch for her molars. Could her molars coming in be playing a part in her constant ear infections? |
| posted by Amanda on 05/20/2008 03:49 PM
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| Yes, the molars can cause ear infections. This is due to the excessive saliva that is in the mouth during teething. |
| posted by Amanda on 05/20/2008 04:15 PM
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hey amanda!
my daughter started getting chronic ear infections at around 7 months-we really hoped they would work themselves out, as they should by around 12 months. if your daughter still gets them regularly, i would suggest seeing and ear, nose and throat specialist. usually your pediatrician will not recommend that you do it-stupid, but i think they get insulted that someone else might provide better care. anyway, Colbee was 22 months old when we got tubes in her ears. the ear infections cleared up right away, and we have only had one in the past 8 months. her hearing also improved, as well as that yucky cough kids get when they can't drain all the fluids from their ears correctly. Just a suggestion, hope your little one is doing better with her "fits" |
| posted by Trina on 07/22/2008 10:29 AM
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