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| I have two little boys, one who is in a toddler bed and the other is still in a crib and they share a room. My oldest has recently started climbing into the crib and playing with my one year old and he sometimes hurts him. I keep going in there and taking him out but he won't listen and time outs have not worked. I don't want to spank him...any suggestions? |
| Posted by Emily on 05/15/2008 02:50 PM
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| I believe in spanking, but I don't spank yet... too young to understand it. My son is 20 mos and my daughter is 1 mo. if he gets too rough and doesn't stop at the tone of my voice I thump his hand with my finger, "mommy being upset" hurts his feelings so he gets the message. I rarely have to re-enforce it... Maybe get a video monitor for the room so you can keep a better eye out on them... Good luck! I hope you get some helpful suggestions! |
| posted by Candice on 05/15/2008 03:51 PM
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| you can try a little reverse phycology. Give the little one all the attention when this happens. Take the older child out as usual, and love on the little one. Pay no attention to the older child. Later when things have calmed down, THEN talk to your oldest about why this is not good behavior. Sometimes it works. |
| posted by valarie on 05/15/2008 07:13 PM
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| Hi! This might seem like a really silly idea, but put the litle ones crib in the living room or another room that his bed time is not interupted and he can sleep safely. If you have a computer room you might consider moving anything harmful(low shelves, computer, glass, excetra to the living room or another room you are comfortable with. The hurting could seriously scare or hurt your child that could leave a scar for life. Sometimes it is as easy as putting the younger child in a toddler bed if they are able to. If he is a year he might be ready at 6 months and I know that sounds like a long time to have your child in a room that you use for other things but as long as he is safe the time might go very fast. I do not speak from experience, just thoughts on my families future if we have another little one. I thought of every possible solution other than putting two boys one in crib and one in toddler bed in different rooms. We have atwo story home and I even thought of putting one child downstairs and sleeping down there as we have two more rooms downstairs until another solution could be reached. I hope you find a solution for the moment if not a permanent one. The best of luck!! |
| posted by Michelle on 05/18/2008 01:44 AM
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| Well, I also have a 2 1/2 year old girl and a 1 year old boy. My girl is in the roddler bed and the boy is in the crib. They do have separaste rooms. There are times that Victoria has climbed into Logan's crib (where she gets these ideas from, I have no clue!) and they play. You can hear the squeals of delight, but they almost always turn into tears soon enough. She just doesn't realize that she is so much bigger then he is and the jumping around causes him to "topple" and bump into the sides of the crib. Just realize that it's not intentional for him to hurt his little brother. Perhaps you could ask him to read a book instead of jumping around and explain that Bedtime is "quiet time" Both my kids love to read so that's what they do now. At first i would stay in the room and tell her to read to Logan and she just loved the idea that she was a "Big Girl" and could do things that Logan wasn't quite old enough to do. I keep a stack of books in his crib so they can easily access thier favorites. Good luck!! |
| posted by Char on 06/13/2008 02:22 PM
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| On the last post about keeping books by his bed and such. A great idea for big sibling to read to the other but be cautious as well when mine was in a crib his brother would try and give baby toys and drop books and little toys in the crib on top him so yeah I had to stop that pretty quick. |
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