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| Jefferson County Mommies |
| Public group from Pevely, MO |
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| I'm a SAHM mom of a boy who will be 3 in June. he's my 'number 1' as we say. He could use some socialization and I could use some moms to talk to. my bf is always working and he doesnt really like to talk. i could always use advice. right now its potty training. ugh.. i just dont keep on it. and i'd like to get my son into bed early to have grown up time at night but its 720 and he's ... taking a nap. UGH! Lol. if anyone wants to just chat thru email thats fine. i'm easy going and i think im a nice person. :-P |
| Posted by carmen on 05/13/2008 08:21 PM
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My son, who is almost 6, didn't potty train completely until he was 3 1/2. It is really different with many kids. Those moms that boast that their child was potty trained at 1 1/2 or 2...well great for you and more power to you but I have heard that when a parent is pushing and pushing too hard to get it to happen so as to be on time with other kids...well you could be doing more harm then good. Even if it does work and the child potty trains successfully by 1 1/2 or 2 years (sometimes younger)..it could have adverse affects on the child later in life.
So you can do a reward thing and do the potty dance thing or try the method that Dr. Phil suggests (have him show a doll or stuffed animal how you are suppose to potty train) but I'd be patient and don't feel embarrassed if he doesn't completely potty train until he's 3 or even 3 1/2.
I would try to get him on a better sleep schedule. It's difficult once a bad one has been established so it may take a week or so but you have to get him up early and make him lay down (even if it's just for some quiet inactive time) right after lunch (around 1:00pm) for about an hour or so. If he falls asleep for that time great. Don't let him sleep too long. Wake him gently if you need to after he's been sleeping an hour. Don't let him go down for a nap after 3:30. If he hasn't slept before that time, then keep him awake with activity, keeping him busy until 7 or so. With summer coming up it will be a little easier, he can do lots of outdoor activity, get worn out and fall asleep easier from being so tired. As long as you don't let him nap too late in the afternoon, he should fall asleep around 7:30 or 8:00. Also if you can set up a bedtime routine Bath, PJs, story time, and then lights out for sleep time. Something he can predict what comes next. You can set up a picture diagram that shows a child in the bath then putting on PJs and then sitting with Mom for story time and then (prayers-if you do those) and then mom kissing child good night and turning off light. Cut pics out of parent magazines or draw them yourself or whatever...have him help paste them and then post it next to his door and say at about 6:30 or 7 you start your bedtime routine. You could even laminate it and use a dry erase marker that can be erased after each night after you check off what you did on the bed time list. Morning routines can be done much the same way. Get up, have breakfast, brush teeth, get dressed, etc...
I know this is a lot to take in from some stranger just writing you for the first time about your dilemmas but I could totally relate. I have 3 kids now. 5 (almost 6) year old boy, a 4 year old girl, and a 2 year old girl. It's a struggle to keep up with them all. Let me know if I was able to help you or if you think my advice was way off...:-D LOL
Teresa
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| posted by Teresa on 05/13/2008 10:57 PM
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hi! i am so sorry I didnt see your message until now. i couldnt remember the name of this site. thanks for all of the advice! im still working on the potty. he prefers to just wear a diaper or nothing at all! he's def got the pee thing down. done the other a few times. (shocking!) i did the chart at first but he wasnt big into the stickers.then went to licorice.
he's still not on a schedule.(sleep or daytime) so true about the not napping after 330. he does that a lot. lately he's been passing out early in his clothes on the couch which really throws him off if he wakes up at 11pm wide awake! im not an early bird at all so i dont really want him on an early schedule but i would like him to go to bed earlier.
thanks for all your thoughts and input!
carmen |
| posted by carmen on 07/12/2008 01:41 AM
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