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So I'm feeling like a completely horrible failure of a mother. Am I a horrible mother because I am tired of being around my baby? I love her very much, but I am so tired! In all seriousness, I haven't had a significant break since she was born six months ago. My husband is great and helps a lot, but the only time I"m ever away from her is when I have to go to the laundromat. Yippee!! And today I'm just feeling so frustrated and edgy and that's not the kind of mom I want to be. And the thing that just drives me crazy, is that when I'm having a bad day, it always rubs off on her so she's grumpy and fussy with me, which just makes everything worse. I think that's really unfair of nature. Anyway, I hope i"m not a lost cause. I hope I"m not a horrible mother. I hope that I won't always feel this way. Am I the only one who has ever felt like this??? Will it ever get better? Please help. I feel like I"m going crazy!!!!! |
| Posted by Jaclyn on 05/02/2008 05:07 PM
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| I felt like that untill I realized it was because I was mentally, emotionally and physically exhausted! So, my husband let me sleep in a few mornings and I felt a lot better! A lot has to be said for getting enough sleep. |
| posted by Karin on 05/02/2008 08:35 PM
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| I think if you dont admit it then you are just to afraid to say it, because I am sure everyone feels it. I have . I am a sahm to a 2 yo daughter, and i have had very few breaks . Seriously, not even 1 time a month without her, except to maybe go to the store. But when I do get away I am so happy to see her when I do. You arent a bad mother. You are just a normal mother. |
| posted by Natasha on 05/02/2008 09:42 PM
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| YOU ARE NOT A HORRIBLE MOTHER!! Everyone has felt this way whether they admit it or not. Children can be extremely draining. I have an almost 2 year old daugher and let me tell you, she can be a HANDFUL! I enjoy taking a break once in awhile. |
| posted by Katie on 05/03/2008 11:19 AM
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Yes, it'll get better, but only if you plan some time away...and not to run errands (although some weeks that may be all you can make time for...so make the most of it). But, really, you need time to just go chill out! Even if it's a solitary walk around the block to breathe, or an hour at the bookstore or shoe shopping or whatever it is you like to do! Sleep is key and so is relational time with your husband. Do you know anyone who can sit your baby for you? If so, ask them and see if they could once a month or so watch the baby so you and your man can go out.
We've all felt this way and we have all felt guilty at times too. I know that when my patience gets thin with my son (he's 19mo) it's usually moreso because I haven't had a "break away" in a while.
Hang in there! Say "I love you" outloud to your baby when you feel like you're gonna lose it...and then go outside and play a bit! |
| posted by Kelly on 05/06/2008 01:29 PM
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| Make sure you honor these feelings. Part of what makes us human is that we have good and bad feelings. They are completely normal. It is a very recent phenomenon to have a mother bare sole caretaking responsiblities for a young baby and do everything else (cook, groceries, clean, work etc.). Not to long ago (less then 100 yrs) it was a family affair to raise a child and women were not so overwhelmed and isolated. Allow yourself to feel these darker feelings and know that it is the situation not a question of too little love that makes you feel the way you do. I too feel very guilty leaving my baby (15 mos), but when I take a few hours to myself I always feel much better. |
| posted by Malena on 05/08/2008 11:02 AM
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