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| My daughter is 10 months old and I have been home with her since she was born. Before that I worked 50-60 hour weeks and was constantly on the go. Now I feel isolated and dont feel like I have any other purpose aside from being a mother. I love my daughter so much, but feel like the depression is overshadowing the happiness I feel for her. It seems like the days drag on sometimes and I may never get back to being a productive member of society. |
| Posted by Melissa on 05/02/2007 02:37 PM
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I hear ya!! You need to dive in to something that helps you stay busy! That is one of the reasons I started working from home, it gives me something else to look forward to during the day than just my children. I love being home because I get the best of both worlds, I get to see my kiddos all day, but also I am intouch with other "humans" because of my business!
If working from home isn't something that you want to do, you could dive into scrapbooking, or crafts, or working out, or just something you really feel passionate about!
Good luck! You are not alone!! :)
Jessica |
| posted by Jessica on 05/02/2007 02:43 PM
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| I know were you are comming from I worked before Blaney was born and we led a productive life style with the boys wrestling, playing football and baseball as well as showing rabbits in 4-H. There are days that I miss just being alone during the day or going to work and not haveing to have a convershion with a2 year old about the backyardagins or what the dog is doing. There are days thet I feal all cooped up. If it was not for my mommys play group that meats sevral times a week to get me out of the house and around other mommys to talk to I would go crazzy. You should try a play group or something like that it helps. Or try a mothers day out and put your daughter in it that will also give you time to go to the gym or out to lunch with a frind with out kids . Melissa mom2 mark_dalton_blaney |
| posted by Melissa on 05/02/2007 03:00 PM
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Hi Melissa,
I feel the same exact way. Before my boys were born, I worked a full time swing shift (two weeks days, two weeks nights), I was in college 3 days a week, I was a VERY active member of Weight Watchers (lost over 124 lbs).........then one day.....I was pregnant with twins and.......BAM!.......my joyous life ended that day. I gave up working, school, Weight Watchers (gained it all back, and then some).......I am no longer who I used to be.....I am forever known as MOM!
Sometimes I feel that the birth of my children not only distroyed my body but it distroyed who I used to be as well.
Hugs to you my dear friend,
Jeanne |
| posted by Jeanne on 05/02/2007 03:25 PM
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| Wow, it is amazing how hard it can be. What I try to remind myself as a mother of two, ages 8 and 3, and I just found out we are having another. I try to remind myself that we are productive in society you just can't see the results right now. When our children are raised and they are productive the thanks can go to us. When we can look at them and take some credit is when I feel we will see it. Raising children is not easy but they are soooo worth it. I have battled with severe depression! I have found the church to be very helpful. God would not give us what we cannot handle. |
| posted by Tina on 05/02/2007 06:46 PM
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I know exscatly how you feel befor i had my daughter i was a bartender,and i loved my job . I got to throw a party every night what a great job and the money wasn't bad either!
then i had my daughter god knows i love her more than my own life but i'd like just a small peice of that back. my boyfriend wants me to stay home and raise our child to witch i am greatful for because i havn't missed any of the good stuff. |
| posted by cheyenne on 05/04/2007 09:35 AM
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Before you start resenting your SAHM status, I think it is time to create a little activity for yourself so that you don't feel stuck. Something compatible with your kid schedule and that in the long run could become a more full time activity.
Review your skills and interests and talk to people around you (or to us) about it, and I am sure you come up with a good idea.
Been a good mother is not just be there but be happy to be there!
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| posted by Vero on 05/04/2007 11:35 AM
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I dont resent my SAHM status. I just miss being my own person at times. When I think I have had enough of the boys at the current time, that is when I miss it most. When I think I am not a good enough Mom to my boys, I miss my past life. Don't get me wrong, I love my children to death, I mean I would lay down and die for them right now if I had to. There are those times, some more frequently than others, that I wish I had a time machine for the day and could go back and step back into my life as it was before I had children. And then when I was done, I would come back refreshed and ready for my SAHM life again.
I don't have the luxury of having an outside activity because of my illness. I find it hard to get out and "away" on a regular basis. That is the reason I have taken up gardening. When I need a "quick" break away from the boys, I don't have to run far, I just run in my back yard and check my garden for a few moments, quickly grab some fresh air and go back inside to take care of my boys. This helps but it is not what I really need in my life. |
| posted by Jeanne on 05/04/2007 02:07 PM
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Recently I had a huge renewing of who I was. It has been almost 4 years since I have been alone for more than 5 minutes. I am not joking, besides when I went into the hospital a little over a year ago for depression.
My Aunt was diagnosed with cancer, not much time to live. She lived in Oklahoma, me being is seattle I had not seen my family there in 3 years. My husband and I agreed that I needed to go back and see her before she passed knowing that I would be going for the funeral also. I got a plane ticket for myself and went 2000 miles away from my children for 5 days.
It was hard beings so far away but the stillness of my thoughts. The open time that I shared with my family whom was filled with sadness and joy of my prescene all at the same time. I wasn't referred to as MOM. It was truly and eye opener.
When I came home my life seemed that much better. So I know what you mean when you say going to the garden but sometimes it is not enough. I to love my job, but I also admit that I struggle. I still need to Find Tina, not Tina who she was before, Tina who she is now when standing alone away from the kids and husband
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| posted by Tina on 05/04/2007 04:41 PM
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| Tina, you made me cry. Take care my friend |
| posted by Jeanne on 05/04/2007 08:54 PM
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