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Hi Everyone,
My name is Emine, and I have a 3.5 month old daughter. I'm going back to work in a couple weeks. As great as it was to be home full time with my baby, I'm looking forward to finally getting out of my pajamas :-) But of course, I have concerns about managing baby, work, home, husband... I'd love to meet other moms that are going thru the same issues, and share advice. |
| Posted by Emine on 04/22/2008 12:05 PM
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Hi Emine.
I'm Tammie. I have a 2 year old and struggle with balancing work, baby, husband and home. Would be glad to be a sounding board anytime.
My husband stays home with my son and I work full time. It is very challenging trying to be 'super mom'. I find many things go by the wayside so i can spend quality time with my son when i get home.
Blessing and look forward to hearing from other working moms...
tammie :-) |
| posted by tammie on 04/22/2008 12:43 PM
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Hi Emine,
I have an 11 month old daughter and my husband and I both work full time. She has been in daycare since she was 9 weeks old and she is thriving! I am also proud to say that I have pumped and nursed the ENTIRE time!
It is not easy to balance it all and, frankly, like most things in life I am good at different things on different days. Feel free to bounce things off me at any time.
On tip, I think it is important to remember that you can love to work and love your daughter.
Celeste |
| posted by Celeste on 04/23/2008 05:49 PM
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Hi Emine,
I have a 10 month old son and a 2 year old daughter and I work full time. I have a nanny whom I love but I often deal with a bit of guilt about having to work full time and not spending enough time with my kids. I have a flexible job so I try and see my kids as often as I can. It is definitely tough finding time for myself and my husband between juggling the kids, a career and a busy house. |
| posted by Wendy on 04/25/2008 09:37 AM
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Hi Emine,
I am the mom of a son who just turned 3. I went back to work when he was 3.5 months old. I had my son in early February and went back to work near the end of May. I made a suggestion to my boss that I would like to come back to work Monday - Friday from 9am - 3:30pm that gave me 3/4 time at work and more time with my son. At the end of the year I told them I would come back full time. It worked out great for us and allowed me to keep my health insurance. They nap mid morning and early afternoon anyway and I was there to pick him up right from his afternoon nap. Hope that helps! |
| posted by Jill on 05/07/2008 06:52 PM
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Hello Emine,
I also am glad to be a sounding board at any time...I work full time and am fortunate to have found a fabulous nanny to stay at home with my 2 kids (11 mos. and 2). It is really hard to go to work in the morning, I still feel that pang of guilt, but I try and be around as much as possible, having breakfast with them, occasionally lunch and always dinner. As long as you are a hands-one mom in every other respect your kids are going to do great! |
| posted by Wendy on 05/07/2008 08:42 PM
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Hi All!!
OK - I have a huge confession to make. While I do occasionally have the guilt feeling for having to go to work and leaving Dillon @ home. More often than not - i'm actually looking forward to it. I usually am 'in charge' of him the whole weekend - so by Monday...I've had my fill. The fact that I'm wanting to leave makes me feel that much worse.....
Anyone understand - or am I just CRAZY!!!???
tammie |
| posted by tammie on 05/07/2008 10:25 PM
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| I too struggle with opposite emotions all the time. I cringe at leaving my daughter Monday morning yet a part of me is thrilled to drink my coffee alone quietly and be productive at work. I feel guilty taking anytime for myself on the weekends yet if I don't I become resentful and bitter. I complain my husband does not help enough but when he offers to help I tell him no because I think I should be supermom and do it all. Who would of known motherhood brings so many mixed feelings and experiences. I love work - I hate work etc......... |
| posted by Malena on 05/10/2008 11:49 PM
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Hey Emine,
I am a working mother of 4 children ages 2-12 years old. The logistics work themselves out. Get a routine and prioritze what has to be done. There are "must haves" and "nice to haves." Clarity around which is which is very important.
As you think of things put them in a gathering spot for the next day. Daycare needs diapers, grab them and throw them in the pile.
Focus on the quality of your time with your child and husband rather than the quantity.
Let your husband help you. I think that as women and especially with our first child we like everything to be perfect and we like to do it ourselves to ensure that it is perfect. Your child will not remember if you had a sink full of dirty dishes. However she will be directly affected if you do not make an effort to nuture your relationship with her and if you forget to nuture your relationship with your husband and if you do not take care of yourself. Dr. Phil says that one of the biggests gifts that you can give your child is to take care of their mother.
Checking in with myself to see where I might need to shift my energy to meet needs has been ongoing over the last 12 years.
Best of luck to you -- |
| posted by Kellie on 07/16/2008 11:14 AM
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| Hello, it is not easy. But i try to prepare alot the night before to get my self set for work so I am not stressed in morning. |
| posted by Christina on 08/22/2008 04:07 PM
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Hi Emine,
I work full time and have a 22 month old daughter. My husband is a filed mechanic and works out of town monday thru friday. I understand your guilt, but don't worry, it is completely doable. My daughter has been going to daycare since she was 6 weeks old and is doing great! She is very advanced in her speech and motor skills.
My best advice is to lay the ground work for rules now and stick by them. For example: Ally's bedtime is 8:00 and we are fairly strict about it. But, Ally lays down every night and goes right to sleep. I put her in her crib, tell her good night, and she goes right to bed without any fussing. If you start right from the get-go, your daughter won't know any different and ther won't be a fight later.
Also, if you can, get a housekeeper. I have one that comes every other week and does the deep cleaning for me. I still do the laundry and dishes, but it frees up a lot of my time. Especially on the weekends when my husband is home.
Send me a message any time. I always love to visit.
Cristy |
| posted by Cristy on 08/22/2008 10:26 PM
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| It is hard in the begining but you will do it. You have to do what is right for your child. You will find the balance. Try to get up earlier to get ready for yourself or prepare night before. |
| posted by Christina on 08/23/2008 12:45 PM
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