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| ok im new to this whole thing but i have 3 children under the age of 4 and two of them being twins. They are go go go i know thats how toddlers are but mine seam to be into everything, on everything, breaking everything, making a mess of everything... need i go on. i just dont know what to do anymore it just keeps getting harder and harder from 8 in the morning til 8 at night minus a two hour nap they are uncontrolable i have a hard time trusting people i dont know very well with my kids and the people i do trust have a few kids of there own so i dont want to ask them to take on 3 more and others that have babysat dont want to come back because they are such a handful. i dont know what to do my 3 year old is an awesome kid but no matter what you tell her she does what she wants and the twins they just never stop. just wondering if anyone had any tips on how to keep them under control or ways for me to vent without getting completely frustrated with them. i just want to be a good fun mom and i dont want to yell at them. i would greatly appreciate any feed back anyone might have. |
| Posted by rebecca on 04/22/2008 12:38 AM
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| Rebecca welcome tot eh group, first of all you are a good mom!!! It is completely understandable to be overwhelmed at times (as a matter of fact I think there would be something wrong if you didn't feel that way at times). I have a two year old son that is the exact same way, he gets up at 5 am everyday and never stops until 8 at night when he goes to bed (witht he execption of his nap) so I understand what you are going through (a little). Is your daughter in preschool, she is four years old and if she is not in preschool this year i would definately look into registering now for next fall. this will give her some constructive time and give you time off. Does she like to do little crafts or puzzles or coloring. Maybe if you can start a routine where she is working on some small fun prject that she can do at the table for a half hour in the afternoon and a half hour in the morning (I meant the opposite) Try going to PerpetualPreschool.com they have great ideas for small crafts and you can also print out coloring pages and activities. Then it is a matter of finding something for the twins. How old are they and what do they like to do. As far as venting that is what we are here for and you can always vent to us. Tell us alittle about your routine with the kids and it may help with some suggestions. |
| posted by Kyleen on 04/22/2008 07:56 AM
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| Hello to all and I have to say this seems like a great little group! Anyways, I was a preschool teacher for a few years and still teach the preschool Sunday school 1-2 times a month, have a 2 year old myself... and LOTS of children in our family!! The thing that I have always noticed, suggested to parents, and really put an emphasis on myself... is structure and routine. And amazingly enough children like it!! They function smoother, more efficiently and with a better attitude when they always know what's next in store for their day. If you do not have this already, I'm sure you will be amazed at your results after implementing this. Writing it out on a chart can be very helpful, even a big poster board so the kids can see... they might not be able to read but if it's big and colorful and representation of where to look to see the order of their day, it is great! They get excited and have things to look forward to. They learn that they can constructively move throughout their day and develop a security that will definitely poor over to how they behave and respond to situations. I really hope this helps and I commend you for reaching out~ and for simply being a mom!!! |
| posted by Samantha on 04/22/2008 03:29 PM
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hi i have a daughter who is 21 months old and she is on the go from the time she gets up till the time she goes to bed. she wakes up at 8:00 am everyday and she will go to bed around 9pm everynight, and she does not take a nap anymore but she will sit down and relax for about 1 hour every afternoon. and she gets into everything and she likes to dump things out and not pick them back up, and she likes to crushand smash anything that she can. i hjave a routine that we followand it does not seem to help any, but that is all part of being a parent. my family says that she act like she does because we don,t give her enough spankings or disiplin, and i tell them that i dont believe in spankins because as a child they did not work on my and they made me start to hate my parents and i give her time-outs and she will sit in them and then i also do holdings on her when she is haveing a really bad tantrum to keep her from hurting herself and others. but i guess you should just stick to your house rules and keep following them no matter what, and where every we go i assign a naughty spot like the fron seat of a cart or a park bench even a beach towle. i hope that some of these ideas work for you.
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