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Hi I have a question as to putting a harness on your child out in public? My daughter is 21 months old and we will be doing a lot of things this summer like going to the zoo and fairs. I was given a harness when my daughter was born and many people told me to return it because it will treat my daughter like an animal. I have never used it and I think that I will probley us it this Summer when we go to the zoo. My daughter already knows how to undo her stroller seatbelt along with her carset belts. She also knows hoe to get out of the cart by dropping over the side and lowering herself to the ground and then she will run. She thinks that it is a game and she will run about 20 feet ahead of us and then she will stop and let us cetch up to her and then she will run again. I fear that she will get lost in a crowd and get taken from us. I was almost kidnapped as a child and I dont want to lose my lil girl. I was wondering what are some of your views on this issue. I just want to have my daughter be safe and not get lost.
Jaimie
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| Posted by JAIMIE on 04/08/2008 02:59 PM
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| I say whatever works for you is just fine. Your number one priority is to keep your daughter safe. Who cares what other people think. I have also seen something that straps around the childs wrist and you hold the other end. Maybe that would be better. |
| posted by Shelly on 04/08/2008 03:44 PM
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| Hi Jaimie. I would not worry about what other people will think. You need to do what makes you feel safe. I think that a harness is a safe and good idea. I have a 21 month old son and he has harness that we use if he doesn't want to be in his stroller and he loves it. Don't worry about other people just worry about your daughter. |
| posted by Misty on 04/08/2008 03:51 PM
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| I have used both the harness and the wrist strap. The strap is great for an older child but the harness is great until they are about 3 or 4. I wouldn't care what people thought. It gives the child a little freedom, gives mom a break from having to carry or keep putting them back in a stroller and they never get lost. |
| posted by Sue on 04/10/2008 01:50 PM
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| i have a harness for my 2 yearold she started walking at 10 months so we started using it when she was a yearold i no longer have to use it. b/c now she stays in arms reach. i would use it if i were you. i actually got a lot of comments from the one that i used b/c it looks like a little monkey backpack with a tail the parents hold on to |
| posted by chrissy on 04/10/2008 02:48 PM
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| I agree with the other girls, whatever works for you. Some kids love to explore and that is why we are the prents to protect them and make them safe. If you feel better having her on it do it. Then maybe afer you teach her what he boundaries are on this harness she will learn and not need to be on it for very long:) |
| posted by Cindy on 04/11/2008 11:01 AM
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Jaimie, I have always thought that the same thing that your friends have about those harnesses. I saw someone using one I and I thought, I will never use one of those on my daughter, I had a child not a dog. But then again, my daughter can't walk yet. And the child that I saw strapped into it had to be about 5 or 6, and was walking next to her mother the whole time. I think in your situation it may be necessary. Won't it matter more to you if your child gets taken or lost, then what people will think if you use the harness? You need to think more about your daughters saftey then of what people are thinking about you.
And might I say you have a little genius on your hands! |
| posted by Becky on 04/18/2008 11:02 PM
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Jaimie;
Almost 40 years ago, while living overseas, kidnapping of children was common, and my mother had 4 toddlers; so when we went out in public, she had 4 leashes on us girls and
nothing was thought about it. As a mother myself living in Louisiana, I absolutely put leashes on my toddlers during Mardi Gras because it was a zoo!!! I never got any dirty looks or one comment! Now, 10 years later, I see moms with leashes all the time!!! Your daughters safety and your peace of the mind the the ABSOLUTELY MOST IMPORTANT thing. Use the leash, and be proud, girl!!! |
| posted by Suzanne on 04/19/2008 09:08 AM
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| I am glad to see all the support here, that is great! I have been on other sites where this topic came up and it got so unnecessarily controversial... this is how it should be. The mentioning of teaching boundaries and safety and using an aid along the way... that I believe is support! I have a 2 year old and I too received one as a gift at my baby shower and wasn't opposed to using it... I have had it all this time and never have actually needed to use it, but if at any time I felt I needed it then of coarse I would. I only have one child~ my sister in law has 5...ages 11, 6, 4, 2, and newborn and she has used them on her 4 and 2 year old... it has been necessary for her and we are just glad they are kept safe in an easier way for a busy mom! :) |
| posted by Samantha on 04/22/2008 04:45 PM
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