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I have a concern with my five year old son Dylan. He has always been a bright, imaginative, observant little boy. But since he started preschool this past fall I've noticed that he doesn't "like" school as much as I hoped he would. Don't get me wrong he has made friends and loves to play at school but when it comes to actual school work, like an art project or circle time, he could care less. He doesn't pay attention and sometimes comes home with a "poor listener" sticker for the day, for which he gets a priviledge taken away. He is behind on learning his letters and numbers, even though he could recite the alphabet at age two. When I try to practice with him at home he only will do it if he gets something out of it, like a snack. He easily gets frustrated and will give up when he doesn't get it right away. Sometimes I'm embarrassed that he doesn't try harder to learn and am worried that this is only the begining of more fights to come with him and school. He starts kindergarten in the fall and he already says that he doesn't want to go. My husband says this is a BOY thing and he will grow out of it. I hope he is right, but I'm worried either way. I highly value my education and want my sons to do the same.
So, do all boys prefer playing with action figures over school? And if so do they grow out of it? Or will this always be a battle with him? |
| Posted by Rhiannon on 04/02/2008 01:34 PM
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Hi Rhiannon
Probably you can get him to engage you and tell you exactly why he doesn't like school. If you indicated that he was always bright and imaginative but now hates school and is behind on learning areas such as letter, perhaps he may have a slight problem like dyslexia which can be easily addressed if diagnosed early. I think he might be trying and getting frustrated with the things that seem harder to him and therefore starting the act out. The "poor listener" sticker may make him feel the teacher is picking on him and since bring one home means he loses a privilege, then mommy and daddy are siding with the teacher against him.
Try to refocus on the things he actually likes to do and if you think it can be helpful have him evaluated for things such as dyslexia. Don't let it frustrate or embarrass you, as all kids learn and express themselves differently. Just try to identify what the root problem is early enough so that you can work together to resolve it. Don't let him start to think that mommy and daddy are against me on something I'm not comfortable with.
Good Luck! |
| posted by Afihtan on 04/02/2008 01:53 PM
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| I would ask your ped for advice, I know in our school system they actually have advanced program for kids who are extremly bright and just don't fit in w/ the normal school system, he might just be bored and not engaged to want to learn. |
| posted by Michele on 04/02/2008 03:40 PM
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| Every child learns differently. Try and find out what type of learner he is. http://www.ldpride.net/learningstyles.MI.htm . This will tell you the different types of learning styles. He might not learn by just listening so it might frustrate him. He might be a more kinesthetic learner or a combination of a couple. My older son is a visual and auditory learner while my younger son is visual and a kinesthetic(hands on) learner. Fining out his way of learning will help you to help him learn better. The best way to find out what he learns best is by observing him. I hope that helps some. |
| posted by Jody on 04/02/2008 03:53 PM
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