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My name is Teresa. I am 48, my guy is 54. He is now in a successful local cover band and getting a lot of attention. He is the band's manager and has chosen to book every weekend night for his gigs. He and I both work M-F at our regular jobs. We do not live together, he has custody of his kids and is raising them. He has a very busy life. We've been together nearly 6 years and recently in the past few months, he feels we are too different to stay together. I am mellow and have a lot of true lasting deep friendships and enjoy being social and also enjoy hominess and want to build a life together. His free time is filled with band, bookings and or going to clubs to be in the scene. Up until recently we balanced out pretty well and now it is like I have wasted 6 years with him. He wants to be single - I am sure this means "guilt free" and be the local rock star. He has little time for me and so imagining him with any other girl in a serious way is impossible. He either wants easy sex without any commitment or to just have and ego trip and ride the wave as long as it lasts with the music scene. This is killing be because underneath it all is a good old italian boy with real values. I don't get it. Is it a mid life thing, a rock star thing? I want him to have his music and be happy and have me too. I would never want him to change or stop playing just not so freakin' much. Now it's about to end and I feel abandoned by his music dreams. I sound like an egotist but I know and half the town knows how good we are together and he is willing to give me up. Any words from my fellow girls on what is going on and how to get through this? I want this man in my life. T
Posted by Teresa on 03/31/2008 06:32 PM \| edit \| delete

Hey! The truth is he probably has been wanting to live the rock n roll lifestyle since youth but now is his break. Most likely he is feeling guilty about not having the time to spend with you and that is the reason for the break up and not at all about women. If you don't mind being alone alot stick around he will be back. I am 34 and my man is turning 32 but he has been living the musician life since 16. What I mean about this is the little time for me and always on the go persona. It gets real lonely. The trick is to find a best girlfriend and enjoy the freedom.
posted by Linda on 04/04/2008 08:40 AM \| edit \| delete

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