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| My son who is almost 11 months old took his first steps today, and its so exciting! Of course his dad is upset because he was at work when it happened, his dad feels like he misses everything, he was in Iraq when he was born so he missed out on his first 6 months of his life and he works so he is missin out on him learning to crawl and now walking. Does anybody elses husbands or boyfriends get extremely upset when they miss these things? He just won't let it go and I can't stop my son from doing what hes gonna do. Just wonderin if it is happening to anybody else. |
| Posted by Courtney on 03/27/2008 01:17 PM
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| I don't personally have this problem but maybe you could start video taping your son for a period of time each day and when his dad gets home he could watch what he did that day. I know it is hard to miss firsts but try to encourage him that there will be many more. My daughter took her first steps at daycare. Good luck |
| posted by Heather on 03/27/2008 06:41 PM
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| Thanks for the advice, that is a very good idea...and hopefully it will make him feel a lot better! |
| posted by Courtney on 03/27/2008 08:51 PM
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| My husband works alot also and has missed out on alot. He gets disappointed but also does not want me to try and stop her from accomplishing her mile stones, try and take lots of video tapes, we hve about 32 hours her first two years of life, which is alot, but really isnt either. Jusat try and think what it would be like in the footdteps, but ask him to see it your way also, that you cant stop your son, |
| posted by Natasha on 03/27/2008 10:22 PM
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| My daughter is not walking yet, but she just started crawling and my husband is a truck driver so he missed out on it. He was sad, but he was also excited to hear of her getting into things and moving around more. We don't have a video camera unfortunately, so I made sure as soon as he came home he saw it first thing. He understands that she can't stop doing what she is going to do, so he is just happy that I talk about it and describe it to him. I also let him talk on the phone with her so he can possibly hear the new sounds/babbles she is making, although that never seems to work because she hears daddy on the phone and wants to kiss the phone instead of talk! |
| posted by Ashley on 03/28/2008 07:29 AM
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| My husband works a lot of hours during the weeks and he was diagnosed with cancer a few months ago. He realized how much he was missing while he was sick in bed during chemo treatments. Now when he is healthy enough to take care of our soon to be two year old he gets up with her on the weekends and lets me sleep in. He has said he really enjoys that one on one time with her. Also, I get out more without them now than I used to. Even if it's just to get my hair cut. My point is, maybe trying to give them more alone time will help him deal with his feelings. I've noticed a big difference in her dependence on him since we have been doing this and that really makes him feel good. |
| posted by Cinda on 03/28/2008 09:28 AM
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