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| My son is sweet and wonderful - but cries anytime anyone other than my husband or I try to hold or play with him - this includes his extended family ( grandparents etc.). Thsi happens at home and other places - I know it is normal to some extent, but this seems sever to me !!! Shouldn't hr not scream when his grandmother tries to hold him?! am I making too much of this?!! |
| Posted by sarah on 01/22/2007 01:06 PM
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| I experienced the same thing with my daughter. From the time she was about 5 months until she was close to 2 years old if anyone other than me (that includes my husband) was taking care of her, playing with her, or even just trying to hold her so I could have a break... she would cry to the point of making herself sick. I kept trying to get her used to having a babysitter, or having my husband care for her. I tried everything the pediatrician and any of my friends suggested. Nothing ended up working (I'm sorry to say). As long as she was with me all was well. I finally gave in (probably not the best thing I should have done). It was just easier. Not long after I stopped trying (probably about 4-6 months after) she was much more secure. She was all of a sudden a completely different child as I walked out the dorr there was no more crying. I got a hug and kiss and bye, bye mommy. I was amazed. No, you are not making too much of this. I honestly thought I was the only one who'd experienced this. I don't know how long it'll last, but hang in there. My experience (I think) was prolonged by the fact that I kept trying to fix it. It definitely is a normal part of development. Hope this helped! |
| posted by Tara on 01/24/2007 01:18 PM
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| My daughter is 21mths old and we have been going through this since she was 4mths old. Anytime anyone other than someone she sees VERY regularly gets near her or me, talks to her, or especially tries to touch her, she completely freaks out (the Dr., dentist, hairstylist are a nightmare!!). We have had to stop going to church bc she will not stay in the nursery. We hardly ever get to go out bc our sitter list is VERY short. It is really difficult sometimes. I wish I had sme magical advice for you, but i don't. I have found that allowing her to have these feelings, not making excuses for her shyness, and never forcing her to let someone hold her or invade her personal space is SLOWLY BUT SURELY building her confidence. When she feels shy or scared, I will allow her to hide in my arms. I never force her. I also give people a "heads-up" when possible-asking them to respect her personality and please do not crowd her or get near her too quickly. I have found that in social situations where she is scared/shy, if the people just kindly ignore her for a bit, let her get comfortable, and allow HER to make all the moves, she does tend to open up. Also, she loves dancing and music so we enrolled her in a kindermusik class to allow her to be around other people doing something she loves. She LOVES it and it is a place that she truely comes out of her shell. Hope maybe this helps or at least lets you know you are not alone! |
| posted by bethany on 02/06/2007 11:40 PM
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