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| My daughter is 2 years 7 months old. She has always been a great sleeper. All of a sudden she refuses to go to sleep. She just wants Mommy to rock her or take her downstairs. The problem w/ rocking her is that she just looks around and points to stuff. She won't go to sleep. She hasn't napped in 3 days, and she is just being incorrigible!!! Saturday night I got her to go to sleep for the night fairly well. She woke up at about 4:30 crying, but I patted her back and she went to sleep. Sunday she wouldn't nap, and then Sunday night she wouldn't go to sleep. She either climbed or jumped out of her crib, and hit her changing table and gave herself a bloody nose. We finally got her to pass out on her fold out POOH couch/bed. She woke up screaming yesterday morning at 6:30 am and wouldn't go back to sleep. She usually sleeps until at least 8. Yesterday she wouldn't nap, and she wouldn't go to sleep last night. We finally let her scream, and after about 10 minutes my husband got her to go to sleep on the POOH bed. She slept all night and got up normal time today, but woke up crying. We put her POOH bed in her room. We took the side off her crib after she hurt herself. She says that she is scared, but won't say why, and we really don't think she is. She is behaving more like it is just a temper tantrum and she wants what she wants. She didn't nap again today, and she hit our cat in the head with a box, and flung a kitchen rack onto the floor. HHHEEELLLPPP!!!!!!!! We are desparate for suggestions. We have tried monster spray, using stickers as incentive, etc, and nothing is working!!!!! |
| Posted by jennifer on 03/18/2008 05:09 PM
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Has something changed recently, like a new baby or move? That could trigger it. Maybe moving her into a big girl bed will help. She seems to like sleeping on the pooh bed, she might see that as a big bed...therefore prefering it.
Another idea, have her take a "rest time" for an hour or whatever time frame you prefer. This is a time that she's to stay in her room, even if she doesn't sleep. At least she'll be getting some down time. If she comes out, take her right back in and calmly say "it's rest time" and leave. After the amount of time that you choose, go and get her out. If she's sleeping, great...if not, rest time is over and she can come out and play. Constintency is what is key with this method. Don't give in to her coming out, continue to take her back. Maybe even play a certain cd that she only gets when it's rest time.
That's my ideas.
I hope something works for you. |
| posted by Sam on 03/18/2008 08:38 PM
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My son was about the same age when we started having similar problems, he turns 3 next month. In November I had to take away the afternoon naps because he wasn't going to bed till 10:30, 11:00. he occasionally naps but it is rare. but he does still get up in the middle of the night wanting to be changed or wants milk, we are working on him to get his own drink and go back to bed but that not going yet, but he does go right back to bed after I give him some and stays there till the morning, but we have been working on it for six months.
I think at this age their imaginations get to them, and we have tried incentives to get him to stay in bed, it works sometimes. but no kid sleeps all night, and the advice from my Ped was to teach them that it is alright to wake up in the night but that it is not alright to wake everbody else up. And I hate to tell you this but I think it just takes time and I hope your husband can help, my son won't let my husband put him back to bed. |
| posted by Michele on 03/18/2008 08:50 PM
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Hi Jennifer,
I agree with Sam, my son is 25 mos and just started sleeping in his toddler bed after his 2nd birthday. And consistency is the key. It was rough the first couple of weeks for us and then it got better and now it is usually really good, he woke up the other night screaming and it took us a while to calm him down I finally put him in his bed rubbed his back for a couple of minutes and he went back to sleep. I kind of think he was having a bad dream or something. But as soon as we do something different he expects it, like for example after a week we were getting so tired of walking him back to bed that after many many times we would just lay on the floor until he went to sleep, well then we had to do it every night when we put him to bed. And I was like no we are not going to do this anymore so I told him that he was a big boy and he needed to lay down and go to sleep without mama or daddy on the floor, I gave him two chances and then I told him if he got up again I was going to put the gate up at his door, that's all it took, that kid goes right to sleep and I don't have to put the gate up. If she is able to be up and moving in the night now it's just going to take you putting her back in her bed everytime unitl she gets the picture, my son cried the first two nights when we would make him go back to his bed but by the thrid night it was like a game to him he didn't cry or scream anymore after that, he laughed he thought it was funny that we had to take him back to bed a million times that's when we finally just laid on his floor which I think was fine for the time but he is used to everything now and was just using that as an excuse so that is why the other night I told him about the gate, hope this helps good luck! |
| posted by amy on 03/18/2008 09:03 PM
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| Must be sumthin in the air cause Lexi was doing the same stuff.She actually took a nap yesterday and slept last night after fussing for 30 min.Im sick w pnemonia maybr she elt sorry for me lol. |
| posted by Lexi on 03/19/2008 10:52 AM
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| The day they can climb outa bed is the day to buy a toddler bed and an extra high fence gate.Put her in her room and put the gate up.If she climbs out of her bed at least she wont get hurt.If she cries to get out of room keep putting her in bed and keep telling her that she has to go to sleep.Shell get the hang of it in about 1 r 2 weeks.If she goes to sleep by the fence then so be it.At least shes in her room.If she climbs over the fence then get a small one to put on top of the high 1.You can see her and she can see out. |
| posted by Lexi on 03/19/2008 11:43 AM
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| I have read that naps begin to fade off.Just keep your bedttime routine the same each night.She could have had a bad dream.just stay strong! |
| posted by nicole on 03/20/2008 11:13 AM
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| Thanks to all of you who posted comments. Sorry for the delay in getting back. My computer time is limited these days due to the lack of naps. She still isn't napping. Maybe one day a week. The getting up at night is what is really killing me though. She went to the doctor last Wednesday for a rash, which the doctor seems to think is a viral infection that could be causing the sleeping problems. I have to follow up with the doctor. We try not to go into her room in the middle of the night unless we have to, but she just figured out how to open her door. If I go in she wants me to stay, but she doesn't try to go to sleep. She is better with my husband, but he has to work, so it is hard for him to get up with her. I try not to engage her. I just put her back in her bed. I will change her diaper if she is really wet. I try to sit for a minute or two, then I tell her she has to go to sleep by herself in her bed and stay there. Last night she woke about 1 am and was moving around in her room until around 1:30 when she started banging on the door trying to open it. I was successful in getting her to go back to sleep last night, but not usually. The combined lack of napping and lack of proper sleeping at night is making her really incorrigible during the day! Has anyone else experienced anything similar? |
| posted by jennifer on 03/31/2008 10:40 AM
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Jennifer
Believe me when I say I know where you are coming from, I have a 25 1/2 month old and he will rule the house if I will let him. You have to stick to your guns. There are days when my son doesn't want to take a nap but that is not an option. I make him and yes sometimes it is a pain to walk him back in there 4 or 5 times but he eventually gets the picture, If he doesnt' at least take an hour nap he would be ready for bed at 5 or 6 p.m. and that is not an option either since he would be up at 4 a.m. or so. Don't let her make the decsions your the mom, and this can all be done postively she will get the hang of it but you have to let her know that your are the boss. Good Luck. |
| posted by amy on 03/31/2008 02:47 PM
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| Jennifer my son Lucas is 26 months old and we had the same problem couple weeks ago. My husband and I went out of town for our first weekend and he stayed with my in laws for 4 days/3 nights and he is really bad sleeping in other places since he was over a year so they said he had only one night straight and the otherones waking up duing the night like always when hi is out. At home he is a great sleeper. I felt terrible waking up every 2 hours I felt like having a newborn. I left him cry and he never stop (before it worked very well) so we went into his room and sat on the couch until hi fall sleep but he was still waking up. We left couple nights on the light from his bathroom and then now we do not close his bedroom and now he has those little night lights on but when he wakes up during the night we just let him know from our bedroom and say We are here love go back to sleep and we dont go anymore to his room and we also put a picture of us in his crib and we tell him we never will live him anymore. THe thing is he loves my in laws and hi is the only grandchild. I'm thinking to get a toddler bed maybe is the time what hi has are a crib net bc he was ready to jump. |
| posted by Angela on 04/01/2008 12:47 AM
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