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I am a SAHM of a 34 month old son & a 14 month old daughter. My husband is out of the country, and I dont have any friends or family around to help with the kids. Needless to say, I am going a little crazy. My biggest source of aggrevation is my son Landis. Landis was THE PERFECT baby...soooooooo laid back and easy. However, since my daughter was born, which also coincided with his turning two, he has become increasingly more difficult. He whines, cries and throws fits CONSTANTLY. I thought he would grow out of it, but it is only getting worse. I have read books, talked to Dr.s, etc... Nothing has worked. I am at my wits end. It is getting to the point where I can hardly stand being around him. I feel like a failure as a mom because he just seems so miserable and unhappy all of the time.
Does anyone have any suggestions? Or just reassurance that I am not the worst mom in the world. I love my children very much, and try to show them that as much as possible. However due to my situation, I have not been very happy lately myself. I try to hide this from my kids, but I worry that this is why Landis seems so unhappy.
Leanne |
| Posted by leanne on 01/21/2007 12:56 PM
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Hi Leanne,
I have twins so my kids did not have to go through the stage "who is this new person taking my mother's attention", but from the experience of friends in you same case, it seems that all the first born have a problem with the second one, expecially if there are boys.
Some kids express it, as your son, some just nurture this feeling of hate either toward the sibling or the mother.
Somehow, I think the first born is not sure where is his place anymore and he feels unconfortable and frustrated.
Try to relax, maybe tell him story about how siblings could do fun thing together, somehow he has to see that there is an advantage in sharing his mother!
You have two cute kids, so be happy and don' t feel so self-conscious about the fits, maybe if you don' t make a big deal about it he will see that to get your attention he has to change tactic. Just a suggestion!
Keep in touch
Vero
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| posted by Vero on 01/22/2007 09:58 PM
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Vero,
Thanks so much for your response, I really appreciate it. I was hoping that Landis was getting over his jealousy, but it seems to be getting worse. He does love his sister, and for the most part is great with her. It is me that he seems to hate alot of the time. With my husband gone, it is hatd for me to get any one on one time with Landis, and that is hard because a long time it was just him and me.
I will hang in and hopefully things will improve as Halina gets older and they are able to play more.
Thanks again,
Leanne |
| posted by leanne on 01/23/2007 12:52 PM
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| Hi Leanne--my son was 2 yrs old when my daughter was born. I know what you are going through. She plays with a lot of his toys and he does not like it. We constantly have to tell him to be nice, don't hit, to share etc...But the best way for him to learn was for us to SHOW him how to be nice and how to share. Kids his age need more specific instructions. We told him to give his sister toys so that they could play together or to give her hugs. He still throws a fit sometimes but that's to be expected. Hope it helps that you are not alone. And you are not a failure. Hang in there--- |
| posted by Christine on 02/18/2007 08:07 PM
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hi
Leanne u should never see yourself as a failure.Im a mom of 1; a 2yr old son. If u are being down on youself he will pick up on that and possibly reble more.TRy to be happy around him yet try to teach him that his sister is here to stay and maybe have him teach her things also , Maybe if he feels alittle grown up around her like maybe teach her to use a fork and spoon or to JUMP maybe Landis will feel like a real big brother. hope it helps
Laura |
| posted by laura on 02/19/2007 02:18 PM
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