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| I am having seperation anxiety. After about 11 weeks on leave I went back to school full time. My mother keeps my son. I live close to the school so sometimes she brings him to the school on my lunch, or if I can sneak away I come home. Yet and still, I feel terrible. When I am with him I am completely exahausted, still trying to get stuff done, and trying to spend time with him. Now my milk has slowed almolst to a hault. I am having the hardest time coming to terms with having to feed him formula. My mom already rushed me to start giving him a little cereal. He adjusted to that very well, and I did too. But I almost feel like I am losing a part of our bond now that we may not be breastfeeding and I will be at school 8 hours a day. |
| Posted by Kanisha on 03/12/2008 10:42 AM
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Hi Kanisha
Don't take the separation too hard. Take comfort in the fact that your mom is able to watch him so he is technically still "at home" with family. I also needed to go back to work after about 3 months and then started school again when my son turned a year. His dad had a more flexible schedule so he was able to stay with him when I was not there. He'll never forget the bond with you, and take comfort even in the little minutes to kiss him good night or just let him know you're there before you leave. |
| posted by Afihtan on 03/12/2008 12:11 PM
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I feel like crying for you! I'm so glad you have a mother there for you and your baby! This can't be easy, girl, I'm sure.
He'll do just fine on the formula; he will! I promise. Don't give him cereal yet, his little tummy isn't ready. Our moms won't understand - "I gave it to you in the bottle and you turned out fine"....but don't...unless your pediatrician says it's okay.
Listen, take care of that baby's mommy, okay? And let yourself cry it out when you need to.
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| posted by Kelly on 03/22/2008 10:43 PM
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| Can't you pump milk at school? Medela makes an awesome electric double pumper. This way you won't have to resort to formula. However, at first you will have to pump a lot so you build up enough storage for his daily feedings and have reserves frozen in the freezer. This will definitely help your milk supply come back. I typically feed my son in the morning, then pump right after that to get the most milk (typically 5-6 ounces). Then, if I pump periodically throughout the day I will get 1-3 ounces at a time. Hang in there if you can. Breast milk is the ABSOLUTE best for babies (not trying to cause any controversies). You're transferring your immunity to your child, and there are components in breast milk that cannot be duplicated in formula. Good luck. |
| posted by Allison on 03/24/2008 04:33 PM
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| I took a lot of online class right after I had my daughter, but when I did get back to the campus, it was to work in the bookstore. I was upfront about wanting to pump, and my (male) boss was really great about it. We worked it out so that I could use the dressing room in the nearby theater department to pump. They even suggested I make a "keep out" sign for privacy, since it was half dressing room half ladies room. I know exactly how you feel about wanting to be home with baby. My daughter is 17 months old now, and I still feel guilty whenever I have to study or do homework and I cant give her attention. We just need to have faith that all the hard work will pay off, and our children will be better off for the result of our education. |
| posted by Keshia on 03/24/2008 09:16 PM
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