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| My 6 month old girl isn't able to sooth herslef to sleep at night and when she wakes up at 2:00 am she crys for hours non stop. Any advise on how to get her to sooth herslef or is it ok to just keep picking her up and rocking her to sleep? |
| Posted by Amanda on 04/18/2007 11:43 AM
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| My daughter will be a year next month and she still cant sooth herself, my doc said some babys will just do it when there ready, so i still pick her up and rock her back to sleep. hopefully she will learn soon!! good luck tho if you figure it out let me know! |
| posted by andrea on 04/18/2007 01:43 PM
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are you children using the parcifier?
My son was very hard to fall asleep, at 18 monthes he decided to take the parcifier and our life changed!
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| posted by Vero on 04/18/2007 08:07 PM
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| I use a pacifer and works, unless she is hungry . She is 10 month old, and acctually I try to teach her to fall asleep without pacifaier, but it's tough. |
| posted by Hanna on 04/18/2007 10:36 PM
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Thanks Andrea,
My husband wanted to try the "ferberize" style on her and it actually worked. The first night she cried like crazy, but the next night not as much. The method came from a Dr. Ferber. It wasn't easy at all and I gave in more then once but it got to the point that Emily knew if she cried long enough I would pick her up. So we did again when I was ready and it wasn't easy still but did it.
I was told I have to stick with it so I did. I was thinking she going to hate me I know it. But the next morning she was all smiles and happy to see us.
What you do is put the child in the crib and when she starts to cry go and comfort her without picking her up then walk away and come back 15 min. later, then 20 min. later, 30 min. later. This is letting her know your there for her but your not going to pick her up. So far it's working, but again it's not easy to do and it might take the parents a long time to stick with it. I cried myself because I wanted to pick her up.
Amanda |
| posted by Amanda on 04/19/2007 11:15 AM
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I have heard of that method...and I've heard it does work...my mom said she always just let her children cry themselves to sleep...she said it wasn't easy, either...but, I guess my dad pretty much made her do it...but, we were happy campers when we woke up.
My son sleeps in our bedroom...not with us...but, in our bedroom on account of us moving so much and not having a place of our own because of moving and relocating (long story)...but, he sleeps next to us in a bouncer (doctors orders due to our son spitting up so much) and he knows that it is time for bed because he sees us going to bed also. So, he takes his pacifier and is out like a light!! I understand this won't work for everyone and it won't always work for us...but, for now...it's working great!! |
| posted by amy on 04/19/2007 01:55 PM
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My baby had a really hard time soothing himself to sleep after he had RSV for a month. I had been sleeping in his room with him in the single bed and he got used to me being there.
We also did the Ferber method and it worked. Each night got better and within a week he was able to sooth himself again.
He hums himself to sleep by sucking on his arm or fingers.
He was a thumb sucker at an earlier age. He is 11 months now. Hang in there and your baby will figure out how to do it. |
| posted by on 04/20/2007 09:16 PM
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| Thanks guys for your help. I find it really hard for me to hear her cry. I wish there was an earier way to do it. It really pulls at my heart. |
| posted by Amanda on 04/21/2007 10:07 PM
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| I look at it this way (because I HATED hearing her cry too): you are doing your child a huge favor as a parent by giving the opportunity to learn how to get themselves to sleep. They're going to have to learn it eventually! Plus, if they aren't sleeping and you aren't sleeping it's bad for both of you. My daughter is a different baby since she started sleeping 11 hours at night--they wil be just fine. I'm sure it will be much harder on you!! |
| posted by Briana on 04/22/2007 04:17 PM
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| I am having the same problem, but I don't agree with the cry it out method. I just found a book by Elizabeth Pantley called the No cry solution... I ordered it, I should have it in about three more days, can't wait. I want to try this method and give it a good chance. If you do a search on her you should be able to get to her web site there you can see her beliefs and methods. I will let you know how it works for us. |
| posted by susan on 05/04/2007 09:14 PM
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| I don't think there is one right way of doing things or one method is better than other. You have to try many different things and see what works for you and your baby. We are all different. Books are great source but it may not work for every child. My son is 3 months old. When he cries at night, I first try to give him his pacifier. Then I turn the mobile and the vibrator on his bassinet on. If he continues to cry, I pick him up. If he needs to be changed and fed, I do that and then I put him back to sleep. Sometimes he'll lay there but he wants to see my face until he falls asleep. I think all moms feel heartbroken when they see their babies cry. In addition, we all want to do what's best for them. If what you are doing now is working for you and your daughter, then you should continue with it. You daughter will not remember and she'll continue to love you just as much. |
| posted by Monique on 05/05/2007 06:18 PM
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