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Hello,
Our son Garrett has started testing the waters (I guess you could call it that) but only at home and some with his nanny & poppy. He has not been acting like this until maybe a little after Christmas. At home lately the last few weeks or so that has changed. Has any of you had this happen, if so would you mind sharing about it and what you did to help it get better?
Anyway at school the teachers all say that your son is so sweet and nice, we enjoy having him in our class. I have even gone to pick him up a little early (and watched him in class without him seeing me) and they are right he is not the same little boy. At one time he was, but not now. There is a little boy in his class that does act out a lot and some of the stuff I have seen that little boy do in his class is some of the stuff he will try at home with us. He will ask about doing something or going somewhere and when you tell him that we can not do that or go there, he will start yelling and crying and saying yes I can or yes I will. One other thing that makes me think it is coming from what he sees at school is he is only doing some of the same things that other little boy is doing and also some of the same things he is saying. This is not the Garrett we are use too. It seem that everything we have tried does not work..........PLEASE HELP!
Trish |
| Posted by Trish on 03/07/2008 11:47 AM
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| My son Sabian is the same way. When he was at school was very polite and did everything that the teacher asked he even picked up after they got done playing. At home was another thing. I know alot that had to do with the kid next door. I mean ours got bad that boy would talk about girls parts kissing girly magz. talk about death saying bad words. Mind you this boy was only 5 and my child was 4. We just had to not let him be around that kid anymore. I had to explain to his parents that I did not want my child learning those things at such a young age. Maybe its just me but I dont think that a child should learn those thigs to later in life. Now they have moved and the only problem that we have with Sabian is that he does not want to pick up his room. Now all those things did not happen at school it was only when he was with that kid and when we did not let him play with him. It was horrible but we got through it pulling our hair out cause we did not know what to do but we got through it. |
| posted by Jessica on 03/07/2008 02:49 PM
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| Take him out of that lil school and re-program him.He sees others doing it ;so hes going to do it.I would also ask that he not be allowed that lil boy.Thats what I would do anyway.Maybe he'll grow out of it and maybe it'll get worse.You never know. |
| posted by Lexi on 03/07/2008 03:18 PM
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| We like his school and he is doing really good there. I just wish they would take that little boy out of his class. I think that would be a big help, but that is only my thoughts though. The school and the boys parents have had some people come into the classroom and watch the boy and test him for ADHD and a few other things. The boys moms was telling a few of us moms one day in the hall when we were waiting to pick up the kids that he does have ADHD. It is so bad that she now has to come and stay at school everyday in the class to help the teachers with him so he can stay in school. |
| posted by Trish on 03/07/2008 04:41 PM
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| Your child will be exposed to lots of different children in his school career and unfortunately you can't pick and choose who is in his classroom. You can't take him out of 1st,2nd grade etc..because you don't like another student. You need to be firm and consistent with him in how you discipline him..Tell him that is NOT how you act in this house and give him consequences when he does..a 41/2 year old is sure old enough to understand consequences. Tell him that so and so acts that way BUT you do not..We had a similiar experience with my 4 year old and her 1st year of preschool and that is how I handled it and it seemed to work with her..Good Luck :) |
| posted by Pamela on 03/08/2008 08:00 PM
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Pamela,
Thanks for your input. I will have to try what you suggested....hopefully it will work. Plus you are right we will run into that again at some point in school or somewhere else. If not that something else. That is also why I want to get it taken care of now, so he will know that he can not act like that at home or anywhere else.
Thanks,
Trish |
| posted by Trish on 03/08/2008 10:28 PM
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| You are not alone!! My son is going through the same thing! I have explained to him that if he keeps acting this way I will have to take him out of school and keep him at home like a baby! "Because that is how babies act!" Is what I told him! He said "Mom I am not a baby, so I will have to be a nice boy and be good in school." I told him that is what I wanted to hear! So far we have only had 1 problem, but thats it...try talking to the teachers about keeping him awawy from this kid...good luck. |
| posted by Shelley on 03/09/2008 03:34 AM
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Well we have been working with Garrett with a few of the ideas I got from some of you and a few others. So far what has been working the best is a sticker reward chart for being good.
After being good for a few days he will get to do something he likes to do, or go somewhere he would like to go. The first few days after being good he got to go to Walmart and pick a toy for under $5. We are now finishing up today for the last 5 days, and he gets to go to the park with mommy and a few of his friends to play and have lunch tomorrow after preschool. The weather her has been nice lately......in the 60's and low 70's the last few weeks. Great weather for the park.
Now next week is spring break from preschool and my husband has Thrusday off work. So we have told Garrett that if he can stay good next week his reward for getting stickers on the reward chart will be to go to the Zoo. This will also be for being good for over two weeks almost three. He loves the Zoo so we thought it would be a good reward for almost 3 weeks of being good.
Hopefully this will keep working and before long we will not have anymore problems. Thanks for all of you suggestions and ideas. |
| posted by Trish on 03/19/2008 11:38 AM
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