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I have a 13 month old who has decided to not be my delightful loving child that I have come to know over the last couple months. i am aware that this is a stage but I also know that he is testing me and the way i respond will greatly mold him in the futre so i want to do it right!!!! this is my current system
I give a stern no
ignored
spat on the hand
laughed at
3 spankings on behind
This will make him mad and lead to a retaliation (i.e a thrown sippie cup)
Timeout for 2 minutes in crib, alone in room
I feel like this works but i do not want to constantly be spanking and putting my son in timeout does anybody have any better ideas or creative solutions??????
Also we will be having our second child at the end of April does anybody have any ideas to get him ready?
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| Posted by whitney on 03/05/2008 05:20 PM
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| You know, I have some of the same problems with my 16 month old. It seems like no matter how many times I tell her no or spat her hand, she will still play in the trash or the cat litter, or whatever else she knows she's not supposed to be doing. I went to the public library and checked out several books about parenting toddlers they all stressed how curious and experimental toddlers are. They said to try to redirect their attention and curiosity toward something else. I've been trying it. It takes a lot of energy, and I dont think you can call it discipline, but I find it less stressful to show her something else to do than fight constant battles |
| posted by Keshia on 03/07/2008 07:32 AM
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| I think its totally normal for toddlers to do this. They are testing their limits. My 16 month old does the same thing. I just try to redirect her and distract her away from what she's doing. Sometimes it works. Sometimes it doesn't and she throws her tantrum. The funny part about it is that she will get all worked up because I tell her no and start to cry but wants me to pick her up and make it better. I'm not sure if its because I'm a single mom and she doesn't have anyone else to go to for the comfort after I've disciplined her. If I'm at my sister's house, she will go to my sister instead. I do put her in her room if I know that my own anger is really building up. That is truly to protect her because I wouldn't want to get so angry that I hurt. Discipline is very difficult at this age. |
| posted by Mary J on 03/07/2008 08:34 AM
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| Lexi knows that if she starts to throw a tantrum that there are consequences.I dont have that problem w her very much.I think it helps that her daddy is at home and if he hears it and is woke up that shell get in trouble.She listens to his firm voice better then my soft 1.I spank her lil hand w 2 fingers if she touches things that she shouldnt and I tell her no!Shes dont very well w this so far. |
| posted by Lexi on 03/07/2008 03:22 PM
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