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| A very challenging thing is raising girls. The very first thing I teach girls is to never put another girl down for any reason. Meaning not to treat her is she isn't good enough to be a friend or pretty enough to achieve. Also make it known that all girls need to be independent these days. " Be smart and pretty." It starts at a very young age as when you should tell them to be smart. There is so muchmore to be said about raising girls but I don't want to bore you. |
| Posted by Ms. D on 02/29/2008 11:05 AM
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Ms.D
Hi I am a single father raising a young daughter without her mother(deceased). I am trying to gather as much info as I can inregards to raising a girl and trust me when I say this that you can write to me anytime you want to share information. I am a father that would love to teach his daughter to be a strong independent woman. I believe in that theory " Give a man fish and he eats for a day, Teach a man to fish and he eats everyday."
I was raised with 5 brothers and no sisters so i don't have the experience of growing up with girls and the challenges that they face. But I have learned throughout life that it much more difficult to grow up as a girl than a boy.
So with that being said please feel free to bore the heck outta me. LOL
Robert V |
| posted by Robert on 03/02/2008 05:05 PM
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| I can completely relate to your situation... and god I only wish my father had the sensitivity that you posses when my mother died. Some struggles I faced was feeling alone, My dad didn't understand my emotions and frankly at 9 neither did I. I really needed a woman to be there whether it was a good friend of my dad's or someone he settled with, who was invested in me as much as him to help with my needs to help bridge the gap. It's important to not baby her or feel bad for her too much. I hated that people viewed me as less than, or damaged by the situation of loss. I wanted to believe I could have a normal life and peoples emotions rarely reflected that for me to hold onto the belief. Her struggles will depend on her age and her needs. No matter how much she needs to talk...listen. You are a great dad to care and think about what she needs! |
| posted by Shannon on 03/03/2008 09:54 PM
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Mr. Robert,
I will say as much as I can. Typing is sometimes hard. There is so much to be said about raising kids in general. But girls,girls,girls...whew!
I have a platonic, best, male friend that I helped raise his daughter. We didn't live together but I was a phone call away,sometimes I had to make a drive. I had girl talk wih her. It isn't always about scolding her. Just like a boy needs to just be around a positive man. I would pick her up and we'd hang at my house. We'd paint our finger nails together, do one anothers hair and look at magazines. Why? This built her character as a girl. She learned how to paint her nails, do hair and look at girls in magazines to learn how to dress. I always told her girls carry their purses. I bought her a purse. You never want a girl to get started carrying a purse once she has her period. She needs to carry them early to get prepared for responsibility. Of course purses aren't just for period stuff. I bought her the very first bra. Her dad didn't have a clue , at 9 years old she needed a training bra. She was 5 mos. old when I met her dad. Now she is 18. She has so much love for me. She calls me her aunt. But she loves her dad the most for allowing me to be in her life. Her first period wasn't a disaster because I told her what to do. I prepared her dad for being sensitvie during that time. I'm not trying to be religious here, but Gods plan was for the mother to nurture. This is why this isn't easy for a man. Men weren't built for this. But in society today, we have to do our best. I have a son and daughter. They weren't raise with a father. Therefore, I had the same challenge raising my son. No matter what you. You can paint nails with her as a man, it will not be the exact same as if you were a women. But your daughter will get a kick out of you trying. Now, I'm not suggesting this Primarily I am giving some examples. Most important thing you can do for your daughter is be positive. Always tell her she is pretty. Girls need that. But when something she is wearing or doing isn't age appropriate don't let her do/wear it.
My daughter loves me for being strong and not allowing her to do "what everyone is doing." She actually sees the consequences from her peers. |
| posted by Ms. D on 03/04/2008 07:10 AM
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