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| I was watching the news last night, and one of the stories was a man who left his infant daughter in a cab, and just took off running. I get so upset when I see these stories, about people abandoning their kids. Just this winter there was an abandoned baby found in a dumpster in NYC. I just do not understand what drives someone, a mother to do this to their child. What happens exactly that prevents the bond from developing between mother and child? It is not only teens doing this, it is grown women just deciding their kid belongs in the garbage. I am wondering why they make the choices they make, especially when all of the resourses are provided for help, or even dropping the child off at the hospital or a church with no consequence. |
| Posted by on 02/29/2008 10:54 AM
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| Well there is 1 reason they dont drop em' off.Drug addiction.If a child is, they hunt momma down.Sickness in the brain I suppose is the other 1. |
| posted by Lexi on 02/29/2008 10:28 PM
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| Yeah but I think they started making it so the mother could just go and drop off the baby with no consequence because they figured if they said no consequence, then people would be more likely to do the right thing as opposed to dumpsters and other sickening ways of disposing of the baby. |
| posted by on 02/29/2008 10:49 PM
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| Ya know....people do crazy things for different reasons. We all reached out to strangers b/c raising children is very hard. It doesn't matter if you are married or in commited relationships with the father, sometimes you still feel so alone. Then when the child starts crying, etc or if you can't afford food or diapers or milk. It really does something to a person. Believe that I am not making excuses for anyone. I just try not to judge b/c I am so far from being perfect, I just really try to understand. Also, there are so many sicknesses out there that people don't realize they have. Bipolar for instance, I learned about this sickness over the past year and this sickness messes with your mind and makes you act or react in ways that you never thought you would. I really think everything happens for a reason. Even though abandoning kids in cabs and garbages is barbaric, maybe those children would have eventually been through something 20 times worse if they remained with those parents that left them. Who knows. |
| posted by Danielle on 03/01/2008 10:45 PM
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| I get the part about the people being not all there or just snapping because of outside issues, but what I am trying to figure out is why not give yourchild at least a fighting chance. Instead of being so aweful as to throw them in a dumpster. The cab wasn't so bad, the cab driver was there, but what if the cab driver was a pedophile, you know? I guess because I can't imagine doing anything like that it is hard for me to wrap my thoughts around why someone wouldn't just take the child to a hospital or a church, instead of adding insult to injury. |
| posted by on 03/02/2008 07:51 AM
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| Yes, it's barbaric and extreme, and I get angry when I read about these instances, but I also seem to feel a lot of empathy for the person at the same time. I think that they must be tormented, mentally ill, emotionally immature, maybe have a history of childhood abuse/trauma, drug abuse history, etc. that they are incapable of connecting with their child. I think sometimes they might struggle with their own low self worth and hate themselves. If you can't love and value yourself, how can you love and value another, especially your own child? I agree that dropping the child off at a local church, fire station, etc. is the better way to go for the child's best interest, but to do that requires rationale thought, caring and making a conscious choice, things that that person may be incapable of in that moment. |
| posted by on 03/02/2008 09:20 AM
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