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How do you explain to your child the absence of the other parent?
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e/she is probably constantly exposed to the traditional family images, like mother/father's day... evne in the kids books like stories of Mother Bear, Father Bear and Little Bear...
It is un-avoidable, and all single parents have the same challenge, so how do you handle it?
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| Posted by Vero on 11/05/2006 03:32 PM
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Luckily for me, I don't have to worry about this........ YET.
My daughter is only 1 yr old and I hope she doesn't even remember her dad.
But I would really like to know how others deal with this too, it will help me in the future. |
| posted by Joy on 11/08/2006 02:10 PM
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| I am not single but I can pass on the experience of a close friend. The couple separated when the kid was just a baby, now he is two years old but when she read stories where there is "dad" she tells him that he had a dad too he is just not with them. Most important of all she does not convey her personal feeling of the father to the child. I thought it was a healthy approach to I wanted to pass it on. |
| posted by Vero on 11/09/2006 11:23 AM
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| That question is prob the most difficult one my ex did not see our son for the first 10 months of his life and i used to sit around wondering the same thing. I decided that it was best for my son to find out for himself what his dad is like i had to write him a letter asking him if he wanted to see jack, it was the hardest thing i ad to do and now i know that ive done everything in my power to involve my ex in my son's life. Whether he stays in his life or not i don't no but Jack is going to grow up knowing only the few good points his dad has got |
| posted by Rachael on 01/14/2007 12:10 PM
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| Since my ex is in jail he has only seen his son a few times in his 3 1/2 years. My son does know who he is and I keep a picture of him and his dad on his nightstand. I never express any of my true feelings regarding his father too him. I think it's better that I raise him with a positive idea of his father and let him decide when he's old enough to understand. I thought it best if he can talk about his dad in the same manner as ever other child he interacts with. Only difference being is that his daddy lives very far away. As for the truth, I'll cross that bridge when he's older and when I absolutely have too. I don't want my exs mistakes to have a negative impact on our son. |
| posted by Claudine on 01/14/2007 07:02 PM
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| My son is a year old and has never met his father. He killed himself when I was pregnant. I don't know if I should tell my son the whole story when hes older or if I should let my son believe his dad and I were in love till the end. Any one been through this? |
| posted by Tristin on 01/28/2007 10:50 AM
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| it just depends on your child's reaction. If your child is not showing any curiosity about the absentee parent then you're in luck with it. Until the child is ready to ask questions and wants to know then be prepare for that. You can't always protect your child from knowing where the absentee parent. Because when that day comes, you'll have to have answers to explain. My children had come to accept that their father doesn't want them. He said so in the court room. He wanted parental rights and the judge said no. It hurt them tremendously but they told me that it was ok mom because they know they are being love by me and they know I will always be there for them. So just watch your child attitude and behavior. And then go from your gut feelings. |
| posted by Lorelei on 02/20/2007 11:10 AM
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