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Preparing 4 year old for Kindergarten...Stressed Out!
Hi everyone,

I always was the sort of 'laissez-faire' mom...I thought that kids should be kids and not be stressed out about learning stuff. I'm not a competitive mom in any sense. However, I'm getting very stressed out. I was presented with a 'prepared for kindergarten?' checklist that includes the following:

Know your full name and how to write it
Know your whole address and telephone number
Count to 20 and also count by 5's
some basic reading.

My child is 4!!! He cannot do any of these. He recognizes the entire alphabet but doesn't have the ABC song memorized--so he doesn't know what comes 'after' H, for example.

He can count to 10 perfectly but messes up and skips 12 each time.

I had him in Montessori for less than a year. I love that sort of exploratory learning versus being forced to sit in a seat all day. Trouble is, the Montessori schools around here have 30 kids in each room with one teacher and an assistant..and they have the nerve to charge 10,000 a year for Pre-K!

What would you do?
Posted by Amy on 02/22/2008 08:45 PM

 
As you usually don't get stressed I wouldn't over this either. I don't know where you live but when my daughter started kindergarten we didn't get a checklist informing us what she should know. She did know how to spell her first name but our last name is challenging for adults so it was difficult for her but she did get it. Most of the things you listed were things she learned while in kindergarten. I know they sent a form requesting the information for the children to learn while in school and we parents were to try to get them to learn them at home but not before they actually got to school. I know what I tell you doesn't help you but since you said your lchild is 4 so he will be starting school in September so you could spend time with him going over his name and counting. My child skipped some numbers and so does my 3 year old now but eventually they do get it and he will too.
posted by MK on 02/23/2008 09:41 AM

I believe there's a list just like that in the town I live and I am just assuming now that my child is going to do the Pre-K two times. She is going to be 4 in June and I am starting to fear the same things. Tuesday she has an appt with an early learning center for an evaluation but I doubt anything they do will really speed her up. I still believe kids learn at their own rate but decided to try the program out because she is so bored at home. Two playdates a week for 2 hours a pop still isn't enough for her it seems.
posted by Linda on 02/24/2008 04:56 PM

Also, find out if your town has VPK that covers the cost of part-time Pre-K in your area. Usually you can select the school.
posted by Linda on 02/24/2008 04:57 PM

What is a VPK?

Where i live the only affordable or free preschool is for people who are VERY VERY low income--I'm talking a family of 3 must make $30,000 or less! Around here RENT on a one bedroom is about $1200 a month so as you can see, that is virtually IMPOSSIBLE for any family to do. They probably give all this to single mothers or people who can hide their income.
posted by Amy on 04/20/2008 08:25 AM

Addressing the issue of your child not knowing all of his ABCs - expose him to letters, songs, rhymes, and sounds everywhere you go. Point out letters on signs, at the grocery story, in his room, at the doctor's office, everywhere. Read ABC books like A My Name Is Alice or Chicka Chicka Boom Boom - two of my daughter's favorites! And play fun ABC songs while doing an alphabet activity - like Mr. Wee and Boo's Wee-phabet Adventure (http://www.mrweeandboo.com) Make learning fun by showing your child how much fun you are having!
posted by Dannie on 02/17/2009 10:45 AM

I'm with ya on the getting nervous for Kindergarten.  We have elected to put the twins into private school.  Just for my insanity sake...Mississippi isn't known for it's excellence in public schools.  I've found a couple of cool workbooks for them to do every week or so and just challange their brains. 

I belong to the Children's Book of the Month Club (http://www.cbomc.com) and got The Disney Learning Alphabet & Numbers, along with Highlights High Five, Puzzle Buzz and got some workbooks from Barnes & Noble for the Pre-K and K level, which they love working on.  I also belong to the Letter of the Week YAHOO! Group and use their website (http://www.letteroftheweek.com/preparatory.html), which is based on learning a letter a week (it is for homeschooling parents but it applies to us moms that are trying to prepare our kids for school).  It has AWESOME ideas for the kids to learn their letters, numbers, shapes, etc.

My daughter, Ashleigh is more inclined to do "school" work as she puts it.  My son, Austin "AJ" would rather be a boy and play with cars, trucks, etc.  But they do know the alphabet song, and numbers up to 20, but miss some here and there.  They are slowly starting to recognize numbers & letters, but to spell their names or address & telephone number, that is just something that they haven't even attempted yet.  They know our first names and that we live in Gulfport, MS, but that is about all they could tell ya.  Now if you are in the car and they recognize where they are, they can tell you how to get home.

It amazes me what they want our children to know, if they haven't been exposed to a school setting.  We do have a Head Start program here, but we didn't get accepted.  Preschool here is a glorified daycare setting, unless you go private and we don't have $2K to shell out for that a month.

I am going to work part-time and pay for them to attend private school for $500 a month, but it is thru the church we attend and I know a lot of the teachers and I know that they are in good hands.  My one concern is that Kindergarten doesn't have two classes, so they will be in the same class together. 

When I was in preschool and Kindergarten, I went half days and it was in public school, but I transfered to private school once I hit 1st grade because I had a hard time focusing...could have been ADD or ADHD but back then...30 something years ago, they didn't know what that was!  LOL

I'm just glad I'm not alone in this.  I also think that they learn a lot from the different learning shows like PBS and PBS Sprout.  They are learning sign language, Spanish, and some Chinese.  So that's pretty cool if you ask me.

 

posted by Julie on 02/27/2009 08:44 PM

I'm with ya on the getting nervous for Kindergarten.  We have elected to put the twins into private school.  Just for my insanity sake...Mississippi isn't known for it's excellence in public schools.  I've found a couple of cool workbooks for them to do every week or so and just challange their brains. 

I belong to the Children's Book of the Month Club (http://www.cbomc.com) and got The Disney Learning Alphabet & Numbers, along with Highlights High Five, Puzzle Buzz and got some workbooks from Barnes & Noble for the Pre-K and K level, which they love working on.  I also belong to the Letter of the Week YAHOO! Group and use their website (http://www.letteroftheweek.com/preparatory.html), which is based on learning a letter a week (it is for homeschooling parents but it applies to us moms that are trying to prepare our kids for school).  It has AWESOME ideas for the kids to learn their letters, numbers, shapes, etc.

My daughter, Ashleigh is more inclined to do "school" work as she puts it.  My son, Austin "AJ" would rather be a boy and play with cars, trucks, etc.  But they do know the alphabet song, and numbers up to 20, but miss some here and there.  They are slowly starting to recognize numbers & letters, but to spell their names or address & telephone number, that is just something that they haven't even attempted yet.  They know our first names and that we live in Gulfport, MS, but that is about all they could tell ya.  Now if you are in the car and they recognize where they are, they can tell you how to get home.

It amazes me what they want our children to know, if they haven't been exposed to a school setting.  We do have a Head Start program here, but we didn't get accepted.  Preschool here is a glorified daycare setting, unless you go private and we don't have $2K to shell out for that a month.

I am going to work part-time and pay for them to attend private school for $500 a month, but it is thru the church we attend and I know a lot of the teachers and I know that they are in good hands.  My one concern is that Kindergarten doesn't have two classes, so they will be in the same class together. 

When I was in preschool and Kindergarten, I went half days and it was in public school, but I transfered to private school once I hit 1st grade because I had a hard time focusing...could have been ADD or ADHD but back then...30 something years ago, they didn't know what that was!  LOL

I'm just glad I'm not alone in this.  I also think that they learn a lot from the different learning shows like PBS and PBS Sprout.  They are learning sign language, Spanish, and some Chinese.  So that's pretty cool if you ask me.

 

posted by Julie on 02/27/2009 08:44 PM

 
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