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I need some advice on my 1 month old son. Everytime I try to put him down he starts crying until I pick him back up. He is fed and changed and I don't think it's gas since he stops once I pick him back up. I know that everyone says you can't spoil a newborn but I've got things to do!!! I can't hold him all day and expect to get anything done, and my arms and back are killing me! Is there a solution to this problem? Is it alright to let him cry it out? It seems like he's got us trained to pick him up anytime he starts crying---is there a way to UN-train him? Please help!!!
Also, does anyone have any advice for establishing a nap routine? I think that part of his problem is that he's cranky because he is not getting a good amount of sleep during the day. He will take little catnaps but nothing close to a good 2-3 hours of constant sleep during the day. Any advice or knowledge would be greatly appreciated!
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| Posted by Aimee on 02/12/2008 06:31 PM
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| Do you have a swaddle blanket? This will help him feel more secure while sleeping. Or you can try a baby sling and have him with you. I wouldn't recommend the cry it out with such a young infant, it causes a lot of stress and that can lead to other problems. I had used a swaddle blanket and sometimes her bouncy seat. The seat vibrated so it would sooth her to sleep. The first few months are hectic, but it will get better. |
| posted by on 02/12/2008 06:56 PM
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Our baby was like that too, in fact she wouldn't even let us put her to bed. We ended up buying Kiddopotamus swaddle blankets and she felt much more secure when she was bundled up and finally started sleeping in her bed instead of expecting to be held all the time.
Good luck! |
| posted by Chris on 02/12/2008 07:18 PM
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He's still a bit young for a routine, but you could try putting him down every hour and a half to two hours after he wakes. It's important not to let him get overtired and if you stick with it he will eventually begin to fall into his own routine. I also suggest swaddling, the bouncey and playing some lulabuys.
Good Luck! |
| posted by Lori on 02/12/2008 07:25 PM
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Something that worked very well with Emma was an infant swing with lights and music - you could give that a try. When we got one, we were able to sit down and have dinner together without one of us holding Emma for the first time!
I sympathise with you - when I had Emma my parents were staying with us for 5 weeks and my husband was on paternity leave for 4 weeks. By the time my hubby went back to work, and my parents returned to New Zealand, Emma was so used to being held she wouldn't let me put her down even for a minute! If she cried when I put her down, I would pick her up, cuddle her, sing to her and rock her, then put her back down again. I had to do that over and over again, but eventually she realized it was OK to be put down some of the time. It takes time though - several weeks in our case.
I hope your son settles down soon for you.
Chris |
| posted by Chris on 02/12/2008 08:17 PM
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| If you know that he isn't hungry or wet and there is no apparent pain or discomfort once you pick him up, then he is just craving you. My three month old is VERY clingy to me like that. I had to get a bouncer seat and put him down in that. And if he started crying and I knew nothing was wrong, then try just talking to him and maybe rubbing his belly or legs and arms, but don't actually pick him up. It worked for mine, but they are all unique, so good luck!! |
| posted by Tessa on 02/16/2008 09:40 PM
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Hey! That sounds just like me a few months ago. My daughter is 4 months old now, and is sleeping well during naps and 12 hours at night with one meal time after about nine hours. We read a book called, "On Becoming Baby Wise" and it helped tremendously. It made me feel better about putting her down to sleep and not having to hold her ALL the time. In fact it's healthy for babies to learn to be on their own with supervision of course, but my daughter is in fact happier now that we've helped her learn to sleep on her own. We just had to let her cry a bit in her bed, but it didn't take long before she learned that it was okay for her to be in her crib to sleep. It's been such a blessing! I personally think that as long as their needs are taken care of, it's okay to let them cry a little while they're learning how to fall asleep. Hope this helps.
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| posted by Jaclyn on 02/17/2008 05:07 PM
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Thank you all so much for your advice!!! I will definitely have to find that book and some of the techniques in it, thanks Jaci! I've tried a lot of the techniques that some of you mentioned and I think he may be learning but as many of you said, it just takes time.
Thanks again, I appreciate everyone replying back! |
| posted by Aimee on 02/17/2008 09:14 PM
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