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| Make a daily chart.Make them stay on a schedule when they get home from school specific things that they are going to do everyday no matter if it was done the day before and if they act up then tell them that there is a (corner) right beside you ,for each of them and make them stay in it.Each time they act up the longer that the corner will be for them.I also made the ones that lived w me write sentences if they were old enough saying I will not hit Sally again.or I will not scream at my brother etc. 50 times Chores.Make them scrub floors or wash dishes wash and fold clothes or help you in the kitchen.Clean the shower w a scrub brush for the older 1s.Make the 9 yr old read to her sisters or have a craft book and get all the things ready to do when she gets home from school w the younger 1s.Play school,have the older 1 s plan an agenda.It sounds to me like they miss their dad and the security and they are bored and dont know what to do w their frustrations at being uprooted.Give them a major re-organzing to do like spring cleaning arming them w clorox wipes polish dusters for the smaller 1s and make them clean each room in your house spotless.Hey take advantage of it! |
| posted by Lexi on 02/12/2008 02:13 PM
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| I forgot to say ;tell them if they have all that energy you are going to take advantage of it for things that you need done.If they dont mellow out then you are going to put all that into major cleaning and projects! |
| posted by Lexi on 02/12/2008 02:16 PM
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| My grandma was a fan of the major cleaning project for me and my siblings when we acted out at her house. One thing I found that gave me a break while I was a nanny in my teens was to take them some were new or differnt, maybe as a reward to being good, or if all else fails send some away to friends houses, then you atleast have a hour or two with less kids in the house to worry about and the get a nice day with a friends. |
| posted by andi on 02/12/2008 03:42 PM
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| Well bad behavior is rewarded w punishment.Good behavior is rewarded w going out and having a good time.You asked what you could do to keep them busy.And you asked what you could do to reinforce the fact that you are fed up w their negative actions. |
| posted by Lexi on 02/12/2008 04:25 PM
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I agree with what you say good kids should get rewarded and bad kids should get disaplined. I may have not been clear with what I ment with taking them out. I used to use a day trip as a reward for good behavior and usualy earned the day befor with the previous days actions(this does not mean we would not turn right back around if there were any acting up befor we went out). All the kids I wached knew I ment it when I said no fighting during the outing or we are leaveing because they knew I ment it. Same with trips over to friends if they were not good they did not get to go end of story.
Planing in advanced a trip or a visit to a friend can be a good way to get away from the bordum of being in the same place and releave some tention (and volume of childern needing your attention) It should in no way be something that shoud reward bad behavior though. I hope this clears up what I ment in with my previous post. |
| posted by andi on 02/12/2008 04:46 PM
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My kids love when we have a goal in mind for a reward.. like going to get a treat or an ice cream might work for the younger ones.. maybe doing chores for the older ones and having a reward in mind.. I think Lexi had great ideas.. I know sometimes just getting out of the house and taking a walk or having the older girls play with the younger kids and giving them some spending money to help play with the younger children teaches responsibility and provide positive reinforcement. I think it is hard at age 4 and 5 becaue they all want to be large and in-charge my kids are 2 1/2 and 5 1/2 and I have been separating them lately. I will have my son build legos and my daughter sometimes watch a fun video..not for long periods of time but during that hectice dinner hour.. maybe the older kids could watch disney channel and the little ones could watch something cute they like to watch... also my kids love musis and dancing.. we make shakers out of used water bottles and I turn off the music and they freeze.. or we go out in the front yard and blow bubbles or go look for bugs... something fun to keep their minds off trying to tear eachother down but try to lift one another up.. doesn't always work but we have fun!! another cute thing my kids love are parachute.. lakeshore .com might hae the older kids can pull them everywhere it is so much fun!!!
also see if they want to bake cookies or bake soemthing fun!!
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| posted by heidi on 02/13/2008 12:01 AM
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| I never say good child or bad child.I was taught in a class that I took, not to ever label a child as bad.What you did was naughty.That thing that you just did was bad.It gives the child an inferior complex.For good behavior of course nothing but praise.What you did was mature.That was so nice of you.That was a good thing that you did.I wish that my parents and some of the kid's parents that I hung with ,would have learned that.Maybe some of us wouldnt be so messed up right now. |
| posted by Lexi on 02/13/2008 11:22 AM
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| Got a button pushed for me so let me pick up were I left off. Giving each child a special thing to do in other places too is good. As I have seen everyone here has given a good creative answer to a tuff problum, and that was all I set out to do give a good creative answer to a tuff problum. Now I will bow out of this chat because I do not want to cause anymore trubble and let others give there creative ideas as well of which I am sure there are lots more. |
| posted by andi on 02/13/2008 02:03 PM
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| Gawd Andi,Im sorry that didnt come out right w/o it going w my other paragraph from this am.The baby pushed my pc and cleared off my paragraph and then my friend dropped off my bday present and it got cleared again.I meant me and my friends and all our parents.LOL ,yall know me I never gripe or say things in a mean way!!!Please read all of it together as 1. |
| posted by Lexi on 02/13/2008 04:03 PM
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| Omg my other paragraph didnt make it on here!It got cleared off by Lexi too.I wrote a paragraph before the bad child 1.But thats why she run into the den looking all inocent.lol |
| posted by Lexi on 02/13/2008 04:06 PM
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| know the feeling my son loves to get at the key bord and it makes it almost imposible to type with out him hitting something. Also my !@# laptop gets all over sensitive and when I finger scroll it thinks I've dubble taped and sends things off. We all have things we feel pasionate about and I am sorry I came off a bit bent out of shape. I think your ideas were great and hope you can forgive my over reaction. |
| posted by andi on 02/13/2008 05:12 PM
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| No problem.Next time I am posting I'll make sure its all there lol.I usually dont get visitors ;but she was bringing my bday present and a crate for the puppy she got me for my bday.We named her Maddi Matti We are not sure yet on the spelling.Shes a honey colored lab.Shes so beautiful.Lexi is a lil jealous and a lil intimidated by her still.Hope they grow on each other lol. |
| posted by Lexi on 02/13/2008 11:07 PM
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