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| I am raising my 1 year old grandson... both parents are young and in school(collage)... both say they want to one day have him back... I don't know what to think about that... I know I would always allow them to be part of his life. I don't want to hurt them but... I don't want to get this child raised and then have him taken form me... |
| Posted by TERESA on 02/12/2008 01:13 PM
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| it sounds like you have guardianship of your grandson. in order to adopt him, parental rights would have to be terminated. it's a hard position that you're in and i have no clue what would be best for your grandson. is there any way that the bio parents could live with you while they go to school? would that hurt less? do they have a plan for when/how they will raise him? are there concerns that they would be abusive/neglectful? |
| posted by Christina on 02/12/2008 01:34 PM
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| well... they are getting a divorce, my daughter was living with us but she moved to go to school... we offered the father to live with us but he said he wants to have a life after divorce and didn't feel that would be right... I have no problem letting him go if they, one or both... get ti together so long as I am always a part of his life and they say they had no problem with that...but my thing is what is the plan... if I have this child for 6-7 years I don't feel the removing him form the only home his is know would be right and at that point I would want to adopt him... |
| posted by TERESA on 02/13/2008 10:16 AM
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| honestly, i wouldn't think about 5 or 6 years from now, alot can happen! enjoy your grandson NOW and if that much time passes, then see what your daughter and his father think. i agree, after that much time it would be difficult for everyone involved. |
| posted by Christina on 02/13/2008 10:54 AM
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| I know here in VT and most states, SRS would not take away a child after an extened period of time. Some states grandparents have rights, others not. This situation depends on whether the parents gave up parental rights, or in your case this may be a cause for abandonment. If so, then I would think you would be able to adopt. Tasha |
| posted by tasha on 02/17/2008 10:39 AM
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| We adopted our great nephew two years ago and were unable to adopt his twin sisters. I was told by another agency that the reason was "you have never been parents before." Yes, 1 is "easier than 3" but, I think it would have been easier on him if his sisters lived with him. He only sees them a couple times a year if we are lucky. It's difficult on me because I call for visits, may get called back after 3rd time, and he is having difficulty at school (kindergarten). I'm working on getting him into play therapy. Tasha |
| posted by tasha on 02/17/2008 10:46 AM
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| That’s the kind of thing that makes me so mad… these agencies that think they know so much and the innocent pay the price… what if you guys had delivered twins would have felt the same way… would they have came to the hospital and taken one of your babies? I believe we are the best judge of what we can and can’t do… |
| posted by TERESA on 02/18/2008 10:34 AM
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