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| my son is almost one and has started hitting my husband and me. he does it playfully. it is cute because everytime he does it he smiles and laughes but we know it isn't a good habit for him. we tried telling him no in a firm voice and tell him to be nice but he eithers continues laughing or he starts to cry. we also tried taking his mind of it by encouraging him to play with something and all he does is through the toy we give him. i am wondering if anyone else has or is having this problem and what we can do to discourage this. |
| Posted by Amanda on 02/11/2008 11:16 AM
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Personally, I think you were right with the firm "no". I think parents back down on discipline when the tears come (speaking from experience) and that is when you lose credibility from your child. My belief is that the child will learn that you back down when the tears come, and will use it to their advantage. In fact, as I write, my little one is working me over pretty good from his crib. But in my opinion, now is the time to start teaching "no". I know it is so hard! It broke my heart the first time my baby cried from this. I have to say, he listens to "no" now, which is huge. He is only 14 motnhs, though, so maybe I'll be changing my tune when he turns two!
Good luck, and be strong! |
| posted by Jade on 02/11/2008 12:11 PM
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Hi!
I read once, that if for example your baby pulls your hair you have to take his hand and touch it very gentle and say 'gentle touch'. You have to basicaly do the opposite way and say what you do.
Hope that will help.
MAgdalena |
| posted by magdalena on 02/11/2008 01:43 PM
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| My son did that around that age, he will be two this week. I asked my Dr. at that time what to do and she said to put him on the couch and say No sir you may not hit and walk away. She said this teaches them that you did not like them hitting and by putting them on the couch and walking away from them, it hurts their feelings so they learn that they do not want this reaction from you the same way you don't want to be hit. She also said the reason for the hitting was to see our reaction rather it be a smile or a shocked look on your face that is partly why they do it. It worked for my son. Now we are doing time out and that works really well, most of the time I just have to give him a warning and he will stop. |
| posted by amy on 02/11/2008 03:11 PM
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thank all ladies...i tried the gently touch and it worked...i will also try the couch suggest...thank you all again
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| posted by Amanda on 02/13/2008 07:24 PM
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