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| San Diego Parents |
| Public group from San Diego, CA |
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I have a 2 year old who is so persistant I really want to scream and at times I do (in my room). We NEVER GIVE IN and for some reason when she wants something or doesnt want something she never stops crying for it. I have taken away her favorite things, that doesnt work. I will make her sit on one place for a minute or two, that doesnt work. Bribing her, that doesnt work. And the all evil spanking doesnt work either (she just tried to bite or hit me back). I am in serious need of help with this child. I am going out of my mind. Here is an example...
Mali: mama watch Go-Go?
Me: We are leaving to go to the store. We can watch Go Diego Go when we get back.
Mali: screaming... NO NO NO! Mommy mean! (and screams at the store and in the car and all the way home till she gets to watch Go Diego Go.)
Did I do something wrong? I believe in keeping with my promises which was to let her watch it when we got home. Was I not supposed ot let her watch it because she was screaming? How is she going to diferentiate me telling her she can do something when we are done compared to me saying she can do something and not allowing her because she is throwing a fit.
Ahhhh, Any help is greatly appreciated! |
| Posted by Lindsy on 02/10/2008 03:58 PM
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| Hi Lindsy, My name is Amy. I have an 8 year old boy and a 2 year old girl. I would say you are doing the right thing. I know it is hard but you must stay persistant. I know many moms who will leave their shopping carts in the store and take their screaming child out until he/she calms down. Most of them will ignore the child and when the child realizes that they aren't getting mom's attention, they'll stop. I walk away when my daughter has a tantrum and it stops pretty fast when she sees I'm not giving her attention. But once you give in they will remember that and it will be harder than it is now in the future. One of my favorite quotes is "This too shall pass." It seems like agony now and like it will never end, but when my daughter acts out I look at her and I think "Did Elijah act like this too?" It's amazing how quickly you forget. Hang in there and if you are a woman of faith, try praying. It works for me. If you ever want to get together to play at a park, send an email. We live in RB and I stay at home with my kids. Hope I helped a little. Amy |
| posted by Amy on 02/10/2008 10:12 PM
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I understand how you feel I have a 12 month old that already wants to have tantrums... I say wants to have because you have to stop them early. My mother did with my oldest, every time he wanted to have a tantrum she would say enough of that what I say is what I mean. and he will whimper a bit longer then give up on throwing the tantrum.
You are doing the right thing by not giving in. Other people say totake the kid and put them in one spot no matter wher they are and not to make eye contact with them after you tell them what they did wrong... they don't want to be embarassed any more than you do.
good job Lindsy |
| posted by sheyla on 02/10/2008 11:45 PM
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| We havent had this issue till about 3 months ago. I ignore tanturms and walk away when she throws them. It's just that she has the endurance to go 2 hours or 3 hours. I looked over the past few months and cant think of what made that turning point. When she says NO she means NO. |
| posted by Lindsy on 02/11/2008 12:23 AM
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and so should you !!! crying and tantrums take up a lot of energy she can't keep doing it for ever... we just get tired of all of the whining.
YOu can't even talk to her... and she is at the point of no reasoning. |
| posted by sheyla on 02/11/2008 02:53 AM
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| She refuses to reason. She refuses to be held. I have to pick her up kicking and screaming. Same thing happens if I give her options and dont give her options. I feel I am in a no win situation. I refuse to budge and its exhausting. |
| posted by Lindsy on 02/11/2008 11:24 AM
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| Have you talked to your pediatrician about this ?a 2-3 hour tantrum seems excessive for any child. It couldn't hurt to get a proffesional opinion, every child is different. |
| posted by shawn on 02/25/2008 12:28 PM
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| I have a 15 month old that has started tantrums. I do the famous ignore and walk away and he calms down really quick once he realizes that I am not going to give him any attention until he is finished with his tantrum. |
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