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I have a theory about the famous terrible two's, I don't think that at that age children are particularly difficult but the parents are over the honeymoon stage with their kids.
They are no babies anymore so the parents don't forgive automatically every bad behavior and all the sleepless night are taking a toll on even the ones with a good disposition.
What I like in this theory is the fact the parents have to look at their behavior before pointing at their children's.
What is your experience with your toddler?
Vero |
| Posted by Vero on 01/16/2007 10:37 PM
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I think you are right for the most part. I think it is more of the fit throwing that make it terrible. I can tell you my daughter didn't learn to get on her hands and knees head on the ground and cry when she doesn't get her way from me or my husband.
It stopped when she realized there was no reaction. I tell my children to go to their room if they want to throw a fit. Children look for reactions of any kind and if they get the one they want the bad behavior will continue.
We teach children to become the teens, adults, and eventually Parents by what they see us do.
Amberlyn
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| posted by Amberlyn on 01/19/2007 07:07 PM
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Hi Jamie, I have twin boys who are 2 2/3 years old now and when I tell you they went from sweet, fun loving little boys to demon possession overnight, believe me. I never thought it could happen so quickly. And guess when it began? The day after their 2nd birthday!!! Considental, I think not........I think they went onto some terrible twos convention in the middle of the night and woke up the next morning with their newly learned skills!!!
No, I don't think there is such a thing as the Terrible Twos.....I do think they are so eager to learn about anything and everything and they don't yet have the language skills to tell you what is wrong, how they are feeling, what they want or what they need at the current time. I truely believe that is why most of the tantrums and outbursts begin in the first place. I think most 2 year olds are thinking "If I could only tell you what the problem is, but I can't......so..........here goes....(ERUPTION!) And then BAM here comes the tantrum.
My boys are 2 2/3 years old and one has (a little) better language skills than the other and, oddly enough, he is the one with the fewer outbursts.
Take care,
Jeanne |
| posted by Jeanne on 04/20/2007 01:16 PM
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| sorry, unfortunately i have to disagree with you. i think it depends on the child if they have the type of personality of that.. i have two nephews that were perfect angel around that age, but my son is another story. he tries to see what he can get away with/ tries to tell us what to do/ and has tantrums,and hes not quite 2 yet,but close.. |
| posted by teresa on 11/21/2008 08:32 PM
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| I am reading P.E.T. Parent Effectiveness Training by Dr.Thomas Gordon and loving it! I wish I had read it before my first. (hes's 18 yrs) My toddler is 17 months and I can relate to what you are feeling but I have to tell you keep your cool and try to read into the nonverbal clues your little ones are giving you. I bet you have already noticed that although they are not speaking what they understand is amazing. Try giving choices as often as possible. Hold up the milk and the juice and ask which one. Once you loose your cool it's over the conflict just escalates Hang in there.. |
| posted by April on 11/22/2008 12:10 AM
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I could write about this all day. What I do know at this point is that I'm dealing with issues with my 2 year old that are frustrating and emotionally exhausting on us all (Mommy, Hubby and Baby). It is this time that we have to be their moral and emotional compass, teach them manners and then let them have a little bit of fun during it all- its HARD!! Having said that, I would not change a thing and we love being parents. I agree with both sides, the honeymoon period is def. over, but he has def. changed to a true terrible two! Also, we do have to look at our own behavious big time, we are both realizing that it is not the same as having a baby, we are now becoming TRUE parents- how exciting.
love talking to you all about whatever,
Amy
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| posted by Amy on 11/22/2008 01:51 AM
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| I have to disagree that it is because of sleep depravation and lack of sympathy from the parents. My daughter is 20 months and a great sleeper so I am not sleep deprived. She also does not get away with any less now than she did why she was younger. I have to agree that alot of it is language based. She has a very large vocabulary for her age and I have noticed that she has far less tantrums then the other kids she is around. (Not saying she doesn't have them and certainly not saying I have anything to do with that.) I think though that kids at this age are starting to show there independence. They are thinking and want us to know it but have a hard time expressing it. I think that they often don't realize that we understand what they want and just aren't giving it to them. The behaviors that they are having are the same as they had as infants only supersized. When they were infants they got what they wanted by crying... now they don't understand why they aren't getting the same response from us. |
| posted by Katie on 12/10/2008 08:50 PM
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| I think it is a part of the development process as toddlers are learning a better command of the world and cause and effect. It becomes "terrible" when tantrums or other less desirable behaviour elicits great reaction. I think keeping this in mind and aving a bit of humor can help parents deal with it. Toddlers will push your buttons but it is all done in love. A firm but calm non-tolerance for bad behaviour and appreciation ofr good behaviour can help this time pass quickly and enjoyably. |
| posted by Afihtan on 12/13/2008 03:52 PM
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