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| Hi Lorena, you need to stop rocking her to sleep! She needs to learn how to fall asleep on her own. And also how to self sooth. It's okay to rock her until she is drowsy but not asleep. Does she have a mobil or something that plays music? Does this help to sooth her at all? It will definetely take time but it will be very worth it in the end! When you go in to check on her try not to pick her up but reassure her that everything is okay and it's time to go to sleep. Then leave, wait again but this time a little longer before going back in...etc. If you do need to pick her up don't leave the room, stay in her room and comfort her till she stops crying or her breathing calms down, then lay her back down tell her good night and you will see her in the morning. |
| posted by Amanda on 02/05/2008 02:20 PM
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| OMG, my Daughter is the exact same way. She sleep the night through in her crib, but she needs to fall asleep on me or my hubby. I have also tried to put Mikayla in her crib while drowsy but still awake, and most experts say they will cry them selves to sleep, yet I sit in the living room listening to hours of crying also knowing in the end she will have a stuffy nose, and probably end up throwing up all over herself and her crib, leaving more work for me. Any advice on this would be wonderful and a god send. |
| posted by on 02/05/2008 02:33 PM
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| Lexi use to pull the same bs and She at times will try it and shell give me that ear-piercing if you dont pick me up im gonna burst scream and I let her cry it out.She doesnt pull it any more.And if she tries I roll over tell her im not gonna listen to it and I ignore her til she falls asleep.Only time I rock her is when shes sick.Or if during the day she comes to me and just wants some 1 on 1 love. |
| posted by Lexi on 02/05/2008 02:37 PM
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| What if she is teething and in pain, (she still doesn't have any teeth) do I still let her cry it out???? |
| posted by lorena on 02/05/2008 03:49 PM
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| My daughter was the same way. We still have some trouble with her at 3 1/2 but it's nothing like when she was 1. She started out a mere 5 lbs and the doctor told me not to let her scream for longer than 20 minutes. The whole night was her screaming crying and then feeding. And a lot more screaming and crying. I just want to forget all about it. But I do have an idea that helped was that I would put her on the floor in the middle of the bedroom on a blanket and lay next to her until she would fall asleep and then I would creep away. Reason I did this was that she would always awake when I would lay her down into the crib. |
| posted by Linda on 02/05/2008 03:53 PM
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| She is a year and has no teeth at all? |
| posted by on 02/05/2008 04:07 PM
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| my son didnt get any teeth untill he was 13 mo. We also rock our son till he is asleep. He is now 19 mo old. |
| posted by Shelly on 02/05/2008 04:41 PM
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| I hope I didn't sound rude, I am a dental assistant, and I I know that it is not within the normal limits for a child to have no teeth at a year, and that the sleep issue could definately stem from something dental, sometimes the teeth becom cytic or impacted and it causes the child great pain...probably not the case but I would definately either pop in to my dental office or go to the regular dr and just have them do a little look see. But I definately feel your pain with the rocking, my daughter is the same way, and everyone in my family tells me I spoiled her. |
| posted by on 02/05/2008 05:03 PM
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| I had a niece that didnt cut teeth til after she was a year old, her pedi siad if she didnt cut by the time she was 14 months they would check further. |
| posted by Natasha on 02/05/2008 05:07 PM
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| DJM by no means are you spoiling your daughter! If rocking works for you then thats what you do! :) |
| posted by Amanda on 02/05/2008 08:11 PM
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I had sleep issues with my son and after a lot of research bought the book "Good Night Sleep Tight" by Kim West. I bought it for my friend as well and she has used it with her 2 month old, 3.5 year old and it worked magic for my then 11 month old. I strongly suggest it. It works. You can buy it online at Amazon and Walmart and in Barnes and Noble, etc.
My son LOVES bed time now. He can't wait to get into his crib. He pulls pillows off the couch when he is tired and lays on them and says "nigh-night". And, even more difficult, he goes down easily for naps, too. |
| posted by Lauren on 02/05/2008 09:05 PM
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| Lexi started getting her teeth at 4 months and she nearly has all her teeth now.I rocked her alot when she was teething.Im talking about when you know there isnt anything wrong w/ them and they are exhausted.Babies fight sleep alot cause they dont want to be away from you or the family.Lexi hasnt slept longer then 3 r 4 hrs straight since the day I brought her home.Shes 19 months old and she still wakes up 3 to 7 xs a night.Im use to sleep deprivation.Sometimes after he leaves for work;I'll rock her til she falls asleep in my arms; just because I want her to know that I love her alot.But mostly I lay her down;put her music on and tuck her in and leave til she falls asleep. |
| posted by Lexi on 02/05/2008 11:27 PM
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Thanks Amanda,
Alaina was very exhausted last night so she fell asleep in my arms and didn't wake up when I put her in her crib at 8 pm. She woke up crying at midnight and I went in there to tell her it was ok, stroked her head and said it's night-night time. I could tell she was very upset that I wasn't picking her up. I did that every 15 minutes for an hour, then she fell back to sleep at 1 am and slept through till 7 am. I'l try the same thing tonight and hopefully she wont cry as much.
I appreciated everyone else's response but I felt yours was most genuine. |
| posted by lorena on 02/06/2008 11:18 AM
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Thats great! Good for you for not giving up. :) Good luck today and let me know how it goes.
Amanda |
| posted by Amanda on 02/06/2008 12:28 PM
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| my son just started teething at 11 1/2 months... Dr. Said don't worry they get teeth at their own time. I know a girl 13 months and no teeth. It looks to me as if its normal not abnormal if served kid's get teeth later than "usual" |
| posted by roxanne on 02/06/2008 06:37 PM
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| try the book... The no cry sleep solution by pantley if you don't want your heart wrenched out by your baby's cries |
| posted by roxanne on 02/06/2008 06:43 PM
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| I am sorry if I said abnormal, it is just not "the norm" More than likely by the time kids are three to four months, they have one or two teeth coming in. I wasn't trying to say your child is abnormal, but there are sometimes things that cause delayed teething that might affect sleeping, and by one year it is definately delayed teething...It also happens to be based on when the parents went through teeting themselves, some babies are even born with a tooth that they with lose or not lose before their deciduous teeth come in. That is also not the norm, yet not anything to be worried about. I was just suggesting to check out the no teeth issue with the ped or the dentist even, can't hurt to check on it. |
| posted by on 02/06/2008 07:00 PM
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Roxanne,
I tried that book. I thought it was horrible and just made things worse. I hope it works for you. |
| posted by lorena on 02/07/2008 12:03 PM
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Hi Amanda,
Last night was even a better night than the one before. After
I gave Alaina her milk I rocked her till she was drowsy but not asleep. I put her in her crib at 8:30 and of course she began protesting but I just went in there every ten minutes to tell her it was ok and it's night-night time and she fell aseep at 9:00, that's 30 minutes less crying that the night before, and she slept till 7:45 this morning without a peep.
Amazing!!!!
I thought I couldn't do it because her crys would tear at my heart and soul and I felt guilty for letting her cry, I just kept praying for strength the entire time she cried.
Thanks again,
God Bless |
| posted by lorena on 02/07/2008 12:15 PM
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| That's wonderful!!! I'm so happy for you! Before you know it she will only cry a few moments and not even given you time to go in and reassure her! And soon she will not protest at all :) Good for you! |
| posted by Amanda on 02/07/2008 01:49 PM
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BTW, DJM,
Alaina saw her Pediatrician today for her one year appointment and she said that it is perfectly normal for babies not to have their teeth by one year. She said she has seen many babies not have their first tooth by 15 mths; she's been a Ped. for 30 years, and also backed this up by consulting with Dentists who also said it is perfectly normal for them not to have their first tooth by one year as long as they are growing healthy. In fact, it's better the longer they stay under the gum line to decrease dental caries.
I hope this eases other mom's concerns about this topic as it did mine.
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| posted by lorena on 02/07/2008 06:54 PM
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| Thats great. I was not trying to worry you, I have been a dental assistant for 10 years, and while it is not thirty years, I do know what I am talking about and have been advising parents, as well as listening to my dentist advise parents, did not mean to offend you. |
| posted by on 02/08/2008 08:42 AM
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| BTW, Dental carries can occur under the gum as well, hence baby bottle mouth, so that info is innaccurate, just so you know. |
| posted by on 02/08/2008 08:43 AM
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| I do not think I advised you wrongly, I advised to you to aske her ped or a dentist, It is not "the norm", I did not say at all that is was abnormal, it is on the far side of normal, though, I feel really bad that you took what I said to be out of malice or that I was trying to worry you, I went back and read what I wrote, and there was nothing at all wrong with what I wrote. I am just going to have to be more careful with giving advice. Once again sorry. |
| posted by on 02/08/2008 08:58 AM
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| That's ok. Thank you. |
| posted by lorena on 02/08/2008 10:32 AM
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