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| I am a stay at home mom, as all of you in this group are. We come here and post and reply to topics of interest to us. We have made friendships on here, some of us even chat on the phone. I do not agree with every post on here, I will be the first person in line to debate the whole vaccine thing, I feel very strongly about vaccinating, while people I am friends with on here are totally against it. I do not judge them because of it, nor do I jusge them fro posting questions or how they feel. We are all in the same boat in one way or another. We all were in the workforce at one point, and now we stay home to raise our kids, which at times can get lonely. We turn to the woman on here for chit chat, or friendly advice, and intelligent debate. No one needs or wants to be chastised, or made to feel bad because they feel one way or another. |
| Posted by on 02/01/2008 03:01 PM
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| Amen sister!!! Did you know that bi-polar ppl can freak out in the same sentence?It is very scary.We have a book about it.I dread having to go out in this ice and cold later. |
| posted by Lexi on 02/01/2008 03:05 PM
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Is there nothing that is kept at home-why are you airing your dirty laundry??? Most of you obviously need marriage counseling! And why are you still married?????? If you need to check your husbands cell phone, there is NO trust, so something about it! WOW
Mona who was a God fearing woman would have said now Lexi How can we make this sound appropriate so as not to hurt anyones feelings?
I was taught that something are better left unsaid and better if they stay behind closed doors.
I have advice that maybe you and your spouse should look into going for some counseling.It has helped me.
If your husband and you are still having problems after the counseling and you feel that you cannot work it out maybe divorce should be the next option.
I fyou are having a problem with your husband and his cell then you need to talk w him and get to the bottom of why you are having these feelings.
Thats what should have been said!1! |
| posted by Lexi on 02/01/2008 03:21 PM
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| Cheri honey thats the way you should have worded your paragraph above.That way no one would get hurt of feel singled out. |
| posted by Lexi on 02/01/2008 03:22 PM
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| Ok, point taken - I may not respond to all post but I do read most of them. I've been a member for almost a month but haven't met many people. I think people should be careful with there topics. If you don't want to hear what people have to say you shouldn't open the door. But than again, don't throw stones when you live in a glass house. Marriage is an extremely complex relationship and it's not really fair to comment when you've never been in a similar situation. This is a support group and that should always be the focus of every conversation. Love and support for the fellow stay at home mom. The work you do at home is by far the most important job you'll ever have, we should ban together to make sure we do the best we can in every situation. I value everyones option but I think before I ask. If you don't want to hear what someone has to offer, simply don't ask.. |
| posted by Krystal on 02/01/2008 03:47 PM
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| But Krys ppl sometimes dont have money to go to a counselor.Sometimes ppl are so upset and depressed they need to open up.We are suppose to be understanding and supportive, not mean and hateful.That reminds me of ppl at school.They purposely hurt ppl cause they are miserable in their own lives.I would not ever want to be labled that way.We open ourselves up for help ;not to feel shityer then we did when we asked for help or advice.Id hate to think that if I needed breast feeding advice some 1 woud tell me omg you idiot just shove it in her/his mouth.It doesnt take a moron to feed a baby! See what I mean?Its called respectful of other ppl's feelings.Cheri purposely set out to hurt the women who had worries and made them feel bad for posting.Where I come from thats just pure shitey. |
| posted by Lexi on 02/01/2008 03:58 PM
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| If it were opinion, then fine, when you set out to be an ass and are in a bad mood, that is another thing. Cheri gave her opinion earlier in the topic if you go look, then after no one responded to her opinion, she got nasty and hurtful. I have thick skin, and not much will get to me, but stupidity and ignorance get under my thick skin. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but when you get on a page ranting and raving about how everyones marriage is crap, and everyone on that page should get a divorce, I have to wonder who exactly dropped the house on your sister. |
| posted by on 02/01/2008 04:04 PM
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| Plus our topis are our topics, you as an individual are offended, the either do not reply or state that this offends you, but to try to make people feel bad, it is not right. |
| posted by on 02/01/2008 04:10 PM
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| Apparently I didn't read that topic. I wasn't saying don't be understanding and kind. I was just opening up conversation. I'm the last person to try and make someone feel badly. I thought this was a positive group, it makes me sad to hear people are lashing out at one another. Anyway - just trying to engage w/ other members. |
| posted by Krystal on 02/03/2008 09:24 AM
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I do not post opten, but I do read many topics. I was so dishearted (at first) when I read the thread about trusting your hubby. I don't know a single woman who hasn't been vulnerable at some point. There have been times when I have been watching Oprah or some movie that has prayed on my insecurities and I have felt distrusting of my husband. Who isn't afraid of losing the man/family that they love? I also ask him to call me when he has to drive to work in bad weather... it's similar in my mind. When I am feeling really worried, I know that I can count on my girlfriends to help me WITHOUT JUDGEMENT. I would do it for them, even if I think that they are overreacting.
So I felt better when I saw almost everyone ban together on this board. We all have differing opinions, but we shouldn't slam eachother. I don't want to be around people (even via the internet) who would be rude and demeaning to someone who is hurting and looking for advice. Shame on them! What do they do when their kid falls and gets hurt - yell at them for tripping in the first place? YUCK.
Thank you ladies for being there for eachother! |
| posted by Annemarie on 02/03/2008 09:30 AM
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| I totally agree.DJM and I were on the phone getting to know each other a lil better when that got written.I love to share parts of my life on here because I want to know that I am not the only 1 out there in similiar situations.It has made my hubby back off on some of his holier then thou bullshite when I read something about (whatever a few days ago he was telling me I was doing wrong)Now I can say well gd me and 1000 + other women must be dense cause this is what they say too.He shuts up when I read it to him.So I try and ignore ppl like that.Thats why I rewote it and put it how it should have been worded as not to hurt ppl.She did pm me and apologize for attacking me.No one can know how much this site has helped me.I am glad I am not alone. |
| posted by Lexi on 02/03/2008 10:41 AM
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| She pmed me and was still nasty as anything, can we say a few french fries short of a happy meal. I do not take kindly to rude and ignorant people, there is no excuse for ignorance in this day and age. Anyway, It is over and done, and hopefully she will keep her venom to herself from now on. |
| posted by on 02/03/2008 11:09 AM
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| DJM--And though you keep talking about it...... I am not sorry for disagreeing with you. I have a brain and an opinion--everyone does. Please stop putting me down, I HAVE apologized to you and Lexi. You keep saying this website is for all moms and I AM sorry for responding the way I did to your posts. So, if you would-just stop. Thank you. |
| posted by on 02/04/2008 04:39 PM
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| First off, you may have apologized to Lexi, but I can post what you wrote to me and it certainly was not an apology. I am not putting you down, and I am not wasting anymore time on you or this so please leave me alone, and stop looking to pick a fight with me. Opinion is one thing, attacking everyone in the room is quite different, everyone who read your response was in awe of how hurtful you were. Like I said, I can post what you wrote to me right here on this page, because it was certainly not an apology!! Leave me alone please I am not the only one who thinks you are a miserable witch! |
| posted by on 02/04/2008 04:51 PM
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| You are really something. Post whatever you want. Witch? |
| posted by on 02/04/2008 04:54 PM
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I am sorry but to all who may be interested, the bottom portion is what I wrote to Cheri after she was so callous and rude, the top portion is what she wrote to me, and I do not see an apology in there at all........
I do not hate anyone. I do not hate you- Again, I just don't think that the subject of snooping in your husbands cell phone has anything to do with this website. I think that you just need to grow up. I do not understand. I shouldn't have responded, you are right. I am the reason divorce rate is so high? Because I said it? No, it is obviuos you and I just will never get along. You are reacting the exact same way as I did with your nasty remarks.Believe it or not. I will not respond anymore to you. Good bye for good.
> I really do not get why you are so nasty or so cruel,
> obviously something is bothering you. I should get a
> divorce because My inlaws and I do not get along? It is
> people who think like you that have caused the divorce rate
> to go up and up and up. I went to college, I am educated,
> so who do you presume to be talking to me the way you did?
> You have this holier-than-thou attitude, and I do not see
> why. You do not know why I hate my in-laws or what they put
> me through during and after my pregnancy, but that does not
> mean I hate or do not trust my husband. Do not be so quick
> to judge people, it isn't becomming.
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> Daun |
| posted by on 02/04/2008 04:55 PM
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Ok ladies,
I think that we've all kind of said our piece. Can we let this thread end now and get on with supporting each other please. I for one will not be reading any further additions to THIS thread... Let's try to keep it positive for now. :)
Thanks! |
| posted by Annemarie on 02/05/2008 09:54 AM
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| Well put, and I am sorry for adding to this drama, I don't know why I let myself get sucked into it. Sorry ladies. |
| posted by on 02/05/2008 10:15 AM
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| New girl here..... I do have 2 cents to add... DJM....I really like your honesty. You have your opinion and will share it... Good... Yes, I do believe we are all here for the same thing... I worked the past 20 yrs, had a small business and sold real estate and I am only 35. Now I am a stay at home mom and all I do is take care of my kids. Not complaining, just mentioning. 2 of which I have given birth to and 2 that I did not. It is one hell of a transition to go through. I only found this site 2 days ago and I already feel it has been very rewarding. I do not have in-laws, nor do I have my parents. I have a brother and sister that I love dearly, but do not speak to for reasons that don't really matter here. My point is this... For some of us on this site, we are here b/c we are missing something that we need. It does n ot make us crazy. I am here to help anyone of you in any way, simply b/c we ARE all here for the same thing.. Not to judge, get pissed, end something unique, so on, so on, so.. Don't blame the next one b/c something outside of the group is bothering you... |
| posted by Danielle on 02/13/2008 07:59 PM
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| New girl here..... I do have 2 cents to add... DJM....I really like your honesty. You have your opinion and will share it... Good... Yes, I do believe we are all here for the same thing... I worked the past 20 yrs, had a small business and sold real estate and I am only 35. Now I am a stay at home mom and all I do is take care of my kids. Not complaining, just mentioning. 2 of which I have given birth to and 2 that I did not. It is one hell of a transition to go through. I only found this site 2 days ago and I already feel it has been very rewarding. I do not have in-laws, nor do I have my parents. I have a brother and sister that I love dearly, but do not speak to for reasons that don't really matter here. My point is this... For some of us on this site, we are here b/c we are missing something that we need. It does n ot make us crazy. I am here to help anyone of you in any way, simply b/c we ARE all here for the same thing.. Not to judge, get pissed, end something unique, so on, so on, so.. Don't blame the next one b/c something outside of the group is bothering you... |
| posted by Danielle on 02/13/2008 07:59 PM
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hi , I post every once in a while and I know you want to let this rest but I have to say ever since I started staying home I never realized how nasty and cruel stay at home moms can be.. I agree with the few of you who said lets be supportive to eachother.. I teach mommy and me classes and I have seen it first hand lately.. and I think sometimes we are home so much and put so much into or children our husbands and our homes and we think too too much about everything that we loose reality.. I know I do, but when it comes to a personal attack on eachother that is what we are teaching are kids not to do.. we always say or I know I say to my son, "treat others how you would want to be treated" ok I am off my soap box, lets get back to supporting eachother........
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