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My mother is my daycare provider. Which for the most part is wonderful. However, I have no backup daycare and I am finding it frustrating when my mother wants to take a day off. The other night I stopped to pick up DD and my mother says "Oh BTW, your father has a dr's appt. tomorrow afternoon so you'll have to pick up Abbi early." They made the appt. 3 months ago and are just telling me. So I ended up having to take the afternoon off of work. I have the time to take I just hate taking days off that aren't for illness or emergency. My grandmother is scheduled to watch her for a whole day at the end of this month so I had suggested that she watch her for the couple of hours the other day but my mother didn't think that was a good idea. Now if she can't watch her for a few hours how is she going to do a whole day? So now I've gotten nervous about that and scheduled the day off for myself so I can just be home.
I just am at a loss at what to do. Abbi does not do well dropping her into new situations and I think if I found someone willing to take her she would have a hard time because it would only happen once in a great while. When she turns 3 she will start pre-school so that will help but that's a whole year away.
There is drop in care at the YWCA but that's only for a couple of hours at a time and wouldn't have worked out the other day because the time I needed it was in the middle of her nap time. My husband can't take time off from work because he works for a bunch of assholes that give him a hard time about it so it's always left in my lap.
I will say it was not too much of a hardship on my part as the weather was fabulous so we got to do some fun things. But still work was crazy yesterday morning and I had to leave things unfinished to go pick her up.
If anyone has any suggestions, I'd love to hear them. If not, thanks for letting me vent. |
| Posted by Kati on 04/04/2007 04:07 PM
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| You should find an individual that would be willing to watch her a half a day and have your mom pick her up the other half. That way she would get used to the other person watching her and when your mom has to run out or go to an appt or something, you will have the other person to rely on. Abbi will get used to being dropped off with someone else. She may cry and throw fits for the first few days but she will get used to it then eventually be like my son and take off running when we pull up at the daycare and of course forget to tell me bye. =) |
| posted by Ashley on 09/19/2007 08:16 AM
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| HI, that sounds like you're in a rock and a hard place. I don't know if its too late to find a daycare that could possibly take your daughter part time. Maybe like 2 days a week? That way, you're telling your Mom she could use the break and its a schedule that she can also use to adjust any dr's appointments around. Plus, Abbi will make some friends and socialize and be ready for Pre-school next year. Good luck in whatever you do! |
| posted by Danielle on 09/19/2007 10:42 AM
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Thanks for the suggestions. My grandmother is now watching Abbi 2 mornings a week. Which gives my mother some time to do her seniors club and knitting club. It hasn't completely alleviated the problem but it's made it better.
Abbi is scheduled to start pre-school for 3 days a week starting in February. I've arranged it for Monday, Wednesday, Friday full days so if my parents decide they want to take a long weekend they can. I hope she likes pre-school. She still cries sometimes leaving her with my mom and grandmother, if only for a minute or two but it makes me worry how she will be with complete strangers. I'm hoping that having other kids there will make it lots easier.
Thanks again for your replies. |
| posted by Kati on 09/19/2007 08:45 PM
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times have changed since our parents were parents themselves. i know my parents don't seem to understand my life as a working mom. my mom stayed at home when i was a kid. now she works, but still doesn't understand how little time i have. i save my sick and personal days for my son until the end of the year. i too wish i could use them for a break sometimes.
would your job allow you to make up some hours here and there thru the week in case of situations like these? i'm sure with this economy they could try to work with you in order to keep you. |
| posted by dutchess81177 on 08/01/2008 04:48 PM
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Thanks for your reply. I work for an elementary school so during the summer my hours are pretty flexible but during the year it's either take the day off or find daycare somewhere else.
Now that DD is in pre-school 3 days/week things are much better but I still am having to deal with last minute "can she go to school all week or trying to switch days with school". Next year DD will start full-time so it will be just grin & bear it until then. |
| posted by Kati on 08/05/2008 09:49 PM
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