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| Its sounds a little weird to me. But if you really trust your husband I would't worry about it. If I were you I would eventualy snap. She should put that effort into making her relationship better not intruding on yours. |
| posted by Shelly on 01/31/2008 02:12 PM
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| The woman wants your husband.She will throw herself 1 day.I had that happen and my hubby had several affairs.His reply was SHE THREW HERSELF AT ME!Any man would have done the same thing.Men are all alike!Thats what he told me.Id tell her if she values her appendages and her life shed stay away and if she thinks you are over reacting then tell her youll make her hubby his fav food and that youll ask him if hed like to come over for a drink or for a movie on the couch!Bet thatll make her think twice. |
| posted by Lexi on 01/31/2008 02:21 PM
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| Honestly, I would be a little worried, not necessarily of your husband, but of what this womens agenda is, I would distance yourself and your family from her, even if nothing is truly going on you dont want someone like that around, that isn't a true friend if all she wants to do is please your husband. What does your husband say about all this?? |
| posted by Christy on 01/31/2008 02:58 PM
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Perhaps the Ladies here are on to something......
What if the next time she did the overtures that made you uncomfortable..you simply smiled and stated in front of her husband & yours.something to the effect of.......
. "Wow, I don't know how you find the time to treat your husband and other wives husbands' too".........
and walk away.
I'm sure that would start the conversation from her husband of how she doesn't do that for him, and your credibility problems will be over :)
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| posted by Tina on 01/31/2008 04:04 PM
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| Thanks, cause now I feel a little better knowing that I am not reading to much into to this. I think I will try to make her bo's favorite food and do the same damn thing and see how she stinkin likes it even if they don't get along I betcha she wont. I am constantly asking what the heck is she up to. My husband said don't worry,you know the typical crap, but men are men. I can't help but wonder though. I am going through this, where I can't feed his ego anymore. I can't be his cheerleader and say oh how great you did on your job, yadda, yadda, yadda. How gives a crap, but someone out there just might and feed into it. But I shouldn't have to do that for the rest of my life to hold onto him, after all, he doesn't do it for me. What do you think? |
| posted by Melinda on 01/31/2008 04:11 PM
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| Please forgive my spelling errors, but I am mad. I might who in the heck, not how..... |
| posted by Melinda on 01/31/2008 04:13 PM
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Hi Melinda
I would be worried. My friend growing up, I'll call her Sarah, her mother, Susan would have a friend she tried to help by listening to her problems. she would come over almost everyday to complain to Susan about her husband. After a year or so after awhile she was having an afair with her husband and they ended up divorced.
If she makes you worried or mad why would you want to hang out with her anyway. |
| posted by Ann on 01/31/2008 05:10 PM
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| That is a very good question Ann. Thanks for askng it and I have come to the conclusion I am a pushover. Also I wasn't sure if I should be concerned or not. Now I know there is a reason to be. |
| posted by Melinda on 01/31/2008 05:13 PM
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Hi Melinda
I pushed the repyl button by accident before I was finished with my story. Anyway the point is trust your instincts it is not far fetched that something could happen.
Ann |
| posted by Ann on 01/31/2008 05:16 PM
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| Nope, I would not trust her. |
| posted by Valentina on 01/31/2008 08:16 PM
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| I would distance myself. Your neighbor may just be trying to make her husband jealous, but why take the chance especially if you're not enjoying her company anyways. Instead of looking outside of her relationship to seek comfort/boost her self-esteem, what she should be doing is going to counseling with her hubby. She should not have involved you! If she asks to come over, tell her you're busy! |
| posted by Lisa on 01/31/2008 08:57 PM
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| Brownies and a low cut shirt, a touch of perfume and mint breath.I made these brownies for you (bending low and close) because your wife was so sweeeeet the other day and brought my husband over several baked goodies.I reallllllly hope you enjoy them.Oh and if you are ever bored when she goes to the store come on over.(All in front of her).Itll only take once. |
| posted by Lexi on 02/01/2008 12:06 PM
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| I honestly think that if she is in a bad relationship, she just may be looking for male approval, and that is why she tries to do things to please your husband, especially if the relationship she is in is bad in the way that the guy makes her feel she does nothing right. I wouldn't end the friendship, but I would stay aware to her behavior. Most woman who are in bad relationships, and stay there have lowered self esteem, either due to the relationship or father issues which carry over to the relationship. |
| posted by on 02/01/2008 12:06 PM
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| Would you consider her to be a good friend for the most part? If she is, then maybe talk to her about what you feel and that it is bothering you could she please cool it. If she takes offense and stops speaking to you then you are no worse off if you had just stopped speaking to her. At least you will know you tried to resolve it before ending it. |
| posted by on 02/01/2008 12:34 PM
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| I dont think that you should lower yourself to her standards and do to her husband what she is doing to yours, I think that you should just end the friendship, because even if she is haveing troubles or has a low self esteem going after some one elses husband whether it is just for approval or something else is not ok. Plus you dont want something else to come of this. |
| posted by Christy on 02/01/2008 02:28 PM
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| If you trust your hubby, nothing is going to come of it, and even if she makes a pass, I am sure hubby would tell you. I am not saying she is insecure so it is ok, I just think sometimes people have deeper issues and it may be nothing sexual, it may just be her needing some guy, any guys approval |
| posted by on 02/01/2008 03:32 PM
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| I totally agree, if her husband makes her fell enadequate in some way maybe she is looking for approval some where else. Maybe you could just tell her nicely that you really appreciate everything she's doing but it's not necessary. |
| posted by Krystal on 02/01/2008 03:52 PM
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| I say she should look somewhere else for approval. Preferably someone not married. |
| posted by Ann on 02/01/2008 05:05 PM
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