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| lmao!Nearly everyday! |
| posted by Lexi on 01/29/2008 01:57 PM
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| Ladies, it sounds like you don't trust your hubbies. I am curious as to why you would feel the need to check them. |
| posted by on 01/29/2008 02:04 PM
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| I trust him in that i know he is not doing anything out of the marriage, my main reason is that I feel like he lies to me about talkng to his effed up family, because there are calls on there from his cousin, who totally disrespected me and our daughter, someone that hubby said he wanted nothing to do with ever again, then why is his number coming up as one of the last dialed? |
| posted by on 01/29/2008 02:10 PM
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My husband handles the account so I don't see any of the calls but I do see the bill once in a while when I get the mail. I have looked at if before but its mainly my # or work since work pays for his phone.
Have you questioned why he is talking to a cousin that he should not have been talking too. Perhpas the cousin called him b/c something happened in the family and he was just calling back - but I would hope he would have told you about it. |
| posted by MK on 01/29/2008 02:39 PM
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| I did question him this morning, and he told me that it is no big deal, I said well if it is no big deal then why not just tell me. I feel like I divulge everything to him about my day, who I saw, who I talked to, and so on. For some reason, he says he forgets. It is not that he talks to his family, it is that I feel he is hiding it from me. When everything happened with his family that lead to us not speaking to them, I told him that I wanted nothing to do with them, he could do what ever he wanted but not to involve me, he told me they were all dead to him after the crap they pulled. He wantednothing to do with them. Now, the story changes, when I try to talk to him about it, he tells me nothing has changed with how he feels about what they did or how he feels about wanting nothing to do with them, yet I feel we are not on the same page, and he is not respecting me enough to tell me the truth. |
| posted by on 01/29/2008 02:47 PM
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| LOL trust!I do not trust mine as far as I cant throw him.Ever since he wanted to kick me and my kids out of HIS renter house that we both shared before we were married for some Ho at work that was suppose to be wonderful and I wasnt doing what I promised when I got here.I was working 2 pt jobs taking care of his devil daughter and taking her back and forth to school along w mine.Then I was doing his laundry and found cheap perfume and lipstick all over a shirt and he locked the door when he got home to hide it.Trust whats that?Or maybe when I was engaged to him I caught him on the phone saying yes dear okay dear I know dear and he says he was talking to a sprint tech male.LOL yea right and ima idiot.Oh and then lets not forget the time i was pregnant and his ho called my private phone and he jumped her azz for promising that if he got her an apt that she would nt go back w her hubby.She said she wanted to be w him.Trust whats that???Oh and lets not forget just recently him not touching me for months and always saying hes too stressed to do anything.Hmmmm a man that doesnt want it?Yes right.Sneaking in late from work 30 min to 1.5 hrs at times.Nope no trust!!! |
| posted by Lexi on 01/29/2008 04:04 PM
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| I do, cause I just want to make sure. I am not sure what I lookin for, nor am I sure I want to find it. Hope that doesn't sound stupid. That is terrible Lexi and Dawn. I can sit here and say I would kick their A--, but I don't know what I would do if it happened. Families are highly overrated. If you had the fortunate leave it to beaver expierence then you will probably think I am mean. But if you have a family that sucks....Lexi, I can't even imagine how you feel and I am sorry. |
| posted by Melinda on 01/29/2008 05:34 PM
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| Jay doesn't cheat on me I know that for a fact, but he does lie about the family thing and it pisses me off. Barb, you need to invest in crazy glue...I am pmming you to tell you why, too racey for the room, lol |
| posted by on 01/29/2008 05:38 PM
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| the only time i see who is calling is if his phone is ringing and he is doing something somewhere else like outside or in the kitchen |
| posted by judi on 01/30/2008 01:00 AM
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NEVER.
I never do. I think cell phones are very private. We respect each other's privacy. I used to be that kinda girl, but that was before we had the internet and cells (showing my age!).. but I think you have to have something for yourself... and nowadays the cell is everyone's life. If I thought something was up, I might check online or something for the bill... but I haven't felt the need to do it. |
| posted by Rachelle on 01/30/2008 02:30 PM
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Ladies,
I am sorry that some of you are having these issues with your men. It is a shame that they don't speak to you about it instead of hiding things. As for me, no I never check the cell phone or the bill. I have no reason to, plus anyone that calls his cell will also call the house since he works from home most of the time. |
| posted by on 01/30/2008 02:52 PM
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| I trust my husband so completely, I have no question or doubt about him, or his actions. It's a wonderful feeling to be able to trust someone that much, and i would encourage anyone to work toward that, if you can. However, accountability is a big part of trusting. And I know if I ever wanted to check out my husband's calls, he'd show me. And vice versa. I think it would just be important to be open about checking, instead of snooping. That just breeds more distrust. |
| posted by Jaclyn on 01/30/2008 04:36 PM
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| NEVER! I trust my hubby completely! I would have never married him if I didn't! Communication is key ladies. |
| posted by on 01/30/2008 07:16 PM
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| I have the type of husband that loves to point out big butts because he is an ass man... but i know he just looks, he always tells me mine is better because it's "his" I do get jealous at times but then he just reassures me that he would never look at anyone else or fantasize about them. I trust him i know he is being silly cause he was one of those dorky shy kids. that now he is more secure because of me. but the phone thing well they either call him at home first cause he works here 99% of the time he leaves his computer logged into both his emails and we know each others passwords because different bills get emailed to either account. plus we have nothing to hide. The family thing is different. I didn't talk to my mom for 2 years because she disrespected me but I still missed her at times even though family can be cruel they are blood and if he grew up being close to them it might be harder to withdraw. |
| posted by Kristhal on 01/30/2008 09:16 PM
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| I loved that feeling about being able to trust.It felt so good and so secure.But when some 1 threatens to kick you out of your house along w your children and doesnt touch you for weeks;you know something isnt right.I love my husband but I dont trust him anymore.It isnt the same kind of love anymore.When we go somewhere I look at ppl more then he does.I point out ppl to him.Ive always been a ppl watcher.As far as in-laws,I dont give a darn if he calls his family or not.I loathe them.Im past the hate part.Loathing is worst the hate.Yall know what they said about me to him while I was there; like I wasnt there.I told yall.But he did grow up w them.I think that its wrong to tell him you cant talk to any of them.I let him make his own decisions when it comes to them.Its just like a child;tell em no;they are going to do it behind your back til they see that it was wrong.Hubby got tired of them on his own and now I keep quiet about them hurting me.He barely talks to them.Its like the rest of life;if you hit a dog long enough hes going to run away and never come back.His family made him them selves not want to be around them.I didnt have any thing to do w it.Oh and the cell phone.I have quit looking because I know that itll come back to haunt him and he'll screw up 1 day.And I will catch him.Cell phone numbers can be erased.Men are smart that way when they need to be. |
| posted by Lexi on 01/31/2008 12:11 PM
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| I never told him he couldn't talk to his stupid family, he told me he was done with them and they were dead to him, I asked are you sure thats how you feel, he said more than I knew. I never forced him to make a choice, I just told him not to expect me to put myself around them anymore. We talked and we are fine, he gets what I am saying. He called his cousin, after how long of no communication. Kind of makes him look like an ass being that not one of his family sent him or our daughter a birthday card or a christmas card, not one of them has even called him since we stopped talking to them, and he goes with his tail between his legs calling his shit head cousin. He agreed with what I said, and he said he doesn''t even know why he felt the urge to call him, and that his cousin never answered or even returned his call. I told him if you want to call by all means do so, but don't hide it or lie to me, I said I wanted nothing to do with them, and they are not to be around our daughter, other than that do as you please just keep me in the loop. |
| posted by on 01/31/2008 12:59 PM
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Wow It's ironic how I read this today, last night I was cleaning out the laundry from his recent trip' luggage and his phone was in there and locked. I mentioned it to him and he said he locked it incase it was stolen but he wouldn't tell me the code to open it up. He hasn't locked it in 18 years.
I know what your thinking, believe me I've been there all week, and right this second I don't want to say anything more, I've been under wayyyy too much stress this week and am about to crack and haven't slept since Tuesday night. We stayed up all night and today discussing things and did not sleep. |
| posted by Tina on 01/31/2008 04:09 PM
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| Yea thats the same thing my x use to tell me.He said that he didnt want anyone knowing the numbers he had stored.BS!He was an idiot and couldnt even find his shoes in the am.One day a few weeks later he left it in the truck and I saw it.After the POS went to bed,I went and copied the phone numbers.Some were ligit and others I called had 2 females answering.The same numbers were on his beeper also that he forgot to clear.So I called them.Repeats.Seems he was cleaning a couple of pipes out that werent plastic.He is a plumber.Men think we are soooo stupid.God gave us an extra sense to know and feel things and men think its all bs.Hubby was kidding w me the other day saying how do I know you dont have a bf?I thought to myself :Dude if you only knew how I trashed men on the forum nearly everyday youd not ask me a question like that!!! |
| posted by Lexi on 02/01/2008 11:59 AM
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| Is there nothing that is kept at home-why are you airing your dirty laundry??? Most of you obviously need marriage counseling! And why are you still married?????? If you need to check your husbands cell phone, there is NO trust, so something about it! WOW |
| posted by on 02/01/2008 02:00 PM
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| Um this is a discussion forum, where people discuss things, no one is airing anything, we are all here for the same reason, chatting and advice, thank you for your opinion though. |
| posted by on 02/01/2008 02:09 PM
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| Wow!! I was under the impression along with about 1000 of these women that ,that was what this website was all about.To share problems advice worries and problems w/ everyday life!!! God dont I feel stupid for sharing all my everyday dirty laundry.MY BAD!!! |
| posted by Lexi on 02/01/2008 02:11 PM
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| Are you serious? What advice are you hoping to gain from telling the world you don't trust your husband? I hope you are getting what you need from this website. I ASSUMED this website was for meeting new moms, playdates, etc. I guess it is your BAD! |
| posted by on 02/01/2008 02:14 PM
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| Honey your tude leaves much to be desired, and you seem like a very angry person, I can only imagine why. If you do not like it, and are just here to pick arguments and be nasty, then please exit, especially if the topic or topics offend you so much. Meeting moms and making playdates might be quite hard to do with an attitude like yours. Hey Barb, trip is cancelled it is too icy, oops did I air too much? |
| posted by on 02/01/2008 02:20 PM
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| You are totally right-I am leaving but with this said. Angry-that's calling the kettle black! I am surely not your honey, and I still don't understand what you are gaining? Get a divorce, by your posts, you are extremely happy-ok....... Tell me again what advice you are getting, from what I have read-you and others are talking bad about your husbands and in-laws. All I am saying is, GROW UP- and if your're not happy, leave him-it's really that simple. I am very happy with my husband and always have been, and if I weren't I sure wouldn't be sharing it with all of you. What's the point? Get help, telling all these women that you think your husband is cheating is certainly not healthy for you or your child----GET HELP. I am sorry if I have offended anyone but seriously-make a playdate!! |
| posted by on 02/01/2008 02:28 PM
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| buh bye |
| posted by on 02/01/2008 02:29 PM
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| She's not sorry she offended anyone, becaue I think she likes to offend people, and when people have to state how "happy" they are usually they aren't. |
| posted by on 02/01/2008 02:31 PM
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| Cheri we are all here for 1 reason or another.Ppl have made lasting relationshipsfriendships on here.I am so sorry that you are so angry today and are having a bad day.If you would like to talk to us about it,I am sure that we'd be more then happy to help you.If I do not like something that some 1 says on here; I just ignore the post.I would not ever ever never lash out and say hurtful words to them.I read the rules of this forum and it isnt proper ettiquette.We are here to have a good times and learn from other ppls experiences and maybe in the future something that we read on here will help us in our daily life.We are here for you. |
| posted by Lexi on 02/01/2008 02:32 PM
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| I am off to go "Get Help" now. |
| posted by on 02/01/2008 02:32 PM
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Don't forget to ask for meds! LOL. Bye bye to you.
How obvious is it that we are women---can you say cat fight! |
| posted by on 02/01/2008 02:34 PM
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| Not all women are caty, when you enter a room and start attacking people will bite back. Why are you on here, didn't you just post helpful sleep advice for someone? So you gave advice on here and expect someone to try it out. This is a forum to discuss whatever is bothering you or whatever you feel you need to talk about. If you do not like the topic, simply do not repost, don't make other people feel bad for talking about how they feel. Does it make you feel better to do so? I am not on meds but thanks, are you going to enroll in that anger managment class? |
| posted by on 02/01/2008 02:41 PM
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