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| Hi to everyone! My name is Mindy and of course, I am a stay at home mom. I have to admit, I have my good and bad days through this. I have never been able to stay home and thought how great it would be to do so. Now I do and I think how great it would be to work again. Then I feel guilty cause I want some me time and should be lucky to be able to raise my own kids. Does anyone have any ideas how to find the middle ground? It is something I keep looking for and just can't find it. I always thought how nice it would be to get together with other moms for playdates and have some coffee, while the kids are running around, but I found most work and I don't know that many people. Sounds pretty pathetic huh. Any thoughts would be appreciated. I look forward to meeting some moms who share the same thoughts I do. |
| Posted by Melinda on 01/28/2008 10:02 AM
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Hi Melinda,
Welcome to the group. I was in the same boat you were awhile back. Loved being at home(especially to raise my own kids)but hated the thought of staying at home filling like I need to go to work. I actually went back to work for a couple of years. Truth is I hated it when I started back because I felt my kids needed me, one was in school and the other was in daycare. So I quit work and decided to work from home. That was the best decision I ever made. My kids really benifited with that decision too. I keep myself busy now that both my kids are in school and I am at home by myself. I make me a schedule to do house work, then I work alittle and then its about time for my kids to come home. If you have any other questions you can email if you want. My email is hplybrand@yahoo.com. I would like to become your friend.
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| posted by Heather on 01/28/2008 10:20 AM
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| Welcome Mindy. I've been a stay at home mom for about two and a half years now. It certainly is a lot of hard work and there are times when I miss my lunch hour that I had at work. I used it to do whatever I wanted - walk, have lunch with my friends/coworkers, chat with adults. It was a huge change to be at home, but something I wanted after having my first, who is now 9. I'm trying to get my thoughts in order so that I can work from home. My oldest is in 3rd grade, my second is in kindergarten (1/2 day), my five year old is in preschool three days a week and my youngest just turned three. We have a lot going on here and I know I need some me time. Don't every be ashamed of that. If we don't take care of ourselves, we can't take care of our family. That goes for mental and physical well being. |
| posted by Valerie on 01/28/2008 10:47 AM
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| Try to go to meetup.com. You can find playgroups through there. |
| posted by Lisa on 01/28/2008 11:13 AM
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| Thanks for the welcome from everyone. I am glad to meet some people who feel the same way I do. My husband said to me one time how hard can it be.... Well need I go there. I just laughed and said you wait and see. That time came and went, and I never heard another word. He might think it, but he knows now not to voice it. I guess for me, I have to listen to all of the fun meetings my husband went to and he had steak for dinner, but I had mac and cheese with the kids...... |
| posted by Melinda on 01/28/2008 03:10 PM
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| Mindy. I can sympathize about the dinner thing. My husband travels during the week and is home on the weekends. He's had those yummy sounding dinners while I've tried to keep the kids happy, fed, bathed...everything. You know what though, speaking of my situation, turn that around, and he seldom gets to have dinner with our kids. Sad. There are nights when I wish I had some adult help, I have four. I'm reminding myself I want to treasure every minute I have with them. |
| posted by Valerie on 01/28/2008 04:25 PM
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| My hubby did the taxes last night and found out that me as a dependent I am only worth 1600.00 a yr.Pathetic huh?30 dollars a week for all that we do daily being a sahm.If I had time Id sit down and add what it would cost for all that we did daily.Sure isnt 30 bux a week lol!!!Childcare/laundry/house cleaning/cooking/running errands/windows(def seperate) |
| posted by Lexi on 01/28/2008 05:26 PM
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| lol, u do windows???? |
| posted by on 01/28/2008 06:32 PM
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| $30 a week?!!! Oh my word!!!! |
| posted by Valerie on 01/28/2008 09:29 PM
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| You know something Valerie, I never thought about it that way, the husband thing. That is a good way to look at it and I will try to remember it the next time he is flying to Atlanta for a week conference....$1600.00 a year huh! That is a kick in the butt. My husband and I are trying to figure out how I can make money and not pay a stinkin fortune in day care. $400-$450 a week, isn't that crazy. I know someone who is paying $20,000 a year just for day care. So now I am back to it isn't worth it to work. |
| posted by Melinda on 01/29/2008 07:14 AM
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I was with you - paid 250 a week for daughter - and 200 for son a week.. I got to the point where I was working just to pay for daycare.. kinda silly... i maybe saw an extra 100 a month for all the hrs and time i was putting in and missing with my babies... so i know its not for everyone, but i dont miss working at all.. just some more adult interaction is what i miss... thanks to this site.. im getting better... lol.. !
as for the 30 a week.. I saw an article in Parents magazine i think that stated we could earn upwards of 165,000- a year if you included all our duties as sahm.. thats what i call a salary... think about it, were "on call" 24hrs a day.... |
| posted by Lauren on 01/29/2008 08:33 AM
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| Yep. When three of my kids were in day care it was costing us $1,300 a month. Insane. I thought about getting into the day care business...but that can still leave you a little tangled with your schedule to take care of your own kids...depending on how old they are. When I was thinking about that they all needed to be in daycare. |
| posted by Valerie on 01/29/2008 09:44 AM
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| Yep. When three of my kids were in day care it was costing us $1,300 a month. Insane. I thought about getting into the day care business...but that can still leave you a little tangled with your schedule to take care of your own kids...depending on how old they are. When I was thinking about that they all needed to be in daycare. |
| posted by Valerie on 01/29/2008 09:44 AM
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