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| Hi everyone I'm Eva Gordon a 35 soon to be 36 year old mother of two children a girl 6 and boy almost 3. I battled with this issue for some time myself and did some serious soulsearching and it took the words of the wisest woman I have evern known, my foster mother Alice Hulburd who passed away last year in March to bring me to my decision as to whether I should have one more or leave things as they are. You see having another was truly optional for me, I have one child of each gender right now and they have brought me so much joy yet I still felt incomplete and I felt that my little brood of ducklings was still too small. Before my mother passed, I asked her what she thought I should do, she was dying of pancreatic cancer and had little time left. She told me that when all is said and done and I look ed back on my life some day that I would never say, "Gee I should never have had that third child!" Instead I would say, "Thank God for that third blessing!" Most people say I should have had one more and they don't regret the one's they have. It made so much sense. My foster mother in her youth suffered tremendously and was married to a Vietnam Vet who mentally could not cope in the real world after the war and life was difficult for my foster mother being married to him. She had conceived a third child herself and decided to terminate her pregnancy due to her husband's mental incapacity and the many problems that his mental illness caused in their marriage. She felt terrible about doing what she did but felt she had to. I think she really wanted me to go for it and have one more. So now, I am pregnant with my third and due in September and I feel incredibly blessed to have one more opportunity to create, nourish, grow, and bring a baby into this world one more time, the baby my mother wanted but could not have. I'm doing it for both of us! i hop eshe is watching from heaven. If you are thinking about it and on the fence and time is of the essence do some soul searching. sometimes you have to dig deeper for the answer. Eva |
| Posted by Eva on 01/21/2008 12:42 AM
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| That is such a great story and thank you so much for sharing. Congrats on your 3rd. Im so glad you found the answer you were looking for. I wish you a happy healthy nine months!!! |
| posted by katie on 01/24/2008 12:10 PM
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| thank you for reading and commenting on my story Katie it felt so good to tell it and share it. I know the decision and choice to have a child is absolutely momentous, it's too choose to have your heart walk around outside your body for the rest of your life!!!! Eva Gordon |
| posted by Eva on 01/25/2008 12:45 PM
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| Very very true!!!! |
| posted by katie on 01/31/2008 02:53 PM
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