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| Agh Sarah! How awful!! I hear you though...my ex boyfriend and I were together for almost 6 years and then he cheated. I found out yesterday that the girl he cheated with is due anyday now and it is his...agh.Wonderful...I had to find out from a girl that we all used to work with...he didn't even tell me. I don't know how to feel about it...but at least she wasn't my cousin. I feel your pain...cheaters SUCK!! And now that he is going to jail...agh. The good part is that he will have to pay backpay...but of course that doesn't help anyone NOW! Good luck...we are here if you need to vent!! |
| posted by Elise on 01/13/2008 08:20 PM
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| Your better off with him in jail, at least then he can't make things worse for you with your daughters and use them to make you miserable. Let your cousin have him if thats the type of person she is, they deserve each other. Just like the women my ex was cheating on me with. They knew about him and I, they knew I was pregnant. Then he kicked my daughter and I out when she was 5 days old because he wanted a freer sex life. If a woman, any woman would sink to helping a man like that cheat- they deserve the bum. We deserve better. And our daughters deserve better fathers than that. Men who they can actually look up to and respect. |
| posted by Kate on 01/13/2008 09:27 PM
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| I don't get it...how can females consider themselves women if they know damn well that the man that they are F*ing is in a relationship with another woman? I don't get it?! Why would anyone want to be second best...if a man is in a relationship...leave him alone!! agh... |
| posted by Elise on 01/13/2008 10:58 PM
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| Elise and Kate thank yall so much for your support. I have found that during times like this in life it is good to have support surrounding you! I really dont understand men these days, its like generations have taught them that working hard and being a gentleman dont matter.... the only thing that matters to them is "tail" and finding the youngest, skinniest woman to show off.. Its sad isnt it! Again thank yall so much for the support and please know that Im here for yall if yall need me so dont hesitate to email me. I am so sorry for yalls troubles in life and I only wish the best for yall and your children!!!! Take care... |
| posted by Sarah on 01/14/2008 06:25 PM
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| Now to make things better...that biotch that he fucked while we were together is due anyday now...how did I find out? From a woman that we both used to work with...scum...I hate him. |
| posted by Elise on 01/14/2008 08:39 PM
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| Now to make things better...that biotch that he fucked while we were together is due anyday now...how did I find out? From a woman that we both used to work with...scum...I hate him. |
| posted by Elise on 01/14/2008 08:39 PM
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I agree, its almost as if they feel they have the right to not work at their relationships, cheat whenever they want, and just do whatever whenever with no repercussions. I have another friend in a similar situation. She has two kids, her husband doesn't help her with the kids or with anything and switches jobs like that is his job. And he feels entitled to be a bum! I've been thinking about most of the men I know, even the ones who don't cheat, and all I keep coming up with is that I am better off without a man. I may change my mind, but at this point- who needs the headaches.
My favorite lately is my ex telling me he wants us to work things out, but if we meet other people who we are happier with thats okay too. I wouldn't take him back regardless, but still, give me a break. It's as if he's saying he wants my permission to cheat on me again if I did take him back. Moron. |
| posted by Kate on 01/15/2008 08:20 AM
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| Kate...oh, sure...cheat on me again...I'd LOVE that! Men are morons!! Please hurt me again! agh...idiots! |
| posted by Elise on 01/15/2008 01:56 PM
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| Yall are so right... Who needs the headaches that men bring. Last night I decided its time to file for divorce and I informed my husband that I will get sole custody of our children.. If he fights me he will regret it!! He is so unbelievable.. he doesnt help with the girls, doesnt help with the house, doesnt take responsibility for anything but wants the title of dad and husband.. You have to actually be a good dad and husband to have those titles!!! He is begging me back too but honestly the thought of us getting back together makes me sick to my stomach!!! Girls I know how yall are feeling and who says we have to jump into relationships right now.. We can be single and focus on our children and enjoy our "down time"!!! Thats what i plan on doing.. Good luck girls. |
| posted by Sarah on 01/18/2008 01:16 PM
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| Let me tell you I no what you are going thru i have 5 children with there father for 16 years he decided to have a baby with another girl which he still denies to me but lives with her and her other children and just forgot about mine i work a full time job and trying to make day by day but you no what i will and i am and you will to if you put your mind to it |
| posted by Kris on 01/22/2008 10:15 PM
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| Kris you are soo right. We are going to make it through these tough times no matter what b/c we havent forgotten about our children. We arent like the men and just run off whenever we feel like it!! We stick to our commitments and love our children unconditionally. Im sorry to hear that your childrens father decided to have children with someone else! Your children dont deserve to see that... but I hear the strength in your words and know that you will make sure those children will be fine! Same with me.... keep writing us Kris and good luck to you and those children |
| posted by Sarah on 01/23/2008 01:10 AM
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| Thankyou and yea your right it is all about the kids but you no it is very hard because day in and day out you have to do it by yourself where they get to leave or move on with there lives when you get old but they forget about the children or at least mine did. But dont get me wrong i would never leave my children for anything or anyone but is does make you mad but you just have to look to god and hope he gives you the strength you need. |
| posted by Kris on 01/23/2008 05:42 PM
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| Kris I certainly understand ya!! My childrens father wants to be the dad without the work involved and it frustrates me to no end. I cant just abandon my responsibilities and go wild and crazy like he did and there are many many days that i think how unfair it is... But then i have to turn around and say "wait a minute.. i got the best thing out of this relationship, i got my precious children". Now im 23 years old and when my friends are going out and having a blast its hard for me to not be jealous of that but I have the better gift!!! The best gift actually! Its funny b/c my friends are jealous of me, me a girl who is single and raising two children all on her own and they are jealous of me....but its not hard to understand why when i see the smiles on my girls faces. |
| posted by Sarah on 02/02/2008 09:46 PM
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| Kris I wanted to add thatyou are right, God is in control and He is taking care of his children so as long as we keep our hearts set toward Him we will be fine!!! His light is shining on us everyday that we get to be parents to our wonderful children and we get to experience His miracles when they smile. |
| posted by Sarah on 02/02/2008 09:49 PM
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| How right you are sarah! everything happens for a reason and we do not know untill its over! However keep in mind not all men are that way I am one of the few good men, my childrens mother left allmost 3 years ago and there has been many times when I thought I was the one losing, but then one day my mother in law said to me "you are the one who got the better end of the stick" and she was right, the joy of my children every day way outweighs the freedom my ex thinks she has, someday you will find a good man and then you will find true happiness, but only God can make that happen, dont rush it, good luck, Gary |
| posted by gary on 02/07/2008 07:15 AM
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