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I started staying home with my little girl shortly before the holidays. Working full time and being a mom and wife was too much for me. She used to be in day care five days a week and daycare was very busy and there was always something going on. She's not quite 9 months old. I tried working from home but i just couldn't make her play by herself for 6 hrs a day while i tried to work. Now that all my family is gone and it's just back to being me and her (my hubby works soo much, sometimes 60 hrs a week) she is turning into a horrible child. I can't do anything right anymore, and it seems she doesn't want me to care for her. She won't eat much food for me, she will take half her bottle and get mad and throw it away. She won't take a nap for me, basically she seems to not want me period. I don't know what to do. I'm so frustrated with her. My mom lives 2 hrs away and my inlaws live half way across the country. My mom can't come up here everytime i have problems with katie but i don't know how to fix them. Anyone have any suggestions or been through this before? Please Help!
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| Posted by Amanda on 01/05/2008 05:18 PM
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Hi, I have heard that if we get an overwhelming feeling from a behavior (or misbehavior) that she has been feeling, she just can't put it into words. She may be feeling the loss of the separation of not seeing her dad (or even her grandma and/or others she was close to at the daycare). She might not be talking but her behavior is telling you something.
These are just some thoughts from a grandmother who is caring for a granddaughter that is having separation anxiety from her family and has acted out with misbehavior. I wish you the very best.
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| posted by Rachel on 01/06/2008 07:46 PM
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Hello. I recently went through a period like this with my daughter. She was in daycare full time for the first year of her life. During that year, my husband joined the Navy, so right after her birthday, we moved to CA from IN and I became a stay at home wife and mommy (my dream). The next month was FILLED with tantrums (full-blown), crying, whining, etc. It was so, so frustrating and draining. I questioned whether any of the decisions we had made were the right ones. It DID stop, though, and she became my sweet little girl once again.
Along with all of the excitement from the holidays, which is overwhelming to little ones even if they enjoy it all, she's adjusting to her little world changing (even though it's for the better). She's having to adjust to a new routine, different surroundings, people, toys (even though it's home, she's been used to daycare during the day), etc., coupled with plain-old growing from baby to toddler; and you're adjusting to a whole-new life as well.
My advice: give it a month or two, be understanding and compassionate toward her (you can talk to family/friends about your feelings, frustrations, etc.; she can only throw tantrums, cry, etc.), be consistent in your parenting regarding limits, acceptable behavior (it can be tempting to quit fighting the good fight during this period, I know!!) and before long, you two will have both adjusted to your new lives and you will love, love, love spending your entire day with her! Keep your head up!!! |
| posted by Nicole on 01/07/2008 01:57 PM
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