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| I started staying home with my little girl shortly before the holidays. Working full time and being a mom and wife was too much for me. She used to be in day care five days a week and daycare was very busy and there was always something going on. She's not quite 9 months old. I tried working from home but i just couldn't make her play by herself for 6 hrs a day while i tried to work. Now that all my family is gone and it's just back to being me and her (my hubby works soo much, sometimes 60 hrs a week) she is turning into a horrible child. I can't do anything right anymore, and it seems she doesn't want me to care for her. She won't eat much food for me, she will take half her bottle and get mad and throw it away. She won't take a nap for me, basically she seems to not want me period. I don't know what to do. I'm so frustrated with her. My mom lives 2 hrs away and my inlaws live half way across the country. My mom can't come up here everytime i have problems with katie but i don't know how to fix them. Anyone have any suggestions or been through this before? Please Help! |
| Posted by Amanda on 01/05/2008 05:15 PM
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| It sounds like she will need some time to adjust to being home with you. Take it one day at a time. Try getting her to play alone for like 1/2 an hour a day and just add time to it. As far as eating, my daughter one day wanted to do everything her self. It was messy but worth it. She may also be stressed out if you are. Hang in there. |
| posted by on 01/05/2008 06:36 PM
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Amanda, I agree with Jackie. I think she just isn't used to being around you as much as she is now. Plus, she may be just trying to see how far she can push you. Around 8-9 months, they start trying to push the limits so they can figure out exactly what the boundaries are.
There could also be an underlying problem that you were not aware of. SHe may have been allowed to act out like that at daycare. If so, then that is what she knows right now. It will just take her some time to adjust to the way you want things to run. Give her some time and remember to hug her lots and lots!!! |
| posted by Nikki on 01/05/2008 09:42 PM
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| At daycare they didn't ahve to worry about telling her no. The part of the daycare that she was in was meant for babies and toddlers only. So no small stuff or outlets that could get into. But at home she tears into everything. If i drop a piece of paper on the floor she's on it and has half in her mouth and the other half in shreds. When i tell her no she looks at me and smiles. When daddy tells her no she listens. I'm debating putting her back in daycare...... |
| posted by Amanda on 01/06/2008 10:37 AM
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| Do you have one room that you can gate off? I keep our living room as the play area. It is her safe zone so that I can get stuff done around the house without worrying she will get hurt. When I am not doing laundry and stuff I will let her roam around with me. |
| posted by on 01/06/2008 12:10 PM
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| Amanda, don't put her back in just yet! Give her, and you, a chance to adjust. I promise, you will really appreciate her being home with you once you both have become accustomed to being around each other so much! |
| posted by Nikki on 01/06/2008 04:12 PM
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| She wasn't so bad today. She started throwing a fit right before my hubby got up to go to work. But part of that was she was really tired but wanted to spend time with daddy. He ended up putting her down for her nap before he left and she slept for almost 3 hours!!! We live in a town house and it's really small (can't afford a bigger place yet) I do have the living room gated off but we have electric base board heaters and she insists on playing with them. Also our computer is in here and she likes to pull all the cords out. I'm so afraid she's going to burn herself or get electrocuted. We cant move the computer, there is no where else to put it. My mom is coming up tomorrow so maybe we'll have another good day. thank you all for you support and advice!! |
| posted by Amanda on 01/07/2008 12:07 AM
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Hi Amanda,
Putting your daughter in day care now won't solve any problems. If you don't work it out then you will just have a rotten life because behaviour will just get worse as she gets older and learns what buttons to push to get her own way.
It sounds like your both lost so you should take control of your life now.
Create a daily schedule and spend a month getting into the habit.
Include feeding times, nap times, play times, reading times, designated play areas ect. even Mommy away times, That's what she is used too in day care and should receive even better at home.
Hoe this helps, let us know what's going on. |
| posted by Tina on 01/07/2008 07:36 AM
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| When Lexi was your daughters age I had her a box of toys.I had the TV on cartoons and I had her books out on the ground.If I needed to get on the pc Id bring her into the room w me and bring her toys.I have fences all in my house to where she can go and cant go.They like toys that talk to them and musical toys at that age.Eating,I made her chicken nuggets 1 veggie and 1 fruit.If your daughter doesnt like baby food anymore,give her mashed ppl food now.Introduce the sippee cup now.I use nupy.It has a soft top and looks sort of like a playtex top.Put juice or formula in it.As far as the tantrums go?Whose the boss?You have to raise your voice over hers and tell her no!Everytime she does it ;raise your voice, point your finger, and say No!She will get the message.I have noticed in daycares in the diff sections they let the kids run around at will if they are young like your daughter.Taking the attitude that your daughter doesnt want you gives her an attitude.Pick her up and love on her.Talk to her constantly.Read to her.Get down on the ground and crawl w her if she hasnt walked yet.Roll a ball to her.She just isnt use to you being there during the day w her.If she isnt taking a nap, I think its because shes not getting tired enough.Wear her out by playing w her.Then youll have 3 hrs to yourself.But please dont label her as a horrible child.You have to get to know your daughter again.They are so loving and playful at that age.They are lil sponges.Hope this helps. |
| posted by Lexi on 01/07/2008 11:35 AM
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| Amanda. I have to agree with Tina. I didn't start staying at home with my son until he was almost months old. He is 9 months old now and the whole time I was working he wasn't on any kind of schedule and he was a terror. Now he is on a pretty strict schedule and things go very well. He naps and eats the way he is supposed to and he also has "his" time when he plays on his own for 30 min. twice a day. I have my time to get things done. It was hard at first, alot of screaming and crying, but once we both got it down it was awesome. It was worth the hard parts. |
| posted by Sheila on 01/09/2008 03:52 PM
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