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| I recently started working from home. It was too much for me to work 40 hrs a week and take care of an 8 months old and my hubby. I've only been home two weeks now but my daughter has developed horrible seperation anxiety, i think. she won't go to anyone but me, sometimes she won't even go to my husband. If i try to hand her off to someone she clings on to me for dear life, and if i succeed and get her into someone elses arms she screams bloody murder. Now if i go over to a friend or family members house and i let katie play on the floor for about half hour she will let someone else pick her up, but not usually for very long. She still goes to daycare 2 days a week and today was one of her days. Usually she's leaping out of my arms to go to angie, but not today. today she wanted nothing to do with her and screamed her little head off. What is going on with her? Will this last a long time? HELP |
| Posted by Amanda on 12/26/2007 11:08 PM
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it probably is Separation Anxiety. My daughter is about the same age and we've been going through this for a bit as well.
It got worse in the days before her first tooth broke through. Daddy would try to help but she would just cry for me. After we passed that obstacle, the Separation Anxiety was still there, though not as extreme.
It still takes her about 3-4 days to warm up to Gma & Gpa every time we see them, which is about a 5-6 day visit each month! |
| posted by Bethany on 12/27/2007 12:04 AM
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| I have heard that once they understand the concept of object permanence, it makes seperation anxiety worse because they know when you are gone that you are still there and I guess don't understand why you are not with them. |
| posted by Amy H on 12/27/2007 02:57 AM
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My son is still going through separation anxiety. He had it along with stranger anxiety. Now he's 15 months old and is so much better with strangers but still extremely anxious when threatened with separating from me or his dad. It's worse with daddy, too.
But, we usually just let him deal with it on his terms and tell people (friends and family, especially) not to take it personally and just allow him to come to them if he wants to. It's been frustrating at times, but it's perfectly normal and a healthy part of their social/emotional development! |
| posted by Kelly on 01/02/2008 02:41 PM
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| Ive heard to always say goodbye and tell then you will be back (they will soon understand) and to make a quick get-a-way. prolonging the goodbyes will only make it worse... atleast this is what they said on a tv show i watched. |
| posted by Ali on 01/11/2008 01:36 PM
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| I've heard the same thing about not sneaking out. Tell them you are leaving and that you will be back. My son is 16mo and is going through this. If I tell him I'll be right back, he freaks out and starts screaming. My Mom was just visiting for a month. He refused to stay in a room with her even while I just showered. He screamed the whole time. The day before she left, he finally was happy as could be with her and didn't care if I left the room or not and was climbing up on her lap. Then of course she had to return home. We will have to start all over again next time I see her. Only advise I have is that they say to comfort them, and they are not just being spoiled, but really are afraid that you won't come back. Good luck. Hope it is a short lived phase. |
| posted by Charlene on 01/13/2008 09:28 AM
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