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| Ok here is the advice and please do not take this wrong cause I am know you are a wonderful mother BUT STOP SPOILING HER!!!!!!! Not only for you to get some sleep BUT you are really only hurting her in the long run. Put her bed in your OWN room and when its time for bed let her go even if its for hours it will only last a night or two until she realizes that these are the rules and its bed time. Sleeping with a child is the number one thing drs say NOT to do it sets you up for failure when trying to get a child to sleep. Also stop with the bottle at night. Children use that as a security they don't need it. I know its hard but if you are serious in wanting to get a good nights rest then I would HIGHLY advise you to take my advice :) Let me tell you I was there with my first child and I WILL NEVER EVER EVER EVER make the same mistakes again. He is now 2 and sleeps in his own room and NEVER cries when I put him to bed it took a couple of nights of hours of screaming and me crying myself to sleep but we are BOTH happy now :) |
| posted by Alisha on 12/05/2007 11:59 AM
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| Love your idea about everything but her own room.We use to have a 4 bedroom mobile in an elderly retirement mobile home park but we found a home in the country on acreage so we are buying it.We only have 3 bedrooms and the 2 girls already have a bunk bed in the small bedroom that is theres.My son has the other bedroom.We of course cant add on until spring here in Mich.No Id never get upset and take it the wrong way.I want advice and sleep lol! |
| posted by Lexi on 12/05/2007 12:33 PM
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| Well good I sometimes hate communicating online cause people can take things the wrong way :) I hope it works out for you I have been there and I know it is rough. If you can't give her a room then I wouldn't get up from your bed I know its going to be even harder on you with sleep or try maybe sleeping on the couch for a couple nights that may help :) |
| posted by Alisha on 12/05/2007 12:36 PM
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| Well good I sometimes hate communicating online cause people can take things the wrong way :) I hope it works out for you I have been there and I know it is rough. If you can't give her a room then I wouldn't get up from your bed I know its going to be even harder on you with sleep or try maybe sleeping on the couch for a couple nights that may help :) |
| posted by Alisha on 12/05/2007 12:37 PM
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I agree with stopping the bottle. Its not necessary and actually distracts her from going to sleep.
If the previous advice doesn't work, you could try cosleeping. I've done it with both of my sons. I don't agree that you can spoil a child when it comes to love and attention. My now 2-year-old son slept with us until he was almost 2. My almost 5-month-old sleeps with us. I have a "bed" made on the floor (like a small cot) for when the 2-year-old can't sleep. Very rarely does he sleep in our room (mainly if he's sick). They both have their own rooms, but prefer to be close to us. It may not be the most well liked idea, but we all get to sleep and sleep well.
I would also chart her sleep habits and attitudes. You may notice a pattern. Does she take one nap or two?
Savanah |
| posted by Savanah on 12/05/2007 01:12 PM
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| My hubby would freak if he came home and found her in bed w me.I am divorced and had a bad marriage the first time.(this 1 is a lil better)and my daughter who is now 9 slept w me til she was 5.I came to mich nearly 4 yrs ago and it took her 1 month to get use to sleeping on a bunkbed w her older step -sister.My goodness I never want to experience that again.I was so tired last night I nearly let her stay in my arms to sleep on the bed.The only thing that stopped me was the excess of cover I have on my bed.I didnt want her to suffocate under or in them.My neice lost her 5 month old that way.She was so tired from lack of sleep she let her 5 month old fall asleep w her and well.......Come spring we are gonna build on.Ill try and put her to sleep and sleep on my chase a few nights and see how that goes.No I came here to make friends and get advice.Ill never lose my temper if some 1 doesnt agree w me or tell me what I want to hear.We all have experiences and every one is different. |
| posted by Lexi on 12/05/2007 01:27 PM
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| I like you Lexi not many people have that outlook lol :) I was in a moms group and if you didn't agree with something a parent said you were no longer part of the group. It was really sad to see how it all worked. |
| posted by Alisha on 12/05/2007 01:36 PM
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| Ty Alisha.My 1 and only friend here in Mich.disagrees w me all the time.I think it makes for a better and closer relationship.I dont hang around w too many ppl cause I just dont have the time.My lil one takes all my time up.My friend has a special child; so she has always has alot going on in her life.Her other son isnt.She has to divide herself for the both of them and she works part time;so shes also busy alot.Thats why I got on the net and looked for groups to talk with and share with. |
| posted by Lexi on 12/05/2007 01:58 PM
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| LOL I know what you mean I am a military wife so we move sooo much so its hard to make and keep friends. I am in Colorado and I am from here so I have some friends but most of them are old friends before I was married and had kids so we have NOTHING in common anymore. They don't understand why I don't want to go to the bars anymore or why I go to bed at 10 lol. |
| posted by Alisha on 12/05/2007 02:02 PM
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| Omg!!!Whats a club w dinner and dancing and relaxation away from kids???In Texas we had several nice clubs to go to to get away maybe once every yr lol Like BillyBobs.Every one from everywhere visited that in Fort Worth.Even if I did have time for a night out(which we dont)There are no nice up and up clubs here in Muskegon.Wed have to go all the way to Grand Rapids.Thats too far away for comfort w me and the children.I bet that is hard to move alot.Hopefully this will be your last move.Well my new hubby's old friends ae all married w children but....they were all drinkers.Not your casual drinkers but everyday drinkers,cant live w/o a beer drinkers;thats why he divorced his first wife.She loved alcohol like we love our children;so thats why he doesnt have friends anymore.I am trying to get a Moms club going on here for my city but noone as yet has answered. |
| posted by Lexi on 12/05/2007 02:20 PM
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| LOL exactly!!! I was in a moms group for 2 years that was from ALL over the USA even one from AUS I loved the group but just recently it went downhill BAD. We even met up once a year it was so nice. It was a yahoo group and we all became very close until just recently something happend and it tore us all apart. |
| posted by Alisha on 12/05/2007 02:25 PM
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| Well my daughter has an obsession we'll call it w going poop and hiding while she does it then when she comes out from behind the chair she has it on her hands and says boop.She does this every day lol.Well you can imagine my horror!Ive tried to make her understand as well as she can yucky.nasty naughty but she does it again and again.She just did it and i of course have to rechange her and her clothes lol.I just can not break her of her habit.Any one have any ideas?Oh do yall like to read.I also joined the reading club online? |
| posted by Lexi on 12/05/2007 02:40 PM
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| Ok true story my mom said I had this problem and she made me pick it up with my bare hands and put it in the potty then of course she washed me good but she said I NEVER did it again. LOL I feel sorry for you there I hope my boys don't ever do it lol |
| posted by Alisha on 12/05/2007 02:42 PM
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| Well Im glad to have met you on this one.Its hard to find ppl to talk to when you need to confide /gripe /ask for advice and maybe to cry too nowadays.Yes I agree about when you are sick and putting Your children close to you.Thats How my 9 yr old started sleeping w me yrs ago.We all had pnemonia and ended up going to the hospital and when I brought her home i was afraid on top of her asthma shed stop breathing.But Id be afraid of suffocation if your lil one is sleeping w you at 5 months.My daughter was about the same age as lexi but i had a sheet w an electric blanket w a sheet.It was also a heated mattress cvrd waterbed.I made sure I didnt have anything thicker. |
| posted by Lexi on 12/05/2007 02:47 PM
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| Oh my ,that made me laugh.Were you lexis age?1.5? |
| posted by Lexi on 12/05/2007 02:48 PM
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| LOL I really don't know I know it was before my parents split and I was 3 then so sometime around there I will have to ask next time I talk to my mom. She likes to remind me of that story a lot though lol. |
| posted by Alisha on 12/05/2007 02:49 PM
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| Well its time for me to go to library It was nice meeting yall today. |
| posted by Lexi on 12/05/2007 03:41 PM
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